spw184
November 30th, 2011, 06:56 PM
Question, how should I tell my friend and major crush that I am gay? If you look at my thread history, you will see my previous post about this guy. I have come to the conclusion that he is not gay/bi. I am fine with that. However, he wants to be friends, and I do not know if he knows that im gay. What is my reason for telling him?
1. Im stressing out over him a LOT because he is doing straight guy things like hugging and joking about sexuality, and touching, and compairing, ass grabbing, ect. That I see as a glimmer of hope only to have my hopes crushed when I give myself a reality check. To give you an idea of the effects: Ive been going to bed at 7 and waking up at 6, thats almost 11 hours! I used to sleep only about like 7-8! Also I have been finding WHITE hairs, not grey or translucent but WHITE. Thats not healthy for a highschooler!!!!
2. I dont want to take advantage of him! I have been using his straightboy antics as a way to let off sexual steam, and its wrong!! Giving him a backrub because he just worked out and wants one, is fine. But getting sexual pleasure out of it without him knowing and consenting is wrong in my mind. I dont want him to not let me get off on him xD But I dont want him to be ignorant when I am doing so.
3. Im still unsure if he is LGBT, or at least curious. I hope so but I doubt it. Only one way to know!!
So, how do I come out to him gentley, but directly? Hints dont work, Ive tried SO MANY TIMES xS
Right now my plan is to talk to him in private IRL after school with my friend who knows im gay, to make sure I dont backout and keep talking if I cant.
Any suggestion?
1. Im stressing out over him a LOT because he is doing straight guy things like hugging and joking about sexuality, and touching, and compairing, ass grabbing, ect. That I see as a glimmer of hope only to have my hopes crushed when I give myself a reality check. To give you an idea of the effects: Ive been going to bed at 7 and waking up at 6, thats almost 11 hours! I used to sleep only about like 7-8! Also I have been finding WHITE hairs, not grey or translucent but WHITE. Thats not healthy for a highschooler!!!!
2. I dont want to take advantage of him! I have been using his straightboy antics as a way to let off sexual steam, and its wrong!! Giving him a backrub because he just worked out and wants one, is fine. But getting sexual pleasure out of it without him knowing and consenting is wrong in my mind. I dont want him to not let me get off on him xD But I dont want him to be ignorant when I am doing so.
3. Im still unsure if he is LGBT, or at least curious. I hope so but I doubt it. Only one way to know!!
So, how do I come out to him gentley, but directly? Hints dont work, Ive tried SO MANY TIMES xS
Right now my plan is to talk to him in private IRL after school with my friend who knows im gay, to make sure I dont backout and keep talking if I cant.
Any suggestion?