'We're both too shy to even talk to each other face-to-face!' Please help

[PylinJ]

So I have been seeing this girl (not going out) for about 2 weeks now and we both really, really love each other. We are always together her friends and my friends and we hang out really well. But we never talk, we are both really nervous people in general and when she's nervous she gets very excited and constantly talks And when I'm really nervous I go the complete opposite and not say a word at all to this girl!

Its really weird though because we always chat to each other on MSN and Texting and we compliment each other but never talk when it comes face to face!

Although we are going into town just the two of us this Saturday so hopefully when were just alone like that we can have a real good time!

How do I get more confident and actually talk to the girl who I love and the girl who really likes me!

Thanks

[CoolGuyXD]

Talk to her the way you do when you txt and stuff. Compliment her in person and she will respond. It will easly start a conversation between you too. Hope this helps. Good luck =)

[Axe23]

This happened to me last year like we texted eachother a lot but at school we never talked to eachother and it was weird but if you love her then why would you let a little shyness keep you from being with just act like how you do when you guys chat:) hope this helped

[Bob_]

It happens surprisingly easily. Just hang around her, and it becomes natural.

[Giles]

Just spending more time with each other should get rid of some of the awkwardness and shy feelings that you both have, the more you get to know each other (in person, not via the internet) then the more you'll have to talk about and the less awkward it'll be.

[paradox]

I've been through the same thing, it took me a few months to get over it but it's not a problem any more.

One way to "be more confident" is to list the things that you're good at in your head. Then, at the end of the list, add "Confidence." Actually write the list out if it helps. If a negative thought pops into your head, ignore it, make it positive, etc.

If you manage to boost your internal confidence level, then that will in turn make you appear more confident to others, including your woman. Once she sees how confortable you appear when speaking to her face-to-face, she will also gain confidence and you guys should be able to talk on and on without a problem (be observant and look around for something to talk about if you run out of ideas).

A few more pointers:
1. Steady Eye Contact (don't "stare," just try to hold it for as long as necessary, look around to observe your surroundings a bit then go back to eye contact)
2. Smile (not a big fake grin like Sheldon from the Big Bang Theory, but just a nice normal friendly smile)... I know this one seems silly to have to remind yourself to smile but if you're having a bad day or something you need to remember to smile or else you're not gonna look confident, trust me @[email protected]
3. Just go with the flow and have a good time. If you stumble on a word or two it's not the end of the world, people make mistakes, don't worry about it and move on.

Also, keep in mind you've only been dating for 2 weeks so take a bit more time to get to know each otehr before you decide you are both incapable of talking!

I've been going out with a really awesome girl for about 10 months now and we both find it hard to make conversation sometimes simply because the school year is just so repetitive. You know what? It doesn't matter, we both enjoy each other's company and that's enough for the both of us. If you truly love each other, then that should be enough for you guys too ;)

PS- wow that was a lot of ranting @[email protected] hope it helps though!

[adogboy]

Just invite her out to a movie or go to a snack bar like McDonalds and get to know her - and her you over lunch. The meal breaks the ice and the conversation makes it easier to get things out of the way that's hangin in your mind. It's the best way - really! Be happy:)

[ProudConservative]

You'll know when it comes. I'm in the same place withy ex. Though we don't talk, and we broke up nearly a year ago, I still have feelings for her. I just freeze up, and I physically can't move towards her. It's been rough for me. She got a new bf, who turns out to be one of my friends, not good friend though. I'm also scared that if I do anything, I'll screw stuff up. Beyond that, we have the same circle of friends. I honestly don't know what to do with her. Also, this was posted a month ago, how is it going with her?

[DerBear]

Please don't bump old threads :locked: