want to go to a mental hosptial??

[dreamer18xx]

I know it sounds insane...but I just i've been feeling really sad lately and I've been thinking about dying more often like everyday so far this week often. I havent cut myself in 3 months until today <--it wasnt bad but still. I already see a therapist and it helped me at first but not anymore...Im tired of living like this im not normal im always always anxious sometimes to the point where I literally cant breathe I shake almost all the time in social sittuations im claustraphobic and im always hurting myself somehow either by picking my scalp mostly to making myself vomit or not eating when im hungry(<--not an ED) or I cut myself and this all just makes me feel less normal in the end and I feel worse about everything my grades are dropping Im avoiding going to school alot lately when I actual do want to learn I just feel to nervous, home sick, really sad, but missing school makes me feel even worse and useless .I just want to get away from everything and feel normal. All this has been going on since I was like 13..im turning 17 soon feeling like sad or numb majority of the time makes me want to kill myself alottt. I have a plan to OD on pills and vodka if I get to the point where I cant handle it anymore either that or hang myself somehow...the whole thing scares me I might be over reacting but still I think i want to go to a mental hospital do you guys think its a bad idea??? I just dont know what else to do therapy isnt really working

[georgiamay]

If you live in the UK, you can't just go to a mental hospital and ask them to admit you, it doesn't work like that.

If you're already seeing a therapist, maybe it'd be better if you told them how you were feeling? Maybe tell them that you don't feel like therapy is working anymore. It might help if you see a different therapist, or maybe ask for a different kind of treatment? There are loads of different kinds of therapies, it might be worth trying another one to see if that's any better.

Idk what it's like where you live, but here people try and avoid being admitted to a hospital, doctors normally only do that if they think it's the only thing that will help.

I don't think it's a bad idea, but I do think it might not be necessary. What you're going through is horrible, I know, but it's probably worth trying different treatments before going into a hospital where you'll have your freedom taken away from you.

[FullyAlive]

If you walk into any A & E in England tell them you're suicidal and are planning to kill yourself then they'll give you a psychiatric assessment. It's this that will determine if there is grounds for your admittance. You could do that if you wished.

Or if you have enough money you could probably pay and go to a private mental health hospital regardless although I'm not entirely sure about that.

[Mirage]

Going to a mental hospital may be a good idea... at least tell them you are suicidal and hopefully they admit you. But like the other people said, you can't just walk in. You have to call them or something.

[dreamer18xx]

I live in NY so Im not really sure if its different but it may be?? Im pretty sure if you call a regular hospital that has a psychratic ward and told them your suicidal you basically do the whole form thing but you only stay there for 2 days the most seeing as they want you in and out of there fast so they get more people/money in their hospital...which is why I had more of a psychiatric hospital in mind where you stay there for like a week and they actually help you. I know to go to a psychiatric hospital or w.e they're called you have to call or basically attempt suicide and your hospital will admit you there but you have to be a "threat to yourself" which I kinda think I am...im not like insane or anything so I dont know if I should go? it kinda makes me nervous since I have no idea how to ask my parents but I dont think wanting to kill yourself for a week is exactly...normal that and cutting and starving yourself which I've been doing for a while

[Syvelocin]

I live in NY so Im not really sure if its different but it may be?? Im pretty sure if you call a regular hospital that has a psychratic ward and told them your suicidal you basically do the whole form thing but you only stay there for 2 days the most seeing as they want you in and out of there fast so they get more people/money in their hospital...which is why I had more of a psychiatric hospital in mind where you stay there for like a week and they actually help you. I know to go to a psychiatric hospital or w.e they're called you have to call or basically attempt suicide and your hospital will admit you there but you have to be a "threat to yourself" which I kinda think I am...im not like insane or anything so I dont know if I should go? it kinda makes me nervous since I have no idea how to ask my parents but I dont think wanting to kill yourself for a week is exactly...normal that and cutting and starving yourself which I've been doing for a while

Okay, so, there are a couple options. Like you said, hospital with a psych ward, which I wouldn't recommend. You have two pretty broad other types, long-term and short-term (specialized psych hospitals. Of course, you also have the options of inpatient and outpatient and even day inpatient, but you sound like you want inpatient). Long-term isn't as available to minors, but that's probably the best time to go as you at least have someone on the outside who can do a very, very tiny bit to get you out if you need to be. But otherwise, you can be stuck in there. Short-term is anywhere from the bare required minimum of 72 hours to a couple weeks. Rarely do they keep you more than a month. But of course, the doctors decide that. And unless they see change in you the only way to get out quickly is to bullshit your way out. I get so sick of being in there that's what I end up doing, saying "Yeah, sure, I had an epiphany, I'm cured!" And I'm back six to twelve months later.

Some people are brought to hospitals against their will in an ambulance, sure. Don't think you need to attempt suicide to get in though. Make a call to your hospital of choice and set up an assessment. During this assessment, they'll analyse you, your reasons for coming, what you seek from it, make you sign a thing that gives them permission to hospitalize you, and then they go off and talk with others or whatever the fuck they do while they make you wait and come back with either "We don't want to keep you" or a nice pretty plastic bracelet. I'd imagine it varies by facility, but most of the time they let me in with less than suicidal thoughts. I've only been there once when I confessed to suicidal thoughts. Though I think some of the times they were convinced I was suicidal, the others I was there for self-harm, anorexia, drug abuse (one of the hospitals I frequented was, luckily, o.O a psychiatric hospital and rehabilitation centre). I've seen people get in for minor anxiety disorders and anger management issues even.

Kay, enough with the information. DON'T FUCKING DO IT. Please? Unless you want to kill yourself at this very moment, unless it's the ONLY thing that could keep you on this planet, please DO NOT go to a psych hospital.

I'll keep it short and sweet and if you want more of my "lovely" experiences in psych hospitals you can just ask and I'll give you the entire thing but I swear, they're in the business of making you worse-off than you already were. If not all the staff, then some of them. I've met one genuinely helpful and caring counsellor. Out of so many nurses who were complete bitches and counsellors who actually told me to kill myself if I wanted to, counsellors who mistreated a girl who had literally days to live because her heart was failing, I could go on. Of course, some hospitals are worse than others. As well, just being in a hospital in general changes you. I can't really explain it accurately, but you're never the same person. Anyone who knew me the first time I was admitted and after so would tell you the same. Depending on the experience itself, it may not exactly be scarring, but it's traumatizing regardless of what happens. I don't know. I just know that I probably wouldn't be half as sick as I am if I hadn't been dragged kicking and screaming to hospitals all the fucking time. Like, you may be discharged, but you're still locked up long after you leave. And you may have even chosen the wrong hospital and something actually traumatizing in itself happens.

It's just an experience I really recommend skipping if you can. But if you want to go through it, I can give you any other information you need about it, so you know what you're getting yourself into.

[Magenta]

I have to agree with Rith here. She gave you the drill about how to get in, etc.

I don't want to talk you out of it if this is what you think will help. I'd think long and hard about the decision though. The first time I was admitted, I just wanted to see a psychiatrist. I thought I'd get an appointment and talk and that was it. I was dragged kicking and screaming into a psych ward in the middle of the night. The second time, I was picked up unexpectedly from school by my dad who said "get in the car, we're going to the hospital" because they decided to admit me.

There are many types of therapy that you could look into. Just phone a helpline and ask and they could suggest lots of things. It's true, I think, that once you go into the hospital, it's an experience that you hold onto. You've been in a mental hospital. That holds a lot of stigma... social or not.

Just my two cents but if you're not deterred by some of the horror stories, then go ahead. Personally, my second hospital experience was actually rather positive, however, they discharged me far before I was any different merely because they didn't have the space for me and I spent a lot of time believing that if even a hospital didn't want me, there was no hope for me. There are pros and cons, like anything else.

Just know that while a mental hospital is often a last resort, that doesn't make it a miracle cure. You need to work to get better, which a lot of inpatients are not ready to do. They're often put there against their will. You may not be placed because the initiative you're taking to get yourself help is often an indicator that you do not need to be kept as an inpatient. (At least, this is accurate in my experience.)

[dreamer18xx]

Okay first off thank you for the answers and im really sorry you guys had to go through all that it must have been really hard and scary so im sorry... I dont know how to explain this but I think I understand that its not the "best" places to go to I get its scary and those horror movies do freak me out and im not going to say I know what a mental hospital is like since I've never been to one but I did get lost in a pretty bad hospital once and ended up on the wrong floor...I think it was like the physchotic floor for older homeless people??? but most of the people staying there were scary some tall lady kept following me asking me where I got my cloths from saying that she liked my hair talking really fast as if she was going to cut my hair off and steal my cloths right then and there, you could hear some lady screaming and from somewhere down the hall for her mother, some lady kept coming out of her room and repeating her name and asking who I was, some where attatched to wheel chairs by strings that set off an alarm if anyone stood up, etc. and most of their mechanisms were off. It wasnt the nicest of hospitals but....I kinda get that a mental hospital isnt the best place...or at least thats the closest thing I can compare to one that was pretty bad. Im not all ready to go to one im petrified to even ask my parents. My dad deals with taking people to the hospital how are suicidal or hurt themselves whenever he comes home he always tells me he deals with "nut jobs" all day and how exhausting it is for him....do you know how hard that is to tell your dad your one of those "nut jobs" its reallyyy hard I could barely tell him I wanted to go to therapy last year. Im pretty sure i'll think about what you said about waiting and thinking about it all b/c I get your point that it can make some things worse in the long run....but I think Im getting a little worse since I woke up at 6 this morning feeling like I wanted to die right away then I started looking for iron pills in the medicine cabinet and had a mental breakdown and started crying so much that I feel reallyy numb right now.

[leafgreenangel]

i had a really hard summer. most days i wouldnt even leave my room. i was really depressed and thought of suicide to end the pain. when i finally asked my parents for therapy they were happy i decided to help myself. in my recovery i would write "Stay Strong" on my wrist. everyday i would look at my wrist an see this. i would write this everyday for about a month. One day i forgot to write it and i still felt "strong". all bad feelings eventually go away and sometimes you just need to "Stay Strong" during the hard times. Even if you decide to go to a psychiatric facility, as long as you believe it is part of your recovery do it

[ocdseeking]

I wish mental hospitals actually helped :(

[NotASpyingRent]

I really hate to bump this, but you can't blame the idea of being hospitalized on a few bad encounters. Not all hospitals are out to get money. Most are genuinely kind places that are trying day and night with all the effort possible to make lives better. If death or going to a hospital are the two options, I wouldn't think twice about going to a hospital. Yes, there are people with some strange illnesses or disorders possibly lurking around, but it really isn't that bad.

[Magenta]

Please don't bump old threads, especially if you know you're bumping one. :locked: