Help!

[Everthehopeful]

I've been arguing with my family a lot recently. I argue with my brother who is eight years old because he annoys me. I argue with my mother because when I compare my life to my friends, I see her as old fashioned! And I'm just too similar to my step-father in personality so we clash a lot. But the problem is not my step-father, we have a great time together and only clash occasionally

[Harley Quinn]

Learn to control yourself before you even contemplate an argument, you'll probably find that what you're arguing about it pointless and didn't even need to happen. I used to be a lot like that till I realised I didn't move the fuck on and get on with my own life. Just arguing because someone annoys you, especially an 8 year old is quite bluntly fucking stupid. Just keep yourself to yourself and you'll not argue.

[kenoloor]

Learn to control yourself before you even contemplate an argument, you'll probably find that what you're arguing about it pointless and didn't even need to happen. I used to be a lot like that till I realised I didn't move the fuck on and get on with my own life. Just arguing because someone annoys you, especially an 8 year old is quite bluntly fucking stupid. Just keep yourself to yourself and you'll not argue.

Agree with Siobhan. Pick your battles.

[Slytherin_Prince]

I'm not going to be as blunt as the previous comments, but I have to admit, there is truth to the both of them.
Arguing just because one annoys you is a bit trivial.
Just let it rest, and be the bigger person and ignore it.
Things'll solve themselves soon enough, I'm sure :)

Most sincerely,
Robert.

[botwa]

yeah and then the whole world will annoy you and you will fight with everything. you know this attitude is just stupid. arguing is not a solution at all, sounds like you think that you're smarter then all of them altogether and just better.
you need to realise who you are and what you are and your position in the society. with a clear point of view.

[Everthehopeful]

Thanks. But he's not my main problem and when I argue with him, it makes me feel stupid afterwards because I love him (My lil bro anyway). But if you met my mother, she'd say that half the things she does for me are 'because she says so.' It's my parents I arge with the most. I love them and I hate arguing with them. Last night I went to sleep crying because I had an argument (again) with my mother which sparked something similar with my step-dad. I understand the other comments because I've understood what the heck I was arguing about was so stupid with my brother. Mum doesn't annoy me usually because she was my age about fifteen years ago and usually understands. But lately, what with my GCSE resit and final exams around the corner, she just really seems to get in my way. And when I argue with her, my step-father (who I have changed my mind about, by the way. He can be really scary!) starts shouting at me. He's a big man (but a teddy bear at times) and seems to feel that when I argue with Mum that he needs to jump in and defend her. What I really want to do is explain that I can't afford to nor do I even want to argue with them anymore. Any tips?

[Everthehopeful]

yeah and then the whole world will annoy you and you will fight with everything. you know this attitude is just stupid. arguing is not a solution at all, sounds like you think that you're smarter then all of them altogether and just better.
you need to realise who you are and what you are and your position in the society. with a clear point of view.

Thanks, by the way. I grew up on the bread line before she met my step-father- even when we lived with my father. I guess I want to do something better in my life then live on a crappy council estate. I know I'm not smarter than them but I don't want to be like them.

[Harley Quinn]

Thanks. But he's not my main problem and when I argue with him, it makes me feel stupid afterwards because I love him (My lil bro anyway). But if you met my mother, she'd say that half the things she does for me are 'because she says so.' It's my parents I arge with the most. I love them and I hate arguing with them. Last night I went to sleep crying because I had an argument (again) with my mother which sparked something similar with my step-dad. I understand the other comments because I've understood what the heck I was arguing about was so stupid with my brother. Mum doesn't annoy me usually because she was my age about fifteen years ago and usually understands. But lately, what with my GCSE resit and final exams around the corner, she just really seems to get in my way. And when I argue with her, my step-father (who I have changed my mind about, by the way. He can be really scary!) starts shouting at me. He's a big man (but a teddy bear at times) and seems to feel that when I argue with Mum that he needs to jump in and defend her. What I really want to do is explain that I can't afford to nor do I even want to argue with them anymore. Any tips?

With me when I was doing my GCSE's I told my parents that I needed to have space alone, in quiet because it would be the only way I would pass. I had to resit too. I'd tell your mother that she needs to back off and let you do what you need to do, otherwise you won't get very far. Your step-father feels that way because as he's with her, he feels the need to protect her, and if your mother doesn't tell him it's fine, go away, he'll keep doing it. Like I said before, keep yourself to yourself and if an arguement does arise, back down and walk away. Yes you may feel that's you not standing up for yourself, but in the long run it's a lot better.