Porn in the relationship

[Dante]

If someone who is in a relationship watches porn behind thier significant others back, are they cheating?

* Some people feel that if their lover watches porn that it is a form of cheating.

[Octo22]

I don't think so at all.

It prevents us from being horn dogs and constantly wanting/needing sex. It's a release, nothing more..

Now if someone were to become obsessed with a certain porn star, and actually talk about them; Then the relationship would need an overview.

[Sapphire]

I would say no. It is merely an aid to help masturbation which they would do anyway.

[Underground_Network]

I don't really think it can "replace" sex, but I really don't see it as a form of cheating, unless your partner tells you he/she does not want you looking at porn, if he/she does not bring it up, I don't see anything wrong with it.

[Mannequin]

No, but id feel a tad bit of envy probably. lol

[Dante]

I think it becomes a problem when the person becomes addicted to it

[Ventrue]

The person watching is not in a relationship, nor having sex with, the porn actress(or actor) that they are watching. It's not cheating because thay are still being dedicated to their significant other. They just need to blow off some steam so they watch porn. I wouldn't consider it cheating anyway.

[MoveAlong]

No

[Dante]

ok, now what do you guys think if it goes to the level of cybersex. where guys are paying for women to do things on camera?

[MoveAlong]

ok, now what do you guys think if it goes to the level of cybersex. where guys are paying for women to do things on camera?

Just women? Pfft :P

Now that's where it gets bad, unless she supports it (maybe she's bi and likes to get in on it...)

[Break the Cage]

watching porn isnt cheating.

[bbychop]

watching porn is not cheating or else half the guys i have dated, i have cheated on. porn keeps you from actually being sexually intimate, which as a teen may be the best thing but honestly i have no room to talk, and that could effect the relationship but i do not see it as cheating.

now, paying the people to do sexual things for them on webcam or recording it, i see as cheating unless it is with your partner but i do not think that was the real source of the question. it all depends on the person's views and values and if they are comfortable.

(they had something like this on tyra not too many minutes ago...)

[Sapphire]

Cyber sex is not necessarily when someone is paying the other one. More often than not it is done over an IM and not necessarily with web cam.
I still don't view it as cheating, though others do. Again, I see it as an aid to masturbation...It's better than actually sleeping with other people by any means.

[Dante]

(they had something like this on tyra not too many minutes ago...)

Yea I know, it inspired me to make this thread.