How to deal with losing somebody?

[Ashley82611]

I lost my dad 3 months ago, and I can't seem to stop thinking about the regrets and how much I miss him. :( He was really sick and had a lot of health problems, he just couldn't handle it anymore and committed suicide. I can't stop thinking, and when I go to his grave I just get overwhelmed because I can't believe my dad is down there. Iknow he isn't, hes in heaven, but his body is down there and I can't seem to deal with that. I'm having such a hard time and I know somebody out there is dealing with something similar. I just want some advice on what would help me move past this and not be SO sad and upset everytime I see a picture or think about him. :confused:

[LittleMiss]

All I can really suggest is try and think of and embrace all the good times. Dont dwell on the sad and the fact that hes gone. Just relieve the good moments you had together.

Im not sure if you have this belief or not but.. I do have the tendency to believe that wherever they are- they are keeping an eye out on you and still want you to live well and have a good life.. So if you feel bad just think.. Im gonna have a brilliant life and make my dad so proud of me..

..Hope this helps.. Sorry if it doesnt.. xx

[FullyAlive]

As cliche as it is, time. I lost my uncle 14 months ago, but he was close to me like my dad.

It doesn't hurt less, but as time goes on you learn to cope, try to find something that makes you feel connected to him that's what I was advised when I lost my uncle, I use music. I have albums he listened to that i've been given and the week before he died he wanted to buy me a specific cd. I went out and bought it myself, and I use certain artists and albums to feel close to him. I also use stock car racing, just to feel a part of him with me. Is there something like that you shared with your dad?

I know it also helps me to visit him at the crematorium, I know you said you get overwhelmed but could you try again, I like to talk to my uncle and I write him letters to keep him involved in my life. Could you try something like that?

None of this will make you feel any less sad, but it's a way for you to feel close to him maybe, and in that way could help you move on. However its only been three weeks, and that is nothing. Don't put yourself under pressure to move on quickly, grieving is a long process and it'll be a long while before you can ever say you've moved on. Not in that you've forgotten him, just that you're at peace as such.

I'm not sure if any of this helps, but feel free to contact me of you want to talk. :hug:

[Mutibann]

Well, my dad died 11 months ago and what helps me is to listen to the music he liked. He loved Billy Joel so I listened to a few of his songs and it made me smile. Might not work for everybody, but it literally saved my life.

[Jmann]

I lost my dad though suicide too. I had to go through therapy for a bit and try to come up with a coping strategy that I never found. It took an emotional while before I just moved on. It's a bit over two years now but I got over it. It's just that time will heal over the scars and you can move on. It's really hard but it happened for me and it can happen for you. If you need any help please PM me cause I can help you. Music really helps too. If you don't already, try playing an instrument or talking to someone about it. The worst thing you can do it keep everything inside and let it eat you up. That's what I did and I rebounded hard with depression that I am still trying to get over even though I moved on