Not accepting help

[Love.Hate]

Is it bad that im refusing to be helped?

Its just i have had so many councellors, psychologists and psychiarists i dont see the point anymore.. they dont help me. They just judge me and give me shitty things to do that dont work.

I am doing well, 45 days without cutting.. best i have ever done.. i have done that off my own accord. I dont want to sound selfish.. but i have tried everything, except medication. Im always going to suffer with depression it seems, but im okay with that.. i can just about cope.

People are trying to force more help upon me, i have got yet another appointment on wednesday, but i dont want to go. I sound so selfish and horrid.. most people would accept it.. but im so angry about all my past experience with it i dont see why i should make the effort.. they dont seem to care anyway. If anything talking about my problems makes me worse and i come out even more depressed.. that place brings me down


/not quite sure what this was if im honest :/

[bena3217]

you dont sound selfish! there is nothing wrong with not wanting to go!! :) if you do better off without them its better that you stay away! and if they judge you...thats just wrong! i actually wish i was in your shoes...nobody cares about me to get me help! but its your choice if you want to go! :)

[Love.Hate]

you dont sound selfish! there is nothing wrong with not wanting to go!! :) if you do better off without them its better that you stay away! and if they judge you...thats just wrong! i actually wish i was in your shoes...nobody cares about me to get me help! but its your choice if you want to go! :)

Thankyou, you should go get help if you want it! It just doesnt work for me i guess, and yeah over here they are still rather judgemental suprisingly.. its like they persume im going to kill myself just because i hurt myself... annoying much.

[FullyAlive]

You aren't selfish, if you can do it without help then stay away. I know my counsellor would always bring me down, so if you're ok then don't feel bad about not wanting their help. But also don't forget that said you deserve more than just being able to cope..

[love is louder]

i know exactly what you mean i am up to my sixth person this year. you have got to ask yourself what your actually looking for when you see these people. for me its a diagnosis so having to go through all of them will inevitably be worth it for me.
it depends on what you want and whether the outcome will outweigh what your going through at the moment.
id rather suffer for a year or two and hopefully get something sorted for the rest of my life than the other way round. but then again if you want to take a break from it youve got the rest of your life to make your mind up.

[Love.Hate]

You aren't selfish, if you can do it without help then stay away. I know my counsellor would always bring me down, so if you're ok then don't feel bad about not wanting their help. But also don't forget that said you deserve more than just being able to cope..

thankyou, i know... but i dont think it will get better with their help anyway. So just being able to cope is okay for me. I still feel bad for turning help down.

i know exactly what you mean i am up to my sixth person this year. you have got to ask yourself what your actually looking for when you see these people. for me its a diagnosis so having to go through all of them will inevitably be worth it for me.
it depends on what you want and whether the outcome will outweigh what your going through at the moment.
id rather suffer for a year or two and hopefully get something sorted for the rest of my life than the other way round. but then again if you want to take a break from it youve got the rest of your life to make your mind up.

Thankyou, i guess your right. But i have that diagnosis of depression.. i just stuck it out for medication, but im not sure i want that now.. so i no longer see the point. However, i have a lifetime ahead of me.. so maybe it will be more for me when i am older? if i need it..


Thankyou for the replies :)

[Fiction]

Fran I think we all understand what you mean.

I know that my counsellor and all the help i've recieved has never helped me in the slightest. You don't sound selfish at all, you're just fed up of being let down over and over again.

Although I would still go. If there's just a chance it could help then maybe it's worth it?

[sarah newman]

I understand what you mean. Tbh I don't think you should have loads of people helping you because my social worker told me that she is trying to get me one councillor so that my problems aren't going round to everyone.
I've got an appointment on 5th January and I don't want to go. Of course it isn't strange that you don't want to go- your definitely not selfish either. And people shouldn't put pressure on you for more help- they probably just care about you. Maybe you should talk them about the pressure that they are putting you under but say you appreciate the gesture?
Hope this helps. Pm me if you wanna talk.
Also, well done for going 45 days without cutting. That's really good and must of taken a lot of courage to do that :)

[Love.Hate]

Fran I think we all understand what you mean.

I know that my counsellor and all the help i've recieved has never helped me in the slightest. You don't sound selfish at all, you're just fed up of being let down over and over again.

Although I would still go. If there's just a chance it could help then maybe it's worth it?

Your right, theres no point in wasting it again.. however i feel like its only going to let me down over and over again, so wasted effort on my part.

I understand what you mean. Tbh I don't think you should have loads of people helping you because my social worker told me that she is trying to get me one councillor so that my problems aren't going round to everyone.
I've got an appointment on 5th January and I don't want to go. Of course it isn't strange that you don't want to go- your definitely not selfish either. And people shouldn't put pressure on you for more help- they probably just care about you. Maybe you should talk them about the pressure that they are putting you under but say you appreciate the gesture?
Hope this helps. Pm me if you wanna talk.
Also, well done for going 45 days without cutting. That's really good and must of taken a lot of courage to do that :)

thankyou <3

People only put pressure on because they care, i know that.. however they still dont know when to stop. I have told them, but they never listen. I think im going to go and see if it helps, i dont feel much point but hey 5th time lucky right? lol oh dear.. i do hope its better than the rest of the stuff i've been too.

thankyou everyone for all the replies xxxx

[love is louder]

thankyou, i know... but i dont think it will get better with their help anyway. So just being able to cope is okay for me. I still feel bad for turning help down.



Thankyou, i guess your right. But i have that diagnosis of depression.. i just stuck it out for medication, but im not sure i want that now.. so i no longer see the point. However, i have a lifetime ahead of me.. so maybe it will be more for me when i am older? if i need it..


Remember You don't have to take what the doctors give you if you don't think its right for you. If you can hold out for something that works for you and that you are comfortable taking. Its your body and your decisions nobody should influence that. I'm on my fourth go at medication. It all depends on you. And yes if you can't be arsed with it now. You can pick it back up when ever you want. Nothings final.