A year ago...

[sarah newman]

A long time since I last posted here.

Basically, recently I told my parents I was sexually assaulted and nearly raped a year ago. I only told them because I hinted at a teacher that something happened to me. My dad was supportive but said theres nothing that can be done and to move on. My mum was the complete opposite.

So I confided in my pastoral manager and he is there for me in school and I have a social worker and councillor outside of school. I also suffer from anxiety and depression, have a eating disorder and cut myself badly.

I have been holding my emotions in for a year and what he did to me... No one deserves that. Ive got all sorts of questions going through my head. Was it my fault? Did I lead him on? He said he had a surprise for me.

It's not fair he can still walk the streets spreading shit and acting like he's innocent. The reason I moved was to get away from him, I'm not going back. And now I have a court case because I was sexually groomed recently. I'm such a screw up. Thank god my first case is over- nothing went to court.

I can't deal with my emotions. The worlds a nasty place- would it get better if I wasn't in it?

[coolkid007]

I sorry for what has happened to you, but remember what goes around comes around those bad people who did things to you will pay for what they did eventually. Hang in their and don't worry soon things will get better.

[Amaryllis]

I remember that thread of yours - since the case is closed, have they come to a conclusion? Will he be punished?

Anyhow, sweetie, I know it hurts and you can't forget him. But you need to understand the you a year ago isn't the you now. We change every day and you and her are different. She was assaulted but not you. You need to move on and start afresh.

You're no longer naive and he can't use you anymore, because you know better. There is no point in holding on to the pain forever when it isn't going to help you one bit. It isn't your fault - you're the victim. Self-blame is unnecessary because there's nothing you should and can blame yourself for.

Let it go, Sarah. What's done is done. It happened, you're hurt, but it's time to move on and set this behind you. You're stronger than him and you don't even have to be a victim - be a survivor.

[sarah newman]

I sorry for what has happened to you, but remember what goes around comes around those bad people who did things to you will pay for what they did eventually. Hang in their and don't worry soon things will get better.

I hope he gets punished. Thank you I hope it gets better

[sarah newman]

I remember that thread of yours - since the case is closed, have they come to a conclusion? Will he be punished?

Anyhow, sweetie, I know it hurts and you can't forget him. But you need to understand the you a year ago isn't the you now. We change every day and you and her are different. She was assaulted but not you. You need to move on and start afresh.

You're no longer naive and he can't use you anymore, because you know better. There is no point in holding on to the pain forever when it isn't going to help you one bit. It isn't your fault - you're the victim. Self-blame is unnecessary because there's nothing you should and can blame yourself for.

Let it go, Sarah. What's done is done. It happened, you're hurt, but it's time to move on and set this behind you. You're stronger than him and you don't even have to be a victim - be a survivor.

There was no evidence for him to be punished but it will be on record if anyone else reports him.
I wish things would get better, it effected me badly and still does. My depression and anxiety is kicking in now and even though I have changed I'm not sure I can let it go that easily.

[Consumemysoul]

I will kill him for you?

[kryptonite]

A long time since I last posted here.

Basically, recently I told my parents I was sexually assaulted and nearly raped a year ago. I only told them because I hinted at a teacher that something happened to me. My dad was supportive but said theres nothing that can be done and to move on. My mum was the complete opposite.

So I confided in my pastoral manager and he is there for me in school and I have a social worker and councillor outside of school. I also suffer from anxiety and depression, have a eating disorder and cut myself badly.

I have been holding my emotions in for a year and what he did to me... No one deserves that. Ive got all sorts of questions going through my head. Was it my fault? Did I lead him on? He said he had a surprise for me.

It's not fair he can still walk the streets spreading shit and acting like he's innocent. The reason I moved was to get away from him, I'm not going back. And now I have a court case because I was sexually groomed recently. I'm such a screw up. Thank god my first case is over- nothing went to court.

I can't deal with my emotions. The worlds a nasty place- would it get better if I wasn't in it?



First of all, it is NOT your fault. I hate to say this, but your dad is wrong. If you know the name of who did it, I would heavily suggest contacting the police about it. The other person broke the law, plain and simple.

It may be extremely painful, but if you're willing to revisit that horrible incident, you may be able to have him go to jail, or at least he'll be forced to stop doing what he's doing. If he hurt you, he could have easily hurt other people.

You should also seek help for the eating disorder and cutting. Both of those are unhealthy, and you're doing yourself no good by doing those things.

You're not a screwup. You're a good person with a lot of potential. Don't hurt yourself. Good times are coming.

[sarah newman]

I contacted the police and they said it will be on record but there's no evidence and they are not prepared to put me through it. My parents didn't give consent either.
I'm trying to get help but dad thinks I don't need it.

[Consumemysoul]

In all honesty he should suffer for what he's done.

[sarah newman]

In all honesty he should suffer for what he's done.

I know and i hope he does