Big Problem :(

[CuriousDude123]

Hey everybody i have a very big problem and i would like you to give me some advices:

-So i've always been straight but now i'm feeling a bit curious about guys, i still like girls though. Due to my curiosity i looked for a meeting gay and bi guys webpage through the webcam. I wasn't showing my face but i accidentally showed it when i was talking to a guy and it was a guy from my school. He didn't show his face but he said like "Ohh so you are gay", I told him i was just a bit curious but he told me he didn't like my personallity, he also mentioned i did something bad to him so he was going to tell a friend of mine and to all my grade i was gay and show them a screenshot as a revenge.

I'm not gay and i don't know who's this guy but he at least knew me since he said my 2 last names and he knew a friend's name.
And i'm just curious and i don't know people to know about that yet since it
would make things in my life harder because you know there's not tolerant people and i will make people know when i'm sure about my likes. Since that moment i'm feeling a strange worry sensation and i don't know what to do :(

Help!!! and thx in advance D:

[micah21]

It's completely natural to have mixed feelings. Yes, it is possible to like both girls and guys. I know I did for a long time and I eventually came to accept that I'm gay. Try not to let this get to you. That boy has no proof that he saw you on cam. Besides, if he was on that site too, doesn't that mean he is also curious? By telling your friend he would also be admitting he was on that site. If you have any questions or wanna talk feel free to message me :)

[Fourth Dimension]

yeah dude if people say shit be like well he was on there too and why else would he be on it so hes is as much incriminated as you are for being there but i wouldnt worry about it too much forget what others say about you they just talk shit because they have no lives and are insecure about themselves

[CaliLax]

wow thats really scary. he could be bluffing, maybe... if not, find out who it was and talk to him. i cant imagine being in your situation 'yikes!'
good luck, and write on my wall or pm me if u want any help!

[Cicero]

Out of all honesty if it were me. I'd hire someone to kick his ass. I would threaten him saying if you do this then you will have him beaten up. Also, just to make it worst have him get beaten up first, then tell your school he's bullying you. Bulling has become illegal in my town. If you pay someone like $50 they will beat him up, but if you go to a private school you should pay someone like $150.

Make him fear doing that to you, if your popular use that against him and spread something on the Internet, also say that he copies your face on that picture just for revenge, if your popular they'll believe you over him especially if you made him mad about something. So if it gets to that point just say "he copied my face on that photo because he was mad that I ___________".

Good luck, and I feel really bad for you having to go through this!

Oh ya, and since you don't know who it is think of all the people you were a jerk to and then try to see if any of them look at you a lot then that should tell you.

[Lifeguard]

well I see your problem but I mean if he was on that same sight wouldn't that mean he is gay? I was in a similar situation 2 years ago when I got caught by a friend wankin on gay porn. He told people at my school, which really ruined my social rep but I lived though it. Just remember your never gonna see these people after high school ever again.

[Lego]

What if the other kid was onthe site cuz he was gay ? And buddy i've expetimented with a gay kid who wasnt my friend due to same circumstances. If you want to hear that story pm me. Not proud of it. But anyway just deny it. Id do the same thing if people approached me about my incident. Say "if you really know me, you know that's a lie and he has something against me so of course he's lying" don't sweat it and so what if people think something inside you know you're not gay so fuck what others think if they're dumb enough to believe it. Hope
This helps and good luck

[CarolinaDude]

Out of all honesty if it were me. I'd hire someone to kick his ass. I would threaten him saying if you do this then you will have him beaten up. Also, just to make it worst have him get beaten up first, then tell your school he's bullying you. Bulling has become illegal in my town. If you pay someone like $50 they will beat him up, but if you go to a private school you should pay someone like $150.

Make him fear doing that to you, if your popular use that against him and spread something on the Internet, also say that he copies your face on that picture just for revenge, if your popular they'll believe you over him especially if you made him mad about something. So if it gets to that point just say "he copied my face on that photo because he was mad that I ___________".

Good luck, and I feel really bad for you having to go through this!

Oh ya, and since you don't know who it is think of all the people you were a jerk to and then try to see if any of them look at you a lot then that should tell you.

Great answer, couldn't have said it much better myself. Not too sure about the kicking of his ass part, but that's up to you.

And of all people on that camming site, you stumbled upon someone that actually knew you??? That is some really bad luck. But, like everyone said, the guy was on the exact same site. Maybe he was scared that you could reveal him..? Seems like both of y'all have caught different forms of the same problem.

