I need guy help pleasey?

[x__onyx]

So, I told this guy I like that I like him.

I was over my friend's house and we were talking about how awkward it was between me and him. And she says "He's avoiding you because he likes you and is too shy to do anything about it."


Does that sound right?
Or no?

[Gumleaf]

i think its a possiblity. maybe you should be brave and ask him how he feels about you?

[x__onyx]

i think its a possiblity. maybe you should be brave and ask him how he feels about you?
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Thank you soo much.

[DestroyTheFuture]

it can go both ways.

if an ugly girl told me that she liked me, then id forget her like a fat kid on a diet.

but..

if she was hot, then id be on her like a fat kid on a cup cake


so think if your better looking than most of the girls in your grade, if you are, then you have a much better chance than if you aren't.


thats my honest opinion.

[x__onyx]

it can go both ways.

if an ugly girl told me that she liked me, then id forget her like a fat kid on a diet.

but..

if she was hot, then id be on her like a fat kid on a cup cake


so think if your better looking than most of the girls in your grade, if you are, then you have a much better chance than if you aren't.


thats my honest opinion.
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What if he's not as shallow as you are?

[x__onyx]

That's honestly what I was gonna ask.

If he likes you there's a good chance that he's nervous, so just find out the truth, it'll keep you from wondering.
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Ah, thank you.

[Whisper]

Hey onyx if you want to quote what a member says on the bottom right of there posts there like a button that says "Quote" just click that please


I dunno honestly guys arent as simple as people think
so from such a tiny bit of information i have no idea

he might like you and be scared
or he might just think of you as a friend and this has made it weird

its not something a stranger from the other side of the planet can tell really
i'm sorry

[DestroyTheFuture]

okay, lets settle this, and i will give you a pretty good answer to what he is thinking.

how old is he, and how old are you?

[x__onyx]

Hey onyx if you want to quote what a member says on the bottom right of there posts there like a button that says "Quote" just click that please


I dunno honestly guys arent as simple as people think
so from such a tiny bit of information i have no idea

he might like you and be scared
or he might just think of you as a friend and this has made it weird

its not something a stranger from the other side of the planet can tell really
i'm sorry
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I like quoting stuff like this better =D
And thanks.


okay, lets settle this, and i will give you a pretty good answer to what he is thinking.

how old is he, and how old are you?
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I am 14.
He is 14.

[Octo22]

Give it a shot, if things are already awkward you have nothing to lose :P

[x__onyx]

Give it a shot, if things are already awkward you have nothing to lose
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Seriously the best thing I have heard so far.
Thanks so much.

[Octo22]

No problem, I hope things workout for you :D

[DestroyTheFuture]

okay, lets settle this, and i will give you a pretty good answer to what he is thinking.

how old is he, and how old are you?
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I am 14.
He is 14.

In my honest opinion, he does not like you the same way you like him. and now, because you told him that you like him, he doesn't want to hurt your feelings because he thinks that he might be leading you on by talking to you.

My reasoning? simple

i was 14 once, all of my friends were 14 once, and mostly everyone that i know has been 14 once. If a girl that i thought of as a friend told me that sh liked me, id feel really weird and i wouldn't want to really talk to her, because I'd know that shed be thinking of me as a boyfriend, but i'm thinking of her as a girlfriend.

and secondly, just because i care about looks doesn't make me shallow. a person is ffoolish if they don't care about looks. in ANY and EVERY dating relationship, there needs to be a healthy mental, physical, emotional, and sexual relationship. if theres is a poor type of relationship, then the overall relationship wont be a good one and will end poorly.

[x__onyx]

In my honest opinion, he does not like you the same way you like him. and now, because you told him that you like him, he doesn't want to hurt your feelings because he thinks that he might be leading you on by talking to you.

My reasoning? simple

i was 14 once, all of my friends were 14 once, and mostly everyone that i know has been 14 once. If a girl that i thought of as a friend told me that sh liked me, id feel really weird and i wouldn't want to really talk to her, because I'd know that shed be thinking of me as a boyfriend, but i'm thinking of her as a girlfriend.

and secondly, just because i care about looks doesn't make me shallow. a person is ffoolish if they don't care about looks. in ANY and EVERY dating relationship, there needs to be a healthy mental, physical, emotional, and sexual relationship. if theres is a poor type of relationship, then the overall relationship wont be a good one and will end poorly.
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What I find interesting is...you act like you know everything when you're, what?
15?
And talking to me wouldn't be leading me on.
It would be nice.
Saying 'Cheyeahh, I like you too. Let's date.'
Would be leading me on.
Get your facts straight before giving someone "advice"

[Octo22]

I disagree with DestroyTheFuture,

If he likes you and is shy, he might avoid.

If he doesn't like you, he'd probably confront you to get it over with.

