GAY or BI or NO LABELS AT ALL

[FoMo]

I'm curious, are there other guys on this site who believe in labels? I for one have come to the conclusion that I don't believe in labels and don't even like labels for that matter! xP

I'm just wondering what you guys think?

[senior.2013]

I dont think theyre necessairy. It has just become so common to label ourselves that it has stuck.

[FoMo]

Screw labels, people aren't grocery items. Like who you like.

I agree :3
And I love that analogy xD

[Jjac]

Screw labels, people aren't grocery items. Like who you like.

I agree with this statement

[csshively]

Hmm...not sure.

[qwertylover]

Whenever people ask whether I'm gay, I just say "I'm a person, not a tin of soup"

[spfreak]

People are people. And I don't think anyone should be judged on their sexual orientation at all.

[ImCoolBeans]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality.

This is a pretty interesting topic, I can see both sides of the logic in this, and they do both make sense. The typical labels (gay, bisexual, lesbian, asexual etc...) don't necessarily define who you are, but rather to help people and yourself understand who you are. Unfortunately labels can be offensive or stereotypical, and people tend to hide their true feelings because of that fact.

On the contrary, you are who you are and there really isn't any way around that. I am American, my name is Mike. Those are things about me that I am sure of, and when you are sure of your sexuality there is no question about it.

All in all I don't think that they are totally necessary, but they do have their place.

[Thanatos]

I don't like labels, but for the sake of helping others to at least get an idea of what I'm like, they're a necessary evil.

[WonderTastic]

Well im kinda were you.are im pan were I just love you for the person u areand not what you look like

[twotall]

i dont care for labels ppl label me and i just let it go and let them say what they want because im my own person

[Syvelocin]

I'm not a fan but I do use them all the time just to make things easier. No one has any questions when you tell them you're a lesbian. Well. I mean questions about what sex you date.

There's a reason we have language, to communicate efficiently. And that's why I use it. Thankfully we have a good amount of terms to use. It isn't like your choices are gay, bi, and straight.

[Love.Hate]

I dont mind them, its easier than explaining to others i guess.. A label doesnt define who a person is, i am who i am, label or not :)

I can see why people dont like them.. as its just another thing 'different' about you, and people stereotype and stigmatise for this... which is a shame, why judge a person on their sexuality.

[thecanjump]

I don't like to label but I just use one if someone asks.

[kidkizzet]

I don't like labels but I do use them because it's necessary sometimes.

[starbrite5]

I like labels as a personal thing. For some people, labels are very helpful when they're trying to figure out how they identify. I felt the need to put a name on what I felt initially, even if I don't necessarily feel that way now. It also is much simpler to just give a quick label than to explain your individual situation.

On the other hand, I think that in a perfect, equal, tolerant place, labels would naturally fall out of use. They just wouldn't be necessary. But that it not the world we live in; it's a far-off dream.

[Sleepwalking]

I don't like when people label themself something, whether its about sexuality or not.
Being straight/gay/bisexual doesn't define who you are, and it shouldn't. You are your own person.

[Smeagol]

Well, I feel compelled to label myself. It's just, I don't want people get confused. Because I am (yay me I figured it out!!!) a panromantic asexual, if I tell somebody, I have to make sure I tell them I am asexual. After all... I don't want people to think I am at all interested in their bodies or anything like that (my mind vomits a bit) and I want to be understood. If I don't tell people, they don't know, therefore, no label.

[starbrite5]

Well, I feel compelled to label myself. It's just, I don't want people get confused. Because I am (yay me I figured it out!!!) a panromantic asexual, if I tell somebody, I have to make sure I tell them I am asexual. After all... I don't want people to think I am at all interested in their bodies or anything like that (my mind vomits a bit) and I want to be understood. If I don't tell people, they don't know, therefore, no label.

