help with girls

[bena3217]

okay...i have a problem..the fear of talking to girls...well its tat first time you talk to her...and like always when i walk past a girl she ignores me...and like that really brings my convidice low...so i need advice plz

[ImCoolBeans]

Puberty For Boys -> Relationships & Dating

[LittleMiss]

I think naturally we all get scared to talk to other people; especially ones we barely know or havent often talked too.

The only advice I can really give is try and be confident in yourself. Dont mutter or mumble. Try not to stare at your feet or a wall somewhere. Try and make eye contact- but not stare, remember to blink.. :D Speak clearly and expose positive body language. Smile, even if you are a bit nervous and if they seem nervous too- try and lighten the mood a bit. Usually if you are scared to approach someone you'll put it off and sometimes if they arent very confident its also a tad difficult to hold a conversation (no offense or anything- im not the most confident person in the world.. You should have seen me today during our public speaking assessment. ugh. ~.~)

Sorry I cant give much advice, the only other thing I could say is dont try and over-analyse everything. Try not to be overly negative about variables. I used to be scared and paranoid when walking past others but I have the tendency to not let it bother me. If they stare at you, so what? If they ignore you, then they arent worth knowing the real you.. (or they are also quite scared of other people.. o.o)

[Ben4ever]

I think naturally we all get scared to talk to other people; especially ones we barely know or havent often talked too.

The only advice I can really give is try and be confident in yourself. Dont mutter or mumble. Try not to stare at your feet or a wall somewhere. Try and make eye contact- but not stare, remember to blink.. :D Speak clearly and expose positive body language. Smile, even if you are a bit nervous and if they seem nervous too- try and lighten the mood a bit. Usually if you are scared to approach someone you'll put it off and sometimes if they arent very confident its also a tad difficult to hold a conversation (no offense or anything- im not the most confident person in the world.. You should have seen me today during our public speaking assessment. ugh. ~.~)

Sorry I cant give much advice, the only other thing I could say is dont try and over-analyse everything. Try not to be overly negative about variables. I used to be scared and paranoid when walking past others but I have the tendency to not let it bother me. If they stare at you, so what? If they ignore you, then they arent worth knowing the real you.. (or they are also quite scared of other people.. o.o)
Confidence is key!

[alicegingle]

Confidence is very important.

[bena3217]

well i was a very confident guy! but then everything went backwards for me! and now i cant look at myself in the mirror...but when my GF left me today i felt like i have to do this...jusy because i cant stick to one girl for my whole life

[Mrs. Mustache]

The thing is. . . Girls feel the same way. They ignore you (or seem to be) because they dont like anyone knowing their crush. Theres a guy at lunch who gives me candy everyday and we are really good friends. Everyone thinks he and I are madly in love. I liked him so that kinda made me mad. So to this day we still goof off together but we ignore each other too. Its just how we work.