Need some Advice on this breakup please

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OK! So I've been dating this girl for over a year now til we broke up three weeks ago... After the breakup she wanted too be " Friends with Romantic Interest " I asked her what the hell is that ?.. I asked a few friends of mines they said its FWB. So now in my mind I'm confused. Let me go back a few to what was said during the breakup -_-! She said to me that I was too nice, and she felt I needed to be with someone more family Oriented, and be there for me when I need them and that I was too romantic. Note: I thought and wonder to myself if she was even listening to any of the words she was spitting out because for one she has strong family values and she always been there for me..Any who, A few days later after she suggested the whole Friends with Interest she wanted to be just friends I Said " OK " . So we are at work one day and for a whole week we haven't talked to each other in awhile. Now we normally talk on Facebook, but I don't normally get on there alot or I'm to busy. So one day i got on and she deleted me off Facebook!! o_O..I've notice at times at work she has been around me alot, but hasn't spoken to me at all.So when I confronted her about the whole FB issue she got all defensive about it saying we since we don't talk to each other in person or on Facebook we might as well not be friends and that when we see each other at work we ignore each other... SO now I'm in a WOW state of mind..I said to her " there's been plenty of times we haven't spoken to each other and you didn't have a problem with it before til now!" So i just said to hell with it whatever!........ So two weeks later we been avoiding each other and completely not seeing or talking to each other what so ever. Last week, she came around and started being nosy and began checking on me in a avoiding matter. This has been going on for a weeks now!

My question to you guys and girls is what is her case what is it she wants....? I'm I missing something? She said I was her real first relationship....could that be the problem? What do you think ?


what kills me is she got this mean cold look about her, but she seems she wants to talk to me but keeps playing this game. I would talk to her, but she stated that she suggest we ignore each other from now on. So its like how the heck do I go about speaking to her ..?

Please help I'm confused about this girl !

What are your views on this girl and how should I handle this ?

[Bob_]

Well, I might as well begin by saying this much. What a bitch! No offense, though. She just seems very immiture and insensative to me. Also, rather selfish.. She over-reacted to the end of your relationship, probably because it was the first like it. The whole "friends with romantic interest" thing... Sounds like she was slowly trying to let go but struggling. Definately could've gone better, but could've gone much worse, as well.

Where you stand now... Don't put up with her b.s. and games. Hit her back (not literally) and do what she does. Just ignore her. If you're looking for anything left between you two, than you'll know if she cracks over time taking her own punishment. Personally, I would recommend just telling her to grow up, be more mature about the situation, and chill out, because her being a bitch doesn't solve anything, it will just create more problems. You don't need to worry about the whole facebook thing, though. As far as I've seen, more often than not, one person will unfriend the ex if the other doesn't first. It's just really immature. Just like she is.

Just trying my best to help, bro. =D
-Bob

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I say just let it go. You have better things to do with your life then chase around your exes.

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Thanks for the Responses btw... Also, I really have been doing some deep thinking alot as far as rather or not should I even borther going back to her. So i made up my mind as to i will give her two weeks tops and if she wants to confront me/



See the thing is I have tried to approach her, but she has given me the cold shoulder many many times Like for example she one time saw me coming and ran away and locked herself in a bathroom. Then she saw me coming again and turned her back on me and had no choice but to face me and gave me this cold stare like she didn't want to be bothered with me or see me at all.



She is 21 and I am 25 btw.

[Bob_]

She is 21 and I am 25 btw.

If this is true, you shouldn't be here... This is a forum meant for teens. Find friends IRL to talk to about it, we can't relate to being 25.