Maturity Levels

[shatter..]

I have noticed in teens and preteens that they will go things just to fit in. Like someone I know will agree with anyone on any topic. I don't understand why people want to do things just to fit in. Why don't they do things they themselves like? I think with my head and I don't care what anybody else thinks because why should they even stop to care? They should be focusing on their lives. Also a lot of teens I know aren't even mature! They walk around trying to look 'cool' all the time. I shouldn't even half to bring this up but unfortunately I have to. I'm 13 years old and I don't understand this at all. Your thoughts?

[Bath]

Also a lot of teens I know aren't even mature!

Because they're teens and haven't figured everything out yet.

[Genghis Khan]

It's not uncommon for teenagers to have varying views on things, I know it's taken me a while to form my own belief system and recognise what is in congruence with it and what is the anti-thesis of it.

Point being, these years are spent discovering and forming yourself.

[Amaryllis]

That's because human beings generally have an innate desire to be part of a group. They want to be part of an "us." It's how our ancestors survived. Imagine if you were an asshole to everyone thousands and thousands of years ago. Huhuh. You'd have to hunt your own boar or be hunted.

You know the age old saying about one stick being easily broken but a bundle of sticks is united and strong? Unless you're a huge tree trunk, you probably don't wanna stand alone.

Especially as kids, you're still doing what you've been nurtured to do. You're developing and becoming your own person. A lot of kids don't even understand these topics. If I were to talk about capital punishment amongst most of my friends, they would be like "Hurr durr wtf u talkin about, gurl? Wuts capital punishment? lol lol"

It takes some time to form your own opinions on things, maybe they already do, they just don't show it. It doesn't necessarily mean they're immature, even adults will agree to avoid conflict or just to be "part of the group."

[Levy]

Because if you conform to a group, you aren't alone anymore. It's a major fear in many to be alone; especially for teens, who are more emotionally unstable than others. Which can be discussed during a individuality vs conformity debate. "The Nail that Sticks Up will be hammered down." according to that quote, I imagine not many teens want to be that nail, so they conform and hope to be accepted in a group.

[xxbunkxx]

because no ones to be the person left out because down deep inside we all want to be that perfect person cute/handsom/athletic/smart/ its hard to be your self it takes practice

[shatter..]

I disagree, I'm myself all the time. It requires no practice whatsoever.

[Jean Poutine]

You're 13. Peer pressure hasn't screwed you up yet.

But it will. It always does to some degree, even to the best of us.

[StoppingTime]

I doubt that 100% of the time you are as mature as you can be.

Is anyone?

[shatter..]

Well no, but for some people it's a lot lower time.

[StoppingTime]

Well no, but for some people it's a lot lower time.

And yes, just wait for peer pressure. You'll find out soon enough that it will be hard to stick to everything you want to all the time.

[antiabort]

That is human nature, we all have done it, and probably still do it without realizing it.

[StoppingTime]

That is human nature, we all have done it, and probably still do it without realizing it.

If you were referring to what I said then I don't get what you're saying. I never said that it isn't ok to feel peer pressure.:rolleyes:

[antiabort]

If you were referring to what I said then I don't get what you're saying. I never said that it isn't ok to feel peer pressure.:rolleyes:

I'm saying that conforming is human nature.

[Efflorescence]

I have noticed in teens and preteens that they will go things just to fit in. Like someone I know will agree with anyone on any topic. I don't understand why people want to do things just to fit in. Why don't they do things they themselves like? I think with my head and I don't care what anybody else thinks because why should they even stop to care? They should be focusing on their lives. Also a lot of teens I know aren't even mature! They walk around trying to look 'cool' all the time. I shouldn't even half to bring this up but unfortunately I have to. I'm 13 years old and I don't understand this at all. Your thoughts?

Well, most adults say these things about teens and some teens themselves also think like this. However, in my life I have met teens that have been much more mature than the adults surrounding them.
They have been through things such as divorce, abuse, psychological problems and they have dealt with them impressively.
When my parents remind me of how irrational and immature we teens are, I just say the magic word: 'midlife crisis'.