isnt it rude to say someone does nothing??

[dreamer18xx]

I dont know to me its like saying someone is a waste of space or not good enough. This morning my mom said it to me and i got really offended I was getting ready and she asked me where i was going? so I said I just want to look nice instead of staying in my pajamas the whole day then she went on about how thats great I should get ready and look nice so I can just enjoy sitting home and doing nothing the whole day so while she goes out looking disguisting <---her words btw not mine. I was originally going to go with her but when she asked me "where I was going" she was acting sarcastic like she wanted to get into a argument with me if i said I was actually going with her so I knew she didnt want me to go. But still whenever my parents say I do nothing it makes me upset I know its stupid but I have really bad social anxiety so its hard for me to interact with others not to mention awqward I've been getting better recentally with it and the depresssion like im trying I joined track which pretty much takes up most of my day I get home at 6 everyday after school and I have to go on sundays too and sure its awqward for me and I feel really really uncomfotable being around so many people but im trying the fact that she says I do nothing all the time whenever she's stressed out or in a bad mood just makes me feel like im not doing good enough. sorry if i sound like a brat here but if someone says you do nothing all the time isnt that kinda offensive?

[Manga]

You aren't "doing nothing". You do lots of stuff at home I am sure like forum browsing, ect. So you can use that as an argument point.

Just tell them to stop saying you are doing nothing because it is not your fault and explain the anxiety you receive from being social. If they don't stop then you should really just start to ignore them as they are not being fair to you.

Oh and about the title of the thread, it matters how they put it. The way your parents were speaking to use was very rude. However if you were working on a project as a group and you talked the whole time, doing nothing to contribute, the phrase "she did nothing" would be totally true.

[Anselmo]

If you're literally doing nothing, there is no reason to be upset, during holidays, i only sleep and eat and my parents tell me that all the time, as an incentive to get up and go out enjoy the day instead of rest...
Go out at night more often, and if it's legal in the place where you live to drink, drink, but just enough to loosen up, you will see that it will be more easy to interact with other people ;)

[Ambrosia]

I'm sure she means you don't help out around the house. A child who sits in their room, playing on the computer all day, can really anger a parent. Perhaps try cleaning the house while they are gone next time.

[dreamer18xx]

I dont really have enough time to go out at night which stinks but I usually just do h.w,shower,eat dinner, talk to my family for a bit or w.e (i know not really eventful) and you have to be 21 to drink here and my parents are really firm about that fact but out of curosity I did try some wine and vodka once when no one was around and I noticed it does make me more carfree in a way and less tense but still not somthing I want to get in the habit of doing you know...and as for helping out around the house its not like I never do anything I sweep, do the dishes,laundry, clean the bathrooms etc. not all at once thats a little hectic in one day lol but I do help out. But even so thats not good enough for her like i'll do 2 loads of laundry and dishes and then she'll complain about how the house is dusty or the floors should've been swept somthing always isnt clean enough. It makes me angry that and it was the begining of the day when she told me "i do nothing" like im sorry but im not going to hop out of bed and immediatly start to clean I want to have coffee and get ready first plus even when everythings completely clean she'll say "I do nothing" so I dont think its b/c of that??

[Manga]

If she can't appreciate what you do now, I suggest you do nothing to help her.
It will help further raise up the topic of how you feel when she says things like that.

[Anselmo]

I sweep, do the dishes,laundry, clean the bathrooms etc. not all at once thats a little hectic in one day lol but I do help out. But even so thats not good enough for her

if i ever do that in my house i will be a saint to my mom. i have no idea why you mom complain about all that...
just like Manga said, stop doing it, until she value you for your work.

When you travel away from home, try to make new friends there, if you screw up no one will ever know, and if you're sucessful there, great, that means that you are a little bit less socially anxious

[Slytherin_Prince]

I am praying for you, that Jesus Christ will restore your relation with your family and help you with your anxiety, in Jesus Christ's name I pray, AMEN!

Oh yes, I'm sure that a long dead man, if he ever lived at all, would help here. I thought the religious fanatics usually waited until christmas before they started bothering people. Hm, I guess they came early this year.
If you have nothing helpful to say, keep it to yourself.

As to the issue at hand,

Aside from the fact that you can't really do "nothing", I also think she meant that she wanted you to do more around the house. Like cleaning, as has already been used as an example. So I wouldn't say that telling someone they're doing nothing is offensive or rude, I would say it's simply a passive-aggressive way of implying that one wants you to do more around the house, or anything else that applies at that.

Most sincerely,
Robert.

[Ambrosia]

Oh yes, I'm sure that a long dead man, if he ever lived at all, would help here. I thought the religious fanatics usually waited until christmas before they started bothering people. Hm, I guess they came early this year.
If you have nothing helpful to say, keep it to yourself.

If you have nothing nice to say, don't say it at all. Keep it nice, and lets not bash the conservative Christians. Concentrate on the problem at hand: The OP's Question

[Anselmo]

If you have nothing nice to say, don't say it at all. Keep it nice, and lets not bash the conservative Christians. Concentrate on the problem at hand: The OP's Question

I think that if Jonte95 can talk about what he belives, Slytherin_Prince should also be able to talk about what he thinks...
As a christian, what Slytherin_Prince is a bit disrespectful, but still he should say what he belive, or not

[Ambrosia]

I think that if Jonte95 can talk about what he belives, Slytherin_Prince should also be able to talk about what he thinks...
As a christian, what Slytherin_Prince is a bit disrespectful, but still he should say what he belive, or not

He can speak his mind all he wants, but not in this thread. This thread is for the OP, not for Christian Bashing.

So as I said, keep it on topic, to you as well. This thread is no place to argue over the rules.

[dreamer18xx]

lol all religious matters aside thanks for the advice/answers everyone and i'll try to help my mom out more around the house I guess :)