need HELP on friends

[Theonewhogotaway]

Im 17 tommorow and have been at college (im british) for 3 months, and in that time I have overcome some of my social anxiety and have become a more cheerful and sociable person. Although Im making some progress, im still depressed because it is going slow.
There is someone in my literature class i sit next to who i think I could be friend properly, but have been out of the social loop for about 4 years so im still trying to get into it, and would like some advice in how to befriend him.
Also, i did a volunteering scheme in the summer, and one of the people I met there sits in the libary during one of there free periods. I would like think that I could befriend them aswell, but they show polite indifference, as they "have all they want" from there social life, although Im trying to get the confidence to speak to him more often.
Please give me advice on how to deal with these situations, Iv decided I dont wont to be lonely anymore but even with my best efforts Im still struggiling :l

[botwa]

You can't make a person like you to be friends if he doesn't want to make new friends. Try to know better the first person you have written about, don't bargain for two of them at the same time.

[Rache. xx.]

Right this is gonna sound a little bit harsh. But I'm one of the most popular girls in my school year, I don't see how people can't be social. All you have to do is fit in with everyone else find some nice people talk to them and sit with them at lunch. It's not so hard. If your'e a guy talk to some "pretty" girls, other guys will admire you're confidence. If you're a girl talk to a cute guy, go for one with a girlfriend It's brave why not make a few enemies as well as friends. You need to keep it balanceddd.

[LittleMiss]

I actually find it quite difficult to be social in life- have done since a very young age. For some people I think its comes more naturally to but I think others analyse it more and worry too much about what other people think, if they are making a good impression, if they look alright, if they sound alright, etc. Some people find it very hard to fit in- especially those that are already not happy with themselves or have trouble elsewhere in life. They strive to be what is considered 'normal' when at the end of the day they should just be who they want to be and not worry what others think (obviously easier said than done in some instances).

I do agree with botwa; you cant make someone your friend if they do not want to be your friend. If you go at someone with impure intentions just because you want them to be your friend is a bit.. Mmh.. Just try and generally be more social, when you sit down in class just say a quick hello and smile their way or something (yes, initially this'll take a bit of confidence..) if someone needs help and you are aware of how to help them then ask politely.. If someone looks lost or upset ask if they are alright..

If geniunely you think you have a 'connection' with someone then just gradually see what their interests are, what their likes/dislikes are.. but at the end of the day- if they dont want to be your friend then you cant make them.. :s

Do they actually say they 'have all they want'? Or is that just what you've assumed via observation...? (Just wondering.)