my boyfriend

[katie14]

hi, im katie and im 14.
My boyfriend is 16 and we are planning to have our first sexual experience.
I have tried oral with him but im scared to go all the way because im afraid his penis is too big for me and will hurt :(

Please can i have any advise.

Thanks xx

[TheMatrix]

Intros :arrow: General Puberty

[Clawhammer]

If you're uncertain about anything, just don't do it.

[Smith98]

Use lube and go slow or, if it's really not something you want to do, tell him so:)

[Raven287287n]

Just follow through with it and you will be okay but be truthful to him because if your not telling the truth then there is going to be a serious problem between you and him. Sincerely,raven287. ---Do NOT post email addresse!---

No because that is putting a lot of pressure on herself

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[Giles]

If it's bothering you that much then don't do it. If he's pressuring you then he isn't the person for you, or you need to tell him. Having sex when you're not ready is not a good thing to do at all.

[nick]

hi, im katie and im 14.
My boyfriend is 16 and we are planning to have our first sexual experience.
I have tried oral with him but im scared to go all the way because im afraid his penis is too big for me and will hurt :(

Please can i have any advise.

Thanks xx
Do you have any reason to suspect that he is above adult average size? If not then there is unlikely to be a problem.

Foreplay is crutial, don't let him rush things. If he cares for you he won't want to. Remember that you can talk. If something hurts, say so. Girls mature earlier than boys, there is no reason to assume he will be too big just because of the age difference.

[emmettman]

i think you should wait and not have sex until your older

[sztegosz]

be careful, and go slowly. that's all.

[Curoz]

You are only 14, in my opinion too young. Wait until at least 16, but its your choice, and you feel you are ready, (and when people say wait untill your ready, they don't mean ready to show love or commitment to your partner, that's only half of it, ask yourself if you are ready to deal with all the posible consequences, such as Pregnency and STD's)
As for it been to painful, if he goes slow and initially takes it easy on you, then it shouldnt be a problem.

[Kaius]

If you're uncertain about anything, just don't do it.

This all the way. You don't need to rush into anything like Nick said, if he really cares about you he'll take your fears into consideration and he'll let you make the decision.

i think you should wait and not have sex until your older

You are only 14, in my opinion too young. Wait until at least 16, but its your choice, and you feel you are ready, (and when people say wait untill your ready, they don't mean ready to show love or commitment to your partner, that's only half of it, ask yourself if you are ready to deal with all the posible consequences, such as Pregnency and STD's)
As for it been to painful, if he goes slow and initially takes it easy on you, then it shouldnt be a problem.

Shes not here to be judged on what age she does it.

There are things you can use to help ease it in, like Nick said its crucial that you don't just rush into sex straight away unless obviously its not required. Theres also lube you can use if you really are having that much trouble and most importantly take it slow. Its not a race and the more you rush the more you're likely to get hurt. Its going to hurt a certain amount the first time you have sex just remember that.

[BigG]

Katie it's alright i advise u since ur a virgin to just SLOWLY start with his finger than after u can work ur way with his penis and evevntually u'll be able to take the whole thing also u can use astroglide lube.

[rider15]

well if your not sre about it wait until you are completly sure, and if his 16 and your 14 isnt that against the law? it is in england ha :L

[Webster]

Just use lube and go slow wnd tell him if it yurts

[mrbigred]

Tell him u don't want to