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DarkNick
December 5th, 2011, 04:49 PM
I just can't figure it out!
I wank always watching gay porn,I've been in crush with another guy blablablablabla BUT! When I watch other guys out I don't have any attraction towards them (with few exceptions!)!! I won't check a guy that much but if I do and I see things like abs etc I'll get turned on. On the other hand I can keep staring in a woman's ass or breasts (and the same time like it :P ) for hours but just that. I've feel in love with girls in the past and now I think that I'm in love with a girl that I know again, still this frustation makes me feel so scared to flirt or whatever...I've never been in a date neither kissing a girl (though when I see some girls I want to kiss them but you know just a brain temptation), or a boy (It seems a bit discusting to kiss most of them to me ''no offence of course'').That thing goes on for many years now (during my puberty phase - I don't have any other love past since I was many years in Hospital and I ''didn't'' have a life).
I'm so desperate and since I can't talk to anyone I play it I'm cool etc while I'm NOT and that makes me feel terrible!!!!!!! :eek: :(

SamB
December 6th, 2011, 02:21 PM
Just give it time :) eventually it will all become clear to you.

To me it sounds as if you are bisexual, however your sexuality is something that you need to discover yourself and not from what others tell you and say.

But if you ever need help with anything you can always message me I will be happy to help :)

Lights
December 6th, 2011, 03:05 PM
Don't feel rushed to label yourself, that's my key advice to you.

It's all good and well to label yourself, but it only works if you really have great understanding of who you are and your preferences. In a position like yours, it really just doesn't seem right to try and call you anything. I think as Sam said above, eventually things will start to become clear to you. Your sexuality, preferences and feelings are things you really can't deny, so when you do understand them, you'll actually probably feel quite comfortable with them. Some boys, like I did, go through a stage of saying they're bisexual because they're scared that they are potentially a gay individual. There would be no issues like this if it wasn't for society placing such a heavy stigma on being gay, or bisexual or transgendered etc. But anyway, once I finally had the mental maturity to actually think to myself "you know what... I don't actually girls in that way, but I do like boys in that way", I became a far more open person. When I was able to say that, I was then at a stage where I was comfortable with who I was.

I might have rambled a little bit there, but the general point I'm making is that there will come a time (most likely in your teenage years, but not necessarily) when you're able to accept yourself for who you are, and you'll actually be happy. None of this may apply to you though, since some of the stuff you have described sounds merely like curiosity rather than actual attraction, so you could end up finding you're straight and that you just had a few raging hormones because of puberty.
I think this situation for you will probably just be a case of 'only time will tell'. So, don't be too quick to label yourself - just take things easy, and gradually as you grow up you'll start discovering who you are. :)

lydia.ann00
December 6th, 2011, 07:33 PM
I agree, don't do the label thing. I started to do the bi thing because my first bf wanted sex n I didn't at the time. A gf got me into being bi and it is soooo nice. But in the end I want a bf and have sex, but when I'm ready an in a nice relationship