i feel like a failure...

[bena3217]

i just feel like a disapointment to my father...i always make him made...i always do the opposite of what he says...but its not like i want to do it...sometimes things go wrong and ends up being the opposite of what he wanted...i always make him mad and i feel like a failure because i cant do what my sister did...and she always just does everything right and he always campares me to her...and i just feel im not good enough of a son to him...he always tell me how proud he is of what i do with my sports...but then it comes home then i just make him mad and just feel like he deserves a better son for all the effort he puts into us(me and my sisters) and i just want to be like a better son to him...but i just keep making him mad...i dont know what to do...he shits me out about everything and i cant handle it anymore...i just dont know what to do anymore...

[foof1]

My mom used to do that when I was little and they way I confronted it was to "fix" myself to please her. In many ways I regret doing that because now I'm afraid to do anything bad.

I do not suggest changing yourself, but only if you're father gets angry over things that are legitimate problems like leaving a mess in the kitchen or doing poorly in school because of a lack of focus.

[bena3217]

its just he gets mad at things...today he got mad at me because i dont know how the car polish looked and for a moment when he walked past me i thought he was going to hit me..he just shits on me for everything...even small stupid things...

[Stronger]

What other things does he get mad over? I'm a little lost a that the subject, but you should think of yourself as a failure, no one is perfect.

[oneDay]

Be yourself and ignore him. If you can't meet his expectations that is his problem, not yours. Don't let him get to you and let him see that. Listen, you know who you are and if you love and care about yourself you will not think of yourself as a failure but a blessing, because though you may not seem exceptional or perfect in your father 's eyes, you can still be a great son and a great brother, and I'm sure you are.