Religion in Relationships

[somethingrandom]

So, i finally found an awesome girl who I can see myself spending a long time with. I don't know what it is, but our personalities somehow clicked, and we've really been into each other for a month or so by now.

There's just one problem... we're both Jewish, but she's much more religious than I am. I don't have a problem with it per se (i.e. she wants me to go to parties with all her Conservative friends), but I'm afraid that somehow there'll be some incredibly awkward moment and she'll dump me (eg. I'll be having dinner with her family and I won't know prayers by memory, or she'll be at dinner with mine and she won't know any of ours, or she'll realize at some point that I didn't have a brit milah, and that might be crazy awkward).

So what should I do? Especially if you have experience with this, please reply or pm me

[Jess]

talk to her and ask her if such a thing happens...what she will do.

[somethingrandom]

talk to her and ask her if such a thing happens...what she will do.

Idk, that would just feel bizarre if we were just starting dating. Like, I think that its something that would have to come up if we were to talk about it

[kenoloor]

Talk to her. Communicate. Have a conversation. It's only awkward if you make it awkward.

[Modus Operandi]

Tell her it's something you're concerned about and would like to get straight between the two of you. I think any sane girl would be able to respect that and have a reasonable discussion of the issue at hand.

[Donkey]

I doubt there's much expectation for you guys to know the same prayers. Just bring up how you feel about it and she won't expect anything that isnt gonna happen

[Azunite]

Hey, count yourself lucky. I'm Muslim and my girlfriend is Christian

[Efflorescence]

Hey, count yourself lucky. I'm Muslim and my girlfriend is Christian

Wow that's cool!!

OP, I think that it depends on how open-minded she is when it comes to different practices, beliefs etc. I think that in most cases, people having different religions or different perspectives on religion can have a good relationship if they respect opinions which are different than theirs.

The quicker you discuss it with her, the better.

[Jupiter]

if it is truely love, then she won't care about somethign as silly as not knowing all the jewish prayers.

[Eagle63]

Im jewish too, bro. Ive been in one relationship with a jewish girl, and her dad wanted to shoot me when I had dinner at her house because I didnt know the long version of the blessing of the wine.

Hit the torah, man. Study up. Just in case.

[somethingrandom]

I hate to sound like a douchebag, but talking to her is pretty obvious. The problem is that by the time I can talk to her about this sorta stuff (especially about my dick), we'll already be into a serious relationship. So any advice before I've gone that far?

[kenoloor]

I hate to sound like a douchebag, but talking to her is pretty obvious. The problem is that by the time I can talk to her about this sorta stuff (especially about my dick), we'll already be into a serious relationship. So any advice before I've gone that far?

You should be rethinking things if there is such a blatant lack of communication.

[somethingrandom]

You should be rethinking things if there is such a blatant lack of communication.

Ok, I think I suck at describing the problem. We haven't even started dating yet, but probably will really soon. I don't wanna get into a really serious relationship and then have something happen because of this, and I can't really talk about issues like these at the moment for fairly obvious reasons. Any advice??

[Gandalf]

An idea...
Just calmly explain that you may not have such a wide knowledge of your religion as those around you might, but show your interested in learning more.

Maybe you could even do some research online? Especially if there certain parts of your religion that you don't understand, but interest you

Just some ideas, hopefully they help.

[polkagurl]

be open , thats the best i can give you.... imma strong catholic but just be open to other beliefs whether it being conservative or liberal.

[kenoloor]

Ok, I think I suck at describing the problem. We haven't even started dating yet, but probably will really soon. I don't wanna get into a really serious relationship and then have something happen because of this, and I can't really talk about issues like these at the moment for fairly obvious reasons. Any advice??

Right...so talk to her before you get into a serious relationship.

[letluvbleedred]

Definitly talk to her. Maybe she can help fill in some of the gaps of in the religion stuff u dont know. Private tutoring lol ;P

[screamtobeheard]

At the risk of being repetitive:
You need to talk to her about it. Even if you've just started dating, it's important. If you want this relationship to go somewhere, you need to take every step possible ahead of time to make sure you don't run into any obstacles.

[botwa]

I'm not sure but I think that it seems to be a great problem just now. When you know each other better you can tell her about your worries and I guess she'll understand.