Who gets depressed

[jessica_13]

First of all i want to say im not staying, im not depressed or self harm, but my heart goes out to you guys, i didnt know who to ask, so why not a forum?

Basically theres a boy in my school and hes sooo cute, every girl i know thinks hes cute, and all girls basically do, around the halls he laughs a lot, by himself hes real quiet, but seems happy around others, he has these weird scars on his hand, (top of it) and i noticed another scab today in class, and i seen him with an eraser, i think he uses it to peel his skin off or something, dunno if he does it for fun or if somethings wrong with him, theres no scars/cuts on his arms, and friends brother knows him well, and she asked if his parents are together and he said yeah, and theres no problems at home, or nothing he knows about and theyve been friends forever, my question is , could the kid be depressed or what? i don't understand this whole thing, hes soo cute but instead of being one of hte jocks/people partying he just kind of minds his own business, and he doesnt ever go out really, around friends at school hes happy like i said, but if you ask him to go out on the weekends he will not, any ideas?

[bena3217]

some people are real happy around friends and are depressed...i personaly am one of those people...im always with my friends and soo happy around them...i get home and them extremly depressed...my friends found out and didnt believe me because of the way i was around them...my parents and my sisters also think nothing is wrong but on the inside om totaly heartbroken...mabye you should talk to him and ask whats up if he wants to talk about it...tell him you saw the stuff on this hand and if he wants to talk about it! dont force him to talk about it...and be gentle...my friends were really hard on me when they saw my cuts...ask him if he wants to talk bwt it...good luck :)

[jessica_13]

i just dont see how he could be, he doesnt get bullied or made fun of at our school at all, nobody makes fun of him

[Noxail]

First off, it's really good that you care, but just because someone's parents are together, and they're cute, it doesn't mean that they can't be depressed. And just because someone SH it doesn't mean their depressed. Things like this are VERY complex, and unless you know him very well, I wouldn't say anything.

[FullyAlive]

You could mention it to a school counsellor or teacher or something if you have a concern they'll discreetly check it out.

But as has been said there's no way for us to tell you if he's depressed or self harming. But just because things seem relatively happy for him something might still be wrong below the surface if you don't know him well it's best not to say anything he might feel confronted or threatened. As I suggested I would mention it to a trusted adult of some sort they'll look into it without mentioning your name.

[Mortal Coil]

You could mention it to a school counsellor or teacher or something if you have a concern they'll discreetly check it out.

But as has been said there's no way for us to tell you if he's depressed or self harming. But just because things seem relatively happy for him something might still be wrong below the surface if you don't know him well it's best not to say anything he might feel confronted or threatened. As I suggested I would mention it to a trusted adult of some sort they'll look into it without mentioning your name.

I know this would be done with the best intentions, but imagine how that would make him feel. If you cut, you'd know that it's just another way of coping, which happens to be taboo in society. How would you feel if someone told your deepest shame to an adult?
One of the best things you can do is give him a hug and tell him that you genuinely care about him. It will seem innocent enough, but if your suspicions are correct then it may stop him from crying for one night, cutting for one night.

[Sleepwalking]

I know this would be done with the best intentions, but imagine how that would make him feel. If you cut, you'd know that it's just another way of coping, which happens to be taboo in society. How would you feel if someone told your deepest shame to an adult?
One of the best things you can do is give him a hug and tell him that you genuinely care about him. It will seem innocent enough, but if your suspicions are correct then it may stop him from crying for one night, cutting for one night.

Well, OP said she saw them anyway, so if he truly cares about hiding them he'd be alot more careful. I'd be scared if anyone saw mine, so I'd take all precautions to make sure they're hidden. Maybe him talking to someone could help, but how would we know if thats what he even wanted?

To OP; Just because people may "seem" to have the perfect life, they may not always have one.

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