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Gummi
December 31st, 2011, 12:50 AM
So the other day I asked my girlfriend (over text) if she masturbated. Her response was not what I was hoping for.

I would have been fine if she just said no she hasn't yet, but thats not what she said. She said no and I asked her why and she said it was for people with no lives, and its gross and wierd, and she said that she knows that none of her friends do it (I pretty much know that at least one of her friends do). She also said she will never do it no matter what. I kept telling her that was fine, but shes probably going to eventually do it. She kept saying no she will never do that, its gross and wierd. I finally told her whatever she thinks or does/doesn't do is fine.

I never told her I masturbate, and she didn't ask because I think she knew I did because I was telling her facts about it like most teens do.

I thought I would be fine with this, but for some reason its kinda bothering me. I think its that she thinks its bad, and I don't want her to think its bad or wierd or gross. I don't care that she doesn't do it, its just how she looks at it.

Why am I not fine with this? and why do you think shes acting this way towards it?

She did just turn 13 a couple months ago, and she doesn't konw that pretty much all guys masturbate, so maybe shes just not at that stage yet?

Fruit_Tart.
December 31st, 2011, 12:58 AM
She's still at an age where she'll think and say what she wants out of ignorance. Once she starts realizing it's not so gross, then maybe she'll ease up on you a bit. Maybe she's just that person to think that masturbating is wrong, but if you want to be with her you're just going to have to accept that.

Most of the people I know masturbate and I talk to quite a bit of my lady friends about it and they tell me they do as well. Just give it some time and maybe she'll come around to it. :)

heykay
January 1st, 2012, 05:50 PM
Just wait. Her views will probably change in just a few months. ;D

Gummi
January 3rd, 2012, 07:10 PM
Just wait. Her views will probably change in just a few months. ;D

I hope so, and I think they will, but I'm not sure if she will tell me or not, but I hope she eventually learns that its not bad and all that stuff. Thanks for reading and helping.

Gordo
January 3rd, 2012, 10:39 PM
she'll change her mind when she understands that 100% of the guys she knows who are 14 or more are doing it at least 7 times a week. And that her girl friends are into it too.

Gummi
January 5th, 2012, 11:32 PM
she'll change her mind when she understands that 100% of the guys she knows who are 14 or more are doing it at least 7 times a week. And that her girl friends are into it too.

I know for almost a fact that some of her friends do it, but shes in denial about it. I bet if her friends told her she might try it and understand, but until then I'll just let her figure stuff out. Thanks for taking the time to read and respond :cool:

Frenchteen
January 6th, 2012, 08:38 AM
Don't worry girls don't do it as much as us guys. Maybe she just doesn't like it but it doesn't mean she can't admit you masturbate, it's normal for a teenage boy.

mcadams1992
January 6th, 2012, 09:28 AM
haha... sounds like me and my ex gf... i asked her the same thing and got the same exact response... i know not what i wanted to hear either it made me feel bad.. she went on an on about it too.. i was like look wtf is wrong with me thinking of you while im in the shower?... well i was with her for two years.. keep in mind at this time im 16-17 and shes 15-16... so it was really weird for me too... eventually she changed her mind about it.... it all comes with time dude.. just take it slow shes only 13.. women act differently when they age so not all women are like this bud.. my woman im with now well lets just say shes 100% different an im 19 now so idk if i was you i wouldnt worry about it bro.. hope i helped ya out some

Spook
January 6th, 2012, 10:20 AM
I don't think that it's a POSITIVE assumption to say that she just hasn't developed enough, or is in "that stage." When my boyfriend asked me if I did it once, I said "no" because I was embarassed. She could possibly be embarassed at your reaction to it; therefore she is not telling you. It is also possible that masturbation is a private subject for her; something she doesn't want to talk about with anybody. My advice is to not bring it up again or press her; and she will get up the courage in time; figure things out for herself. You don't want to make her feel pushed or embarassed, that will make her less likely to open up to you. Good luck!

Eclipsical
January 7th, 2012, 12:47 PM
she prolly does but thinks its embarrassing to admit it. don't worry about it.

DerBear
January 7th, 2012, 02:39 PM
Why did you have to force her into changing her ideas, just let her be if she finds it weird she finds it weird, how does this harm or effect you?