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Cicero
December 23rd, 2011, 11:31 PM
So I'm going to a different school next school year. This school I'm going to is literally like the big people in the city. The school is known for two things: the rich kids and football. I'm really wanting to go to the school for Junior year in High School, but m worried I'll embarrass myself. I'm very shy and about 3 weeks into the school year people dislike me.

Im trying to get in shape so I can play a sport there (soccer or football) cause I know if I play one of those sports the girls will like me and the guys will like me and respect me. In a way I do have connections there. Because before some people I knew went to that school we were in the same class together, one of them being a football player and the other one (a girl I really like) a volleyball player. (I live in America so it's American football). But what can I do so that they help me out a little? We are friends on facebook but I wouldn't know how to ask for help.

I have always had a hard time making friends. I'm going to get help in 1 week. So the therapist will give me a lot of good tips.

If I join one of those sports (especially football) I'll Automatically become popular (that is if I'm alright-good at the sport). But I'm worried I'll make a fool of myself when I go their, because this school is a private school the richest of the richest in the city send their kids to (high school I'll be in 11th grade by that time).

First off: how can I practice being well liked at my current school? (my reputation is that people think I am gay because my voice is higher than the other guys, and because I don't participate in a sport (to late to join one now). But my current school can be a practice run for me before I go to the other school.

How can I assure myself I'll be good enough to at least play soccer? How can I practice (I have no friends to practice with and mum and dad are always busy) ?
How can I make friends now, or at least practice not being shy?

Desuetude
December 24th, 2011, 08:12 AM
I think just be yourself, if you go and try so hard to be a footballer or soccer player just to make the 'popular' people like you then it's not really worth it.
I understand that you don't want to be an outkast but real friends wouldn't want you to be someone your not. The fact that your voice is high shouldn't change anything and i'm sure once you are settled in a bit you will come out of the shy state and start to get to know people. You never know it could be completely different to what you think.
Hope i've helped but i'm pretty sure you've probably heard it all before :)

jockguy14
December 25th, 2011, 10:51 PM
I moved to a new school between my freshmen and sophomore years. It was difficult yea, I wasn't really myself the first six weeks. The first six weeks I was quiet because I didn't know anyone and I wasn't comfortable around anyone. But then I started getting to know people more and I was able to open up. At my old school I played basketball and I wasn't that good at all, but my mom made me play at my new school. I'm glad she did because although I quit before the season started it gave the chance to meet guys quicker and bond with them better.

So yea go out for a sport, it'll create friendships sooner. You'll be alright. Going to my new school was one of the best things to ever happen to me.

Oath
December 26th, 2011, 04:49 AM
Be yourself. You mentioned that going to a new school erases your reputation from your previous school. I absolutely agree. Take advantage of this. Start by getting to know people in your classes. If they shun you off, keep on moving. Try again with the next person. During lunch, try introducing yourself to people that you see often. What is the worst than can happen? They reject you? No problem, just keep on going. Don't try to change anything about yourself to please others. If others judge you, ignore it. You know who you are, that is all that matters at the end of the day.