I put on a fake voice when talking to people? Is this normal?

[Cicero]

So this is very hard to explain but, with certain people my voice kinda goes higher. When i first wake up, my voiced is groggy and deep. But when I go to school and talk to teachers and adults, i make it so that it goes up. When I'm around guys and girls I try to make it low. Here's the thing though, when it goes low I feel like I sound lazy and boring. When it is high I can control it so that it can have more personality. What is this and do you ever do this?

When I do this i admit, I sound gay. But when I don't I sound very boring and I sound like I have no personality. (from my perspective) I video myself talking in my personality voice (gay sounding) and my deep voice (boring, not personality sounding) and I don't know. I was watching Dr. Phil (nothing else on) and it was about a guy having trouble with his wife, so they were talking and a subject came up about talking. So the guy said, well when I talk to a gay guy, I try to sound more masculine. But when I talk to my mom, I do a different voice. So that really caught my attention.

I don't know why I do this. I feel like when I'm about to talk to an adult, my voice goes on auto pilot and it sounds higher and what not.

What do I do about this? Have you ever done this? Why do I do this?

[Ace_of_Spades]

I do something like this, i'm loud and fun around my friends, but quiet and speak in more of a monotone around my family. I've been thinking about why i do it, 'cause it's pretty much involuntary, and i've come to the conclusion that i just feel more.. i guess embarrassed around my family, so i don't put much into my voice so they can't make fun of me. So, it might just be the people you're talking to that's making you do this. And i'm not so sure there's much that you can do about it, i mean you can try to stop, but it doesn't seem like it's too bad of a trait, so i wouldn't worry too much about it.

[Hermes]

I think there are two possible things going one here:

Dominant and submissive roles. The situations in which you choose to use your higher voice seem to be ones in which you are acknowledging someone else's authority and those where you adopt your deeper voice are ones where you are trying to establish yourself as either equal or superior to the people you are with. As far as I can tell this is fairly common.

When you talk close to the edge of your vocal range (in your case at the bottom) you won't have as much control as when you are taking in a more comfortable part of your range.

[TheMightyBruce]

Its all based on psychology and a bit of physiology. Of course your voice is going to be deep and groggy when you wake up because remember that your vocal chords are bands of muscle fibers. When you don't talk for awhile those muscles get a lil stiff and therefore thicker fibers will cause that deep and groggy sound. Around people you are comfortable with, you are more likely to go a bit higher than usual and sometimes a bit louder. With people you do not know, you tend to go a bit deeper...I also agree with the dominant and submissive idea Hermes pointed out. If you want to show dominance, you tend to go lower and when you submit to most authority figures, you go a bit higher.

[MrBojangles]

I'm the same around everyone honestly. I think you should just be yourself and not worry about what other people think. Make your own choices, and choose one or the other if you have too. Eventually you will have to choose one voice or the other. Hope I helped, Dan.

[Cicero]

Wow I never thought of that. Thanks!

[stuo]

Its all based on psychology and a bit of physiology. Of course your voice is going to be deep and groggy when you wake up because remember that your vocal chords are bands of muscle fibers. When you don't talk for awhile those muscles get a lil stiff and therefore thicker fibers will cause that deep and groggy sound. Around people you are comfortable with, you are more likely to go a bit higher than usual and sometimes a bit louder. With people you do not know, you tend to go a bit deeper...I also agree with the dominant and submissive idea Hermes pointed out. If you want to show dominance, you tend to go lower and when you submit to most authority figures, you go a bit higher.

Good answer lol

[antiabort]

I'm sort of like that.

[CarolinaDude]

I'm kinda like that. Before, I thought my voice was more reserved/modest and deep when around people at school or people/strangers in public and more outgoing around good friends or family members. I kinda thought it was directly related to my personality around each type.

I had a phase where I thought my voice was "gay-sounding" and it concerned me a little bit... but it stopped and now I don't pay attention anymore.

Now my voice seems to have evened out with any type of people (except waitresses - I'm always more quiet around waitresses).

[Dabigdtc]

i agree with the dominant and submissive idea

[casanova98]

its like that with basically everyone. in the morning ur voice has kinda unused and stuff so its low, but as the day goes on, it warms up and becomes a little higher. haha my choir teacher always talks to us about this

[hhhfiuashfosihdf]

I was the exact same as you, I would put on a low voice if I was talking to really manly boys but now my voice has broken there is no need

[TheDxevilboy]

My voice is naturally deep but it fluctuates at times, especially around some people. Like when I am with my best friend I sound like the gayest dude in the city but when with other people I sound like a machismo.