Bi or gay, and what to do about a friend

[Apollo.]

Right so I have been having a problem identifying my sexuality recently, I had came to a conclusion that I was gay but now I'm not sure. I'll tell you a little about myself, I am attracted to a few guys and attracted to a few girls but I have a friend:wub: who I dont get to see much (like 1-2 times a week) but we are very close when we are together were like inseperable and I have really strong feelings for him he is the only person that I feel I could go out with, spend a lifetime with. The only problem is I dont know if he's gay I would love to ask but would hate to ruin the friendship we have. ANyone know what this makes me like gay, bi? and also any advice for me with this friend like what to do, drop hints or just ask stuff like that?

Thanks for reading this and any help will be greatly appreciated either on replies to this thread or pm or even msn

[scottnesss]

what makes you gay or bi? nothing makes you, its just who you are, its a part of you.

the simple thing to do is to ask him straight out (ignore the terribly pun¬.¬)
but as we all know, nothing is simple. you could tell him that you think you are gay/bi and see what happens or try hinting at things, nothing to major but small hints or questions that could allude to sexuality etc.

i wish you best of luck and i hope i was of some help x

[Jupiter]

Well, if you still like other people... I mean.. and if you like females, you might be bisexual. so..

[wattado]

just ask wat sexuality your friend is and dont make it a big deal.

[Apollo.]

You see I'd love to ask but it would be a big deal regardless of whether I made it big, cause here asking a straight guy if there gay is like an insult. Also if I just slip it into conversation he will definitely just automatically say straight < it's what I would do

[Everyday Gamer]

If you like both boys and girls, you're probably bi. Although I have some gay friends who think some girls are attractive but being intimate with them makes them sick. XD

The way I got my friend to tell me he was bi was to tell him I was bi first. It seems like you've already told him your sexuality though. In which case he's not homophobic and asking him (with a few examples as to why you believe he may be gay/bi) probably won't insult him, or make him hate you. If he's close to you, then nothing should go wrong. :)

[Apollo.]

No I've not told him my sexuality! Sorry of my posts were misleading:/

[Everyday Gamer]

It's all good! You should try that though. If he doesn't seem homophobic (which it also doesn't seem like he is, or you probably wouldn't be having doubts about him) you should tell him about yourself :)

[Apollo.]

I'd really love to but I wouldn't want to risk the friendship even though I'm like 99.99999% sure he wouldn't mind I don't think I could take it if I lost him as a friend