[Antares]

i think that it is becuase he dosent want to be with you OR he likes you

[DestroyTheFuture]

guys who are 14 usually arent that immature to just be "shy" and not take the opportunity to go out with the girl that they like

[DestroyTheFuture]

In my honest opinion, he does not like you the same way you like him. and now, because you told him that you like him, he doesn't want to hurt your feelings because he thinks that he might be leading you on by talking to you.

My reasoning? simple

i was 14 once, all of my friends were 14 once, and mostly everyone that i know has been 14 once. If a girl that i thought of as a friend told me that she liked me, id feel really weird and i wouldn't want to really talk to her, because I'd know that shed be thinking of me as a boyfriend, but i'm thinking of her as a girlfriend.

and secondly, just because i care about looks doesn't make me shallow. a person is ffoolish if they don't care about looks. in ANY and EVERY dating relationship, there needs to be a healthy mental, physical, emotional, and sexual relationship. if theres is a poor type of relationship, then the overall relationship wont be a good one and will end poorly.
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What I find interesting is...you act like you know everything when you're, what?
15?
And talking to me wouldn't be leading me on.
It would be nice.
Saying 'Cheyeahh, I like you too. Let's date.'
Would be leading me on.
Get your facts straight before giving someone "advice"

Firstly, i know enough about relationships to be talking about them, and i know how a guy ACTUALLY FEELS, in fact, I'd say that i know more than you do about it.

notice how i underlined and bolded "thinks".

thats doesn't mean that he IS leading you on, but he might think that he is.

and from my experience, if a girl that i didn't want to be "relationshiply" connected to, then if i gave her any attention at all, then i would think that she thought that i was going out of my way and that i cared about her the same way, in which case, she might give her hopes up, and then in the long run, being led on.


lastly, don't be telling me that im giving you bad advice. i am a guy, i know how guys think. i am giving you a GREAT perspective of what he might and probably is thinking.

im not going to really compare it to this, but i think that you are in denial that he might not like you. its not about me telling you that, "he might not like you". its about m giving you advice that you should highly consider.

[Octo22]

Firstly, i know enough about relationships to be talking about them, and i know how a guy ACTUALLY FEELS, in fact, I'd say that i know more than you do about it. .

Like how you're an expert on homosexuals? :rolleyes:


lastly, don't be telling me that im giving you bad advice. i am a guy, i know how guys think. i am giving you a GREAT perspective of what he might and probably is thinking.

Do you ever NOT proclaim yourself an expert? GET OFF THE HIGH HORSE.

guys who are 14 usually arent that immature

WHAT?! Most guys at 14 are shy AS HELL. This could be the first girl to ever say "I like you" to him and he's freaked out and has no idea how to not mess it up. Stop saying you're an expert and then posting your OPINION. Experts use facts, I'm no expert.

[RowanVer.3.0]

It really all leads down to: Is he nice to you when you do speak? If he seems to be avoiding you (like walking away if you say "hi"), chances are he just doesn't like you, for whatever reason.

It's pretty ridiculous to think that if someone's avoiding you it's not because he doesn't want to be around you, it's because he's too shy. But, if he does talk to you, but he has horrible chemistry with you(like pauses by accident and just stares at you or something or says something dumb)it's possible he does like you but is kind of shy around you.

Anyway, good luck.

[x__onyx]

Firstly, i know enough about relationships to be talking about them, and i know how a guy ACTUALLY FEELS, in fact, I'd say that i know more than you do about it.

notice how i underlined and bolded "thinks".

thats doesn't mean that he IS leading you on, but he might think that he is.

and from my experience, if a girl that i didn't want to be "relationshiply" connected to, then if i gave her any attention at all, then i would think that she thought that i was going out of my way and that i cared about her the same way, in which case, she might give her hopes up, and then in the long run, being led on.


lastly, don't be telling me that im giving you bad advice. i am a guy, i know how guys think. i am giving you a GREAT perspective of what he might and probably is thinking.

im not going to really compare it to this, but i think that you are in denial that he might not like you. its not about me telling you that, "he might not like you". its about m giving you advice that you should highly consider.
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It's not about you being a guy, you're not EVERY guy.
You could be outspoken and worldly, while another guy could be shy and sweet.
Like my best friend.
He acts nothing like you.
And true, you know how guys think and feel, but you don't know how EVERY guy thinks and feels.
Just because you are like that doesn't mean every other guy in this world is.

[DestroyTheFuture]

why are you denying my responses?

are you afraid that it might be true?
are you too weak to handle what actually might be happening here?

im just wondering, because you keep denying my posts when i am giving you a good perspective and i am helping you. plus, you wanted our opinions, and now you are denying mine? i just dont see how you would be asking for other people's opinions, and then when i take valuable time out of my day to write a response, JUST to help you, you get mad at me.

[Octo22]

DTF, it's because you denied the existance of other possibilites.

Ex:

HE FEEL'S THIS WAY.

Whereas others said
"it could be this...or this, depends on the guy"