marriage?

[melia_allen]

How long do you think you should be dating before getting married?

[Fiction]

I don't think there should be a set time resticition. As long as both people in the relationship are happy, who is someone else to tell them they've not been together long enough?

[melia_allen]

true but i mean like in my situation i am 17 and he is 22 and we know that we have to wait till i am 18...but like yeah

[Kansas]

Correct me if I'm wrong but can't you get married at 16 with parents permission?

[melia_allen]

lol i don't know if you can in North Dakota

[Fiction]

Well me and my boyfriend are planning to get married. He's 19 and i'm 16. We've been together 9 months, but we'd been together 5 months when we first seriously decided on it. So yeah... hope that helps? We won't be getting married until i'm 18 though.

[ifnf9we]

true but i mean like in my situation i am 17 and he is 22 and we know that we have to wait till i am 18...but like yeah

seems a little young to be getting married.

[1_21Guns]

I personally don't believe in marriage, however that's just me. Like Kathy said, nobodys to say that you have to be together for years to get married, but some may frown on it (particularly in younger people), because although at the moment something may feel eternal, there's a fairly good chance it won't be. Getting married at a young age or within a short space of time is just frowned upon, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with it or that anyone but the pair in the relationship can judge when the "right" time to get married is :)

[Jupiter]

my parents dated three months before they got married. she barely knew him...

[kenoloor]

I personally don't believe in marriage, however that's just me. Like Kathy said, nobodys to say that you have to be together for years to get married, but some may frown on it (particularly in younger people), because although at the moment something may feel eternal, there's a fairly good chance it won't be. Getting married at a young age or within a short space of time is just frowned upon, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with it or that anyone but the pair in the relationship can judge when the "right" time to get married is :)

Agree.

[melia_allen]

wow! thanks guys. seriously.

[alicegingle]

I don't think there should be a set time resticition. As long as both people in the relationship are happy

[melia_allen]

yeah..

[Jess]

No time restriction. as long as both people are happy with each other, I think if they marry even after a few months of dating....it's fine. it's different for everyone.....

[Nihilus]

Time matters....... I'd say 3-5 years before marriage. It's a huge commitment.

[Syvelocin]

I think it depends on the maturity level of both parties. Some people are just not old enough mentally to accurately judge whether they really want to spend the rest of their life with the person. But actual length of the relationship and physical age I don't think matters. As long as it isn't a month or a length of time that's ridiculous like that.

My parents had been together only six months. Ten years later, they're still the cutest couple and probably the most "together" I've ever seen of any of my friends' parents during the times we're currently in. But they're not married. Goes to show you though, I dated my ex two years and we lasted only months after the marriage. Well. I realized I was gay. But still.

[zombicupcake]

Over 4 years definitely (:

[melia_allen]

thanks guys

[anonymous53]

It really depends on the people. My parents had been dating for 7 years until my father had asked.

For me, it depends on the couple. There's not a set time restriction

[Ben4ever]

I plan to ask my girlfriend in April to marry me. I plan to have a long engagement though. I have been with her almost 2 years now.

[Eagle63]

i think it doesnt matter time wise, but the relationship needs to be tested first (big fight between the couple, long distance, etc.). definitelywait until ur 18, regardless of laws or parents' permission.

[melia_allen]

thanks guys!!

[Kaius]

I think it depends on you and whoever your with to be honest. My girlfriend and I have spoken about it but agreed it would be pointless to do it this early and it should be touched on properly in a few years. I don't see marriage as anything more than a piece of paper and a ring and i dont agree it should change your relationship in anyway but thats just me personally.

[melia_allen]

that is true... good way of looking at it :)