What should I give her?

[TheAwkwardOutcast]

So, there's this very special and cute girl I like at school, for a couple of years I've had a crush on her, and just never had to nerve to tell her so.

I figured that Christmas would be a perfect way to try, first I thought about singing, quickly threw that away, even tough I love singing for myself, I'd cry a river if I'd have to sing for someone else. Then I thought about a little ring, a bracelet or a necklace.

She's 15 years old, she's an anime fan, she cares about hair and style in general.

So what I'd like you guy to do, is to show a picture of what you'd think she'll like. I know this is a speical kinda thig, but please help me out! I'm desperate!

[TheAwkwardOutcast]

*bump* christmas draws nearer and no ideas? :(

[kenoloor]

I'm not particularly a gift person. But I'd suggest not going overboard with a ring or something; that's overkill. Something that is meaningful, but not something that will sit on a desk and collect dust. The more you talk to her, the more you'll know what she likes and doesn't like, and that can help you in your decision.

[anonymous53]

Since she's an anime fan find her favorite Anime. I know that around here we have a store chain called FYE that you could buy a necklace at that relates to the anime she likes. Wouldn't be an overkill gift they sell usually for 17 USD

[TheAwkwardOutcast]

Sapphire, I was not going to buy the most expensive ring ever, but you may be right, maybe not.

Formido, good idea, but sadly it will take a long time to get a package over the Atlantic :(

[anonymous53]

Well, what I mean, is there is probably local stores that sell similar things, I'm just not familiar with chain stores around there. Shop around :) If there are stores similar to Hot Topic, Spencer's and FYE I can gurantee there will be some there.

[LuckyLuke]

Never. Never. Never. Never. Never. Never, ever buy jewelry for a girl you haven't been dating for awhile. Unless it's cheap $15 or less, do NOT do it. And don't buy cheaper jewelry (silver over poorer metals, fake gems, etc) to get it under $15. Cool, urban bracelets (made of wood, bone, rope, etc) aren't a bad idea and they're cheap enough not to be overkill. That said, if you read what I've written below and still want to get her a gift, think! Be creative and choose a gift that relates to her and her tastes. Jewelry may not be the best idea.

Doing this is trying WAY too hard and she can see it. It's coming off too hard without even asking her out yet- like using a butchers cleaver as a butter knife. Too much.

IF you're asking her out, never accompany it with gifts because..

1- If she denies you, you're holding physical proof that you've been denied. It will brew within you and become an awful feeling after you've put so much time and effort into it.

2- If she denies you, there's money and time wasted.

3- It may overwhelm her.

4- It's like exchanging an item for a date. She's benefiting from your company and giving a gift comes off as incentive.

Now, what I would do is very simple. Drop a card in her locker, send her a text, have a friend pass a note saying that you want to see her after school today/tomorrow. Tell her the time and place and ask her out there.

IF you don't know her very well, that calms off very.. "stalkerish" so, in that case, go directly up to her and introduce yourself. Start some small talk and ask. P.S.- If you don't know her that well, don't give her things.

[TheAwkwardOutcast]

I've known her for the past 8 and half years, so I wouldn't exactly say that I was a stranger, we've talked a lot too, I've got a pretty good idea of who she is, and that's the person I really like, I'm just not sure what actually I'm going to do? Maybe I'll try to confront one of her friends maybe.

Thanks for all the advice I've had so far, I'll definitely think about it.

[LuckyLuke]

Don't go through her friends because than it leaks down the grapevine and, well, it's never a good idea.

Your best route would be to puff out your chest and be a man, go up to her and ask. It's nowhere near easy but your confidence in doing it will be what sets her over the edge.

[Smeagol]

As a 14 year old female who likes anime and cares about hair and style (haha she and I might get along well anyway that was so off topic) I suggest that you ask her out before Christmas and then get her a Christmas present at Christmas time. And, for a gift.... does she like to DRAW anime or READ it? If she likes to draw it, colored pencils and a nice sketchbook are amazing. Or a fountain pen for darkening in the lines (but those are expensive... maybe for Valentine's day?). Or if she likes to read anime, ask her if she's read Death Note. Thats really good stuff lol. Or Bleach. But those are pretty well known, so she probs has read them. And yeah, you should ask her straight up. Most girls don't like having games played with them though we like playing games lol. Hope I helped!