In the end, if the situation doesn't turn out in your favor, you can always tell an adult about harassment or whatever. If it's really bad, you might want to try moving schools, if that's possible.

In the long run, you're probably never going to see these people after high school anyway. Maybe if you focus on schoolwork and grades and become filthy rich you can rub it in their faces later. That's my plan of action for school drama.

I really wish you the best of luck. Remember, us VTers are here for you if you ever need someone to talk to.

[ImCoolBeans]

Moved to teen sexuality

Out of all honesty if it were me. I'd hire someone to kick his ass. I would threaten him saying if you do this then you will have him beaten up. Also, just to make it worst have him get beaten up first, then tell your school he's bullying you. Bulling has become illegal in my town. If you pay someone like $50 they will beat him up, but if you go to a private school you should pay someone like $150.

Make him fear doing that to you, if your popular use that against him and spread something on the Internet, also say that he copies your face on that picture just for revenge, if your popular they'll believe you over him especially if you made him mad about something. So if it gets to that point just say "he copied my face on that photo because he was mad that I ___________".

Good luck, and I feel really bad for you having to go through this!

Oh ya, and since you don't know who it is think of all the people you were a jerk to and then try to see if any of them look at you a lot then that should tell you.

Not only is this extremely childish, but it is horrible advice. If you go around fighting people because of your problems, it will only worsen them. Do not go and 'pay someone to kick his ass' and don't go off and start a fight. That is absolutely the wrong thing to do. About claiming it to be photoshopped - I'm sorry but if somebody made that statement to me, I would find it VERY hard to believe. Lying and fighting will only make you look like a jerk.

Be pleasant about it. If you actually find out who it was, try to apologize for whatever it was that you did to him; even if you don't see it to be wrong (it could help out your situation...) I think remaining calm and peaceful is your best bet. Being hostile will only make him feel like they're getting to you more and more, and may even lead them to tell/show more people.

Also, what was he doing on a gay/bisexual website if he is so straight himself? If you think about it, if this does get out - he will actually be in the same situation as you are because he happened to be on that website as well for the same purposes. So there is a possibility that he won't take action at all.

Another thing to consider: are you 100% sure that this isn't somebody trying to mess with you? I could easily see this being the case (some guy just trying to freak some kid out).

You shouldn't go on those gay webcam sites, they're all bad news. Not only is it technically illegal since you're a minor, but look where it has gotten you, a pretty sticky situation.

I sincerely wish you well with all of this. Let us know what happens, bud! Good luck.

[guacamole24]

Whoever this guy is, he is definitely a hypocrite, a jerk, and he has huge problems of his own if he has the time to print out a screenshot of you and show it to people. If he's going to tell somebody and you don't know who he is, you have to realize that this is based on his insecurities and hopefully people will see that instead of judging you.

Good luck!

[Salvi]

well if you dont mind you can just beat his ass...although thats not a good way to solve it i think. But if youre not gay then dont worry what other people think and i doubt he will tell but if he does just shrug it off and act as you've always acted.

[CuriousDude123]

Thank you all for the advices! I did something about it but the problem is still not fixed:


Ok so was upset and i did something about it:

I went to the webpage where he found me and as you have to create an account i made another one and i contacted him acting as another person. I tried to make him show his face without showing mine but it was impossible so i asked random guys to make a favor until 1 kind guy did it, he just added him and took 2 screenshots of his face and one of a tattoo he showed to him. The thing is i don't know this guy and my school is a private one so i can say i can recognize every person in it. Just in case i didn't recognize him i showed the pic of this guy saying he followed me on twitter and said he was from our school but they didnt recognize him either. Just to assure the guy i asked to take the screenshot didnt just send me a false one, i asked another one and it was eventually the same guy. I don't know what to do because as i said he knew my 2 last names and a name of a close friend. Yes, he can see that on facebook, but how come can he recognize my face and say my name instanly if i had never talked to him before or i didnt mention my name? Confusing huh? Please i need some more help.

BTW: I'm not going to meet somebody on internet EVER again D:

[CuriousDude123]

An advice to what's above would be nice D: ^
Btw since that happen i feel something weird on my stomach when i think of it and i think of it often, it feels so bad D: School starts in a week. Ok i'll wait for some responses c: