Well, Fuck.

[kenoloor]

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[Njathind]

At the end of the day no one can tell you what to do but they can offer advice. It sounds like you had a rough time with your first GF, and she has ruined any trust that you would have otherwise had with any future girlfriends.

Remeber though that not all people are the same, the fact that you did not have any emotional barriers may not have been such a good thing. I used to be like that as a child, I would cry whenever and wherever and I got nothing but bullied for it by friends and family. So I put up walls around me and never let out an emmotion which led to some seriouse mental issues later in life.

I think you need to try and let down some of your barriers, cry and smile when you need to but only when appropriate, it may not always be a good thing to cry infront of people, sometimes its better to go away and let out your emotions in a healthy way.

I think if you like this girl you should give her a chance, but dont let yourself be open and raw with your emotions. Like I say sometimes its better to cry or smile etcetera in private.

[Amaryllis]

Honey, it's very, very difficult to be happy or even get through life when you refuse to allow yourself the simple joys relationships bring. Yes, they do hurt somewhat when they end, some more than most, but do you really want to live the rest of your life emotionless, apathetic and uncaring of anyone?

Losing loved ones is difficult, yes. But life is about change. We're all in a river and it twists and turns, hurt comes when we try to swim in a straight line - it goes against the currents and the natural shape of things.

This sounds corny, but: Go with the flow. Maybe you'll stay with her for a long, long time. Maybe you won't. Believe me, I know how it feels to loose someone you believe you'll stay with forever. I just remember the nights I've slashed at my arm over special someones. But no one is worth the absolute absurdity of ruining yourself. It's like saying "Yeah, you got me. You won."

You fell back a bit, continue to recover. Let attachments -help- you, not destroy. When one relationship ends, cry and scream for a while then let it go. You'll find happiness in another.