So Confused

[hallo]

Really lost right now, I'm a bit curious and i know im not gay so i though i should just put that out there. Lately the curiousness has been getting a bit confusing though. Im not sure what i should do or not do. I have one friend, that ive jerked off with, and seen his dick before. We do it basically every time we sleep over and i love it and he seems to like it too. Im not interesting in jerking off with anyone else or doing ANYTHING sexual with any other guys at all. Not attracted to this friend either. And i would never have sex with another guy. Im only attracted to girls and would have sex with them. So im pretty sure im straight.
Anyways, theres just a few things i could use some help on. I constantly have these thoughts about jerking off with my friend, but sometimes i want to take it further, and jerk each other off or suck each others dicks. Im not entirely sure if i should do this just because i get these thoughts and always want to act them out, but once i jerk off myself, they go away or i dont want to do them anymore. This only lasts for a little while though, then im back to wanting to do them. I think im just curious and maybe i should actually try this out with this one friend. Let me know what you think.
Also my friend isnt always clear on what he wants to do. Everytime we hangout hes always the one to start talking about sexual stuff, that brings us up to jerking off or watching porn, and he always want to, but he is always shy about me seeing his dick. And he doesnt always seem like he would want to take it any further but hes the one who always leads us to doing these things. Doesnt this make it seem like he would want to take it further, but maybe i have to take the initiative? again just let me know what you think.
-Thanks

[CoolGuyXD]

It sounds like to me he is courious like you. Just because you want to jerk another guy and stuff like that means your just courious. Your friend sounds the same way but he is just shy about it. Next time you jerk with him just ask him to try that stuff and he might just say yes. Make sure it dosent wreak your friendship.

[CarolinaDude]

I think I'm exactly like that. Like, you fantasize about friends/other guys but would never date/kiss/get into a secret or serious relationship with him? Yep, that's me. AND once you're done jacking it all suddenly goes away? Yep, that's still me. And you, too.

Honestly, I don't know what to think about our situation. The way I go about it is that I really don't care. Well, I DO care but I don't stress over it. My life's gonna end up some way or another and I'mma just go with the flow, ya know?? I'm pretty sure tons of other teen guys are like us, as well, trying to figure out what they're sexuality is and how they fit into the grand scheme of things. Your friend is probably like us, too. If you do ever decide to do anything sexual with him, make sure y'all are both comfortable about it and doing it not just to please the other (that's bad). And try, try, try to have no regrets. What's done is done.

Overall, I really don't have a concrete answer to help you. Or me, for that matter. Just find some way to think about your situation and find a solution that leaves you satisfied.

For me, I'm too focused on schoolwork and my dreams to become filthy, filthy-stinkin' rich. I've got little time to think about whether I'mma turn out gay, straight, or somewhere in between. Either way, I'm gonna be happy about it and move forward.

Sorry it was long, but I hope I helped!

[superstarB]

you guys might just be really curious only if you both agree on doing it so what you said "jerk each other off and suck each other" then that is you and your friend's agreement

[Psychintraining]

I agree with the OP. I feel the same way as you two. I get very fixated on homosexual fantasies: giving my friends blowjobs, them giving me blowjobs, jacking off with them, showering with them, etc. These fantasies are very powerful and make me think that while I'm jacking off I might really want to pursue them however, when I cum, I immediately dismiss those fantasies, and can't identify with them at all anymore.

Furthermore, me and a friend of mine have actually gone further then just jacking off. We gave each other blowjobs. I thought this would decide for me how I felt about being with guys but it didn't. During the blowjob, which was a lot a lot of fun, I was into giving it and receiving it, the sensation was amazing, and I kept thinking how I didn't want it to end, but then immediately after he came, and then I came, I was almost repulsed with the idea, and nearly regretted doing it.

To answer your question more directly, I would take the initiative, and see how it goes from there. Let me know how things progress, feel free to PM me or post a visitor message.

[ImCoolBeans]

Moved to Teen Sexuality.

[hallo]

I agree with the OP. I feel the same way as you two. I get very fixated on homosexual fantasies: giving my friends blowjobs, them giving me blowjobs, jacking off with them, showering with them, etc. These fantasies are very powerful and make me think that while I'm jacking off I might really want to pursue them however, when I cum, I immediately dismiss those fantasies, and can't identify with them at all anymore.

Furthermore, me and a friend of mine have actually gone further then just jacking off. We gave each other blowjobs. I thought this would decide for me how I felt about being with guys but it didn't. During the blowjob, which was a lot a lot of fun, I was into giving it and receiving it, the sensation was amazing, and I kept thinking how I didn't want it to end, but then immediately after he came, and then I came, I was almost repulsed with the idea, and nearly regretted doing it.

To answer your question more directly, I would take the initiative, and see how it goes from there. Let me know how things progress, feel free to PM me or post a visitor message.

(wanted to pm this but i cant, i think its fine if its just in the thread though)
you commented on my thread about jerking off with one of my friends and i realized that you do or were literally thinking of that whole situation the same way as me. And now that i think of it, i havent had my first blowjob, and to be honest i dont want it to be with a guy. Im pretty positive im straigh and want a girl to do it for me, at least the first time. Let me know what you think about that. As for taking it further and just jerking each other off, what did you really think after you and your friend finished, and what was it after. Did you really regret it afterwards?

[matt257]

well, to me the main thing is about sex, if you dont want sex with a guy, im pretty sure you straight. Just relax and enjoy. :-)

[Blueturtle]

If your both happy then go ahead. He sounds as if he is up for experimenting further just take it slow don't force him into anything :)

[TheMightyBruce]

Ive never really done anything with a friend sexually...but I've always thought about it..Like you, I havent had any kind of sex with anyone either and I don't want it to be with a guy. The curiosity I'd say is normal and experimenting should be fine if both people consent and are comfortable with it. Just remember to be ready and be safe.

[meezyrmcrs4ever]

welli'm the same opinion as coolguyXD ,you should ask him,if he wants to do it or not.