I totally get you. I think my asexuality is probably the reason I felt such a strong need for a label. Because we may have relationships with people of different sexual orientations, people who often have different expectations, it's necessary to be able to give them a simple, "Here's why I don't want that." I'm only speaking for myself and my own experiences, but that's sort of how I interpreted your comment, I guess.

[Ceous98]

I feel that labels were made by people of lower than average intelligence in order to classify people into friends and faggots( please excuse the language)

[Electra Heart]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality.

This is a pretty interesting topic, I can see both sides of the logic in this, and they do both make sense. The typical labels (gay, bisexual, lesbian, asexual etc...) don't necessarily define who you are, but rather to help people and yourself understand who you are. Unfortunately labels can be offensive or stereotypical, and people tend to hide their true feelings because of that fact.

On the contrary, you are who you are and there really isn't any way around that. I am American, my name is Mike. Those are things about me that I am sure of, and when you are sure of your sexuality there is no question about it.

All in all I don't think that they are totally necessary, but they do have their place.

Basically this, they aren't always necessary, but they can be helpful.

[Abnormal]

I couldn't care less about labels, but I'm proud of the one I carry: BI.

[FoMo]

I've come to the realisation that whether someone you like is male or female they're still HUMAN BEINGS. If you like a man then you like a man, if you like a woman then you like a woman. A human being likes another human being. The both of them have a pair of legs, a pair of eyes, a pair of arms, a pair of hands, a pair of ears, a mouth, a nose, a face, a body. The only thing that's different is the genitalia. But what should that have to do with anything?!

Many people believe that God made them and I respect that but what comes to my mind is: if God "hates fags" then why would he make them in the first place? That's what I can't seem to understand.

This is why I don't consider myself a homosexual or bisexual because:

1) You are automatically reduced to a stereotype.
2) It is automatically the most prominent feature about yourself.
3) In society, it's what defines you, unfortunately.

I am me. I'm not part of some community. I have my own specific likes and dislikes. I have different tastes. I enjoy different hobbies. All these things and more make me different and this is the case for everyone one on this planet. I am my own person and no-one/nothing else.

[OregonStateDude]

I don't mind being labeled as gay, because I am gay. But I don't go around advertising it, and I am interested in other things besides boys.

[1_21Guns]

Labels don't define you, you define yourself.
People can stick as many on you as they want, your sexuality isn't who you are.
I'm bisexual and most people in my class were surprised when I told them, but when I explained my sexuality doesn't define me, so there's no need to shout it out, they understood.

[leafgreenangel]

i feel as though labels can do more damage to someone who is unsure... for example at school when i get asked if i'm gay or straight, i just smile and say straight, but what i'm thinking is there a third option like undecided... labels can be troublesome and if your not sure just say straight to keep people away from you... unless you want to tell the world who you are... i wish labels didn't matter, but in this superficial society they seem to be everything

[Erasmus]

there's no point to labels.

[starbrite5]

there's no point to labels.

I think it's a little hasty and presumptuous to say there's no point. As I said, labels helped my when I was confused and anxious about the possibility of being asexual. My sexual/romantic orientation is not me. It's not who I am. I obviously have many more interests and passions that are a far better definition of myself, and other people should respect that.

The important thing is to remember that I identify as a panromantic asexual for myself. I put a label on what I feel entirely for me. Hell, most people I know wouldn't have a clue what I was talking about if I said to them, "I'm a panromantic asexual." They would think I'd gone insane. I don't really care what other people think about my orientation unless I'm dating them.

So yeah. I think labels do have a point, just not the one that society has assigned them.

[Antagonist]

I don't like them, but we need them in order to know who we can date and who's who.

[Midland]

I personally think that the labels we give ourselves in some circumstances, are paradigms which limit ourselves. Yes they aid in explaining yourself to others, but can't you treat it on an individual basis. If I see a guy that is hot, I don't think shit, i just noticed him, am I gay. I don't need to justify my thoughts or spend days thinking about them, I accept them as a part of being who I am.