Once a cheat always a cheat?

[Love.Hate]

Would you ever get back with anyone if they had cheated on you with someone else? (when i say cheat, in this case its having sex with someone else)

Before it happened to me, i would have always said no.. once a cheat always a cheat. However, when you fall in love with them its a slightly different story and you dont know what to do. I dont want to think with my heart and not my head. So VT im asking for your advice, i dont want to make the wrong desicion. Would you ever let them back?

[Donkey]

If anyone betrayed me that way, no. No second chances. I would handle my own feelings internally and not be that sucka again. Once bitten, twice chewed.

[FullyAlive]

I think it would depend on the circumstances, when, where, who, alcohol levels etc. Whilst for me it would never be an automatic no, it would depend entirely on what happened and the type of person he is. Ask yourself if you can trust him again, if the answer is no then you already know that you shouldn't let him back. If you think that you will be able to trust him again, then maybe it's worth another go, a conversation is needed first tell him how much he hurt you and that this second chance is on the pretext that he would never do that again, see what his reaction is.

If you love him and think you can honestly trust him again, then maybe it's worth more than no, maybe he's worth a second chance.

:hug: :heart:

[Levy]

If I wasn't enough the first time, I won't be the second.

[Efflorescence]

I don't think that I will be able to forgive him very quickly. I wouldn't want to get hurt again...it's more a form of protection than anything else.

But you can also look at it from another perspective. If someone has cheated on me once and then he asks me to forgive him, then it's me he wants. He came back to me, he didn't stay with her so I think I would give him a second chance eventually.

[hungryryan]

honestly its up to you and how you feel about him! i was in a 3 year relationship, i left for my first deployment, yes its hard being away. i had said if your gunna cheat go ahead a break up with me, come to find out 8 months later i had one more month to go and i found out she cheated on me twice, trying for a third. i dont have respect for anyone who cheats, so id say no. but i believe wants a cheat always a cheat.

[kenoloor]

I don't give second chances, so no.

[Love.Hate]

Thankyou for all of your replies, i guess he didnt think i was good enough.. and im not sure if i want to be second best. Its good to get different perspectives on this, i really appreciate it <3

[Jupiter]

I would do it. But, hey, that's just me with my trust issues.

[Surferchic2362]

No. Stay way from dirtbag. He doesn't love you. If he did he wouldn't of cheated. The next time it could be with a friend. You can do better. You deserve better. Don't be one of those girls we see on TV who are cheated on, beaten up and still stick with the piece of shit. My dad cheated on my mother and it hurt. Don't go through with it leave him in the gutter. Sorry for being so forward. I hate cheaters.

[Jean Poutine]

I think everyone deserves a second chance. To err is human, et cetera and so on. I'd just make it very clear that there will be no third one.

[letluvbleedred]

No because i wouldn't be able to trust him. In a relationship for me there has to be trust. smh

[MalditoDia]

Nope i wouldnt get back with them because they could do it again my girl.

[botwa]

I think it always depends on situation.
Personally I'm almost sure that I won't forgive cheating and will leave a person. But who knows what I will do when I'm in love with him...
I guess it's possible to give a second chance when you love.

[Love.Hate]

Thankyou for all your replies <3

[anonymous53]

It's happened to me before, no I wouldn't get back with them. Sadly, once a cheat, always a cheat.

[Tamia]

Well, if I were to be like in love in love with this person then yeah.But it would take awhile to let them bac in my heart

[jtk339]

no they chose to betry you so why give them a 2nd chance

[packer797]

Ya I would get back with that person they did it in the past and they could have more expenence lol if u catch want I'm dropping down

[Gordo]

Not a fan of second chances cuz the other person should not want to cheat you. No need to explain that you'd give them another chance but that's it. They knew that the first time around and if they claim they didn't, they you deserve someone more worldly than that.

Cheating irks me. There are no excuses. Someone mentioned alcohol. That's junk. Don't blame the drink, or they were tempted. It's not like you won't meet someone else. Many fish in the sea.

Also note that op didn't use "he" as some people assumed.