How to tell people.

[dark_soul777]

I haven't cut for almost a week. Last time I cut deeper and more than last time and I know Its only a matter of time before I cut again.
So I know I really need to tell someone about my cutting and my suicidal thoughts, but I just don't know how.
I have pretty bad social anxiety so I have problems with just talking about normal stuff let-alone stuff like this.
If I tell someone, it will probably be my parents, my therapist (I really don't like her but shes the only one in my town), or the one friend that I am even remotely honest with. She doesn't know I cut but I've hinted at it.

So, does anyone have any ideas on how to tell people about this/any of their own experiences they'd like to share?

[Slizer3]

:wub::wub::wub::wub:Never give up. I think you should tell your parents right away and never cut again. IT GETS BETTER!!! ALWAYS!!! be optimistic!

[FullyAlive]

Well I would say maybe just show someone? However this might not be a good idea, I know how private I am about my cuts etc. so you might want a different way.

You could write a letter or an email, doesn't have to be long, it might only say something simple. Although make sure you put an unworrying statement at the end.

If you think you can handle it however and want to do it verbally that's fine too, you could pick an evening just to sit your parents down, and explain you need to have a serious conversation with them.

[Charleigh]

You should tell your parents how you feel comfortable. I just text my mum or I just say it to her face, but different people deal with it differently. You could write it down on a peice of paper and leave it where your parents will see it, or you could talk to them face to face.

Personally, trying to hint to them is one of the worst, because that leaves alot of questions unanswered and then they want some answers and they start asking and snooping around. Try to keep yourself strong hun, even if you dont tell your parents you could tell a friend and get them to help you out?
Never loose hope.

PM me if you need anything.

[emmettman]

if your close with your friend (meaning your friend is like your brother) i'd tell him. If he's not, then I think you should tell your parents.

[dark_soul777]

I just don't know if I could put them through it at the moment, they've got a lot to deal with atm without this as well. That and I know they'd get really angry at me. I just don't think I could put them through it.
I really can't trust my therapist, and even if I could, she'd have to tell them anyway cause I'm hurting myself.
I could maybe tell my friend, she wouldn't tell anyone, but I know she has a lot of problems of her own at the moment to, and I don't want her to have to deal with mine as well.
My point, I just don't know. I know I can't keep this up much longer, but I just don't know what to do :(

[beebs]

Ive only ever told close friends and everytime they wernt angry, and some asked some questions but they were not angry or mad at me.

I find it easier to tell a friend by typing it on my phone, and then showing them. Thats a good way, its hard to just come out and say it. But some times people need to know so they can help.

[Shau-Shau]

tell it to someone you trust. someone your comfortable with, it doesnt have to be family or your parents. im sure that your friends would understand. but if your not yet ready to tell anyone that you've been cutting, maybe you should just talk to someone about the REASON for your cutting. i have a friend who has been doing the same thing, so, i kind of know what you're going through. just remember that it may seem hard at times, but it will get better. it always does. hang in there. :)

[dark_soul777]

Okay, I'm in a good mood for once so I'm just going to write down what I think I should do now so that I can look at it when the mood passes (pessimistic, I know).....

I've told my parents that my therapist isn't helping. There is one more in the town I could go to. I suggested to mum that I just go to the doctor as they could give suggestions on what to do/who to see. The real reason for this is that I feel I would have the courage to answer "yes" to the self harm/suicide questions. Even if it means my parents being told.
I might tell my friend although I'd rather not because I care about her to much to put this on top of all her other problems.

So, now I have a record of my thoughts for later on...... If anyone has any help/suggestions I would love to hear them.