I don't know if I should masturbate

[mhough11]

I really like masturbating, but my faith doesn't like it. But I still really want to do it. Also, I want to masturbate with my friends, but when we talk about they make fun of it. How do I get them to masturbate with me? I am only 14 years old and I masturbate like to masturbate with porn, is that bad??? I also have a girlfriend and I'm afraid i'm going to get dumped because she thinks I'm a loser that I masturbate. What do I do? I NEED HELP!!

[Dolphus Raymond]

One by one, here:

I really like masturbating, but my faith doesn't like it. But I still really want to do it.

This is a personal choice. There are few faiths without a number of followers who consider masturbation OK. Outside of your faith, I can tell you it's quite healthy and safe. But what you believe is your individual choice.

If you want some pro-masturbation information from members of your faith, just tell me what it is and I'll get some.

Also, I want to masturbate with my friends, but when we talk about they make fun of it. How do I get them to masturbate with me?

I'm not comfortable with answering this. I think there is too much chance for secrets and regret, especially in your case. I'd attempt to control your urges.

I am only 14 years old and I masturbate like to masturbate with porn, is that bad???

Again, this is up to your individual system of beliefs. There is one potential for addiction here. Unless you are unable to achieve sexual gratification without it, I personally don't think it's a problem.

I also have a girlfriend that I really want to have sex with, but I don't think she's open to it. How to I express myself without getting dumped??? I NEED HELP!!

Well, sorry, but a few things tell me you probably aren't ready: 1) you're fourteen years old; 2) you're having trouble with masturbation, let alone premarital sex; and 3) you're afraid to communicate this to her.

I don't think you're ready. Wait a while. Let it happen organically.

[MoveAlong]

really like masturbating, but my faith doesn't like it. But I still really want to do it.
I'd keep masturbating. It feels good, and it's not hurting anyone, so just keep doing it. It's healthy! =]
Also, I want to masturbate with my friends, but when we talk about they make fun of it. How do I get them to masturbate with me?
Have a sleepover with one, con him into watching some porn, then lead him to masturbating with you (asking, just start doing it, daring him, asking how big he is etc), or just forget about it
I am only 14 years old and I masturbate like to masturbate with porn, is that bad???
No, it's completely normal among the general U.S. population (at least)
I also have a girlfriend that I really want to have sex with, but I don't think she's open to it. How to I express myself without getting dumped???
Ask her, tell her you care about her (I'm guessing you do) and that you want to take your relationship deeper, or say that you want to try sex. Although, 14 is kinda young and you may just need to forget about this too.

[Underground_Network]

I also have a girlfriend and I'm afraid i'm going to get dumped because she thinks I'm a loser that I masturbate. What do I do? I NEED HELP!!

To everything else I agree with what they've said (and I'm not saying they're advice to this was bad either, it was equally as good), but anyway, when you ask her, make it sound like you won't mind if she says no. What ever you do, don't try to pressure her into it, the results could be disastrous. Just say something like, Um, I was just wondering, are you interested in having sex? And if she says no, say something like, Oh its ok, you could even say that you're willing to wait, or w/e, just make it seem like shes in charge in terms of who is making the decision. Just be as careful as possible, don't say something stupid, and don't lose your cool if she says no. I hope this advice was hopeful, I'm a virgin so no guarantees :P

[countrygeek]

I agree 100% with what Dolphus Raymond said. I'd also add (to the part about your friends) that it is as much their choice to do it with you as it is for you to masturbate by yourself. If they don't want to, don't annoy them about it, because you're liabal to lose some friends.

I'd also stress the points on porn become an addictive unhealthy habit, and that premarital sex is not even close to the best idea, and, depending on religious status, a sin nonetheless (I, being a devout Christian teen, had to say that). Not to mention, depending on your state's law, it could be illegal (I guess some states say a minor is under 14, which you have outgrown).

But in the long run, it is your choice. I tend to have a strong opinion on this stuff that, in a way, over-powers my sexual desires, but if you want to and your girlfriend wants to, then go right ahead. I would just prefer to wait until I'm ready to have kids, which, no offense to you or anyone, I don't think most kids our age are capable of.

[kungfu77]

From my point of view, masturbation only becomes a problem if you are doing it so often that you hurt yourself (bruising or making yourself irritated) and/or you no longer desire a healthy sexual sharing with the person you love. In other words, it replaces the sexual act with your partner in life. If you are finding yourself preoccupied with masturbation and or the material that generally goes along with it then I would say you have an issue to deal with. Otherwise, you sound like a healthy guy to me who is concerned that what you do is OK with God. The fact you are concerned about sharing your sex life with the one for whom you love is something I wish there was more of these days.

However, saving yourself for your husband is about not being with any person other then your husband either before or after. While most would not admit it, masturbation is practiced even during the marriage. In fact, masturbation is one of the tools we have for saving ourselves for that special person with whom we will live and maintain our life with. So, my dear child of God, while many in the world may be shaky, fearful and guilt-ridden with an act that everyone does--there is no reason to be fearful, guilty or all that concerned, morally, ethically, or spiritually. But.. if you are
christian it is a sin to watch pornography

[mhough11]

Thanks guys,
I'm going to stop masturbating and watching porn all together
thanks for your help
I do need to wait

[MoveAlong]

From my point of view, masturbation only becomes a problem if you are doing it so often that you hurt yourself (bruising or making yourself irritated) and/or you no longer desire a healthy sexual sharing with the person you love.

Bruising will occur if you don't space masturbation sessions by at least 2 hours and masturbating +5 times daily!
Also, you're right, masturbation does happen in marriage...but masturbating wouldn't necessarily stop you altogether from sharing with a partner...
So I disagree with you =P no offense man