Do you fit the stereotype?

[FullyAlive]

Basically its a common theory that having gone through certain things or behaving in certain ways puts people at hugher risk of self harm. And out of interest, I just wondered how many of us fit these categories.

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms

I have a teacher at school who just spoke to me about this the other day, and how in her opinion I fit quite a few. So yeah, do any of you?

[Bath]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms

Bolded the ones that apply to me.

[Amaryllis]

It's not a stereotype as much as it is a risk factor. A stereotype would be like: People who cut themselves wear black all the time and act like they hate everyone.

I'll put the ones that apply in bold and green and cross out the ones that don't.

-sexual abuse
-physical abuse
-mental abuse
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event
[-]-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking[/-]
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms
(Having friends who self-harm doesn't really effect me at all. I started hurting myself in kindergarten and I cut when I was 7-9, my friends only started last year. I'm trying my best to help them recover, though. ^_^)

[xDarkAngelx]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms

Those are the ones that apply. Questioning parental mental illness but I left it out.

[Kiss]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms

[Love.Hate]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness (not anymore)
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms

I dont really fit much of the stereotype, my psychologist is forever telling me how i dont fit "the usual" stereotype.. meh

[Megson]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms

I supposed I don't fit many of the categories. I HAD a friend who self-harmed. But I had done it before I found out. Still, I started it again recently, so... Not sure if she was a 'factor' in my relapse or not.

Also, I have ADD and maybe social anxiety... I counted it as mental illness, even though I normally don't. The anxiety hurts me a lot more than the ADD does.

[Magenta]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving (Used to be, therefore, italics, not bold.)
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use (Erm, there's sort of some details to this one but I'll pass.)
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms

[FuzzyLittleNightmare]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use ((if sleeping pills count?))
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms


Funny, I would have said my self harm was stupid and really I had no reason to do it but looking at this has made me realise I wasn't just being weak, I have been through a lot... thank you!

[Iris]

-abuse
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms

[alley]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms

[AlmostHomeless]

[-]-sexual abuse
-physical abuse
-mental abuse
-neglect
-low self esteem[/-]
-high achieving[-]
-traumatic event
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms[/-]

I feel like the odd one out. I don't do any drugs or smoke. Neither I nor my parents have been diagnosed with any mental illness. I don't have any friends who self harm. I am not abused in any way and my self-esteem is fine. I do make all A's in school so I guess that might count as high achieving. (I also qualified for MENSA, scoring in the 98th percentile on the admissions test.)

[love is louder]

none of the above!
at the beginning, i guess. there was parental substance abuse

[xXl0sth0peXx]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking ~ depends.. sometimes.
-mental illness ~ not officially diagnosed but my therapist wants to get me diagnosed...
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms

[AppealToReason]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harm

Sad.
Can't choose mental illness as I haven't seen anyone who can diagnose me yet.

[blaaaahblah]

I put x's next to the ones that apply(:

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental) (x)
-neglect
-low self esteem (x)
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one (x)
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse (x)
-having a friend who self harms (x)

[hideandseek]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms

~i find i cut mostly to ease the stress of school and life but recently i have been getting better and i dont do it as much as before mostly because a good friend found out and is helping me through it =)

[georgiamay]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental) (?)
-neglect (?)
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms

I bolded the ones I fit into. I put a question mark against the first 2 because I'm still not sure. For abuse, it would have been mental, but I'm still not even sure. For neglect, I'm also not sure.

[Hunter Lily]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms

[smithy94]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect. x
-low self esteem. x
-high achieving. x
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one. x
-high alcohol intake. x
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking. x
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms. x

[anonymous53]

Basically its a common theory that having gone through certain things or behaving in certain ways puts people at hugher risk of self harm. And out of interest, I just wondered how many of us fit these categories.

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms

I have a teacher at school who just spoke to me about this the other day, and how in her opinion I fit quite a few. So yeah, do any of you?

All but these.
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking

[Kaius]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one (Several)
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental abuse (Alcohol)
-having a friend who self harms

[RAWWR]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms

Bahaha. I was doomed from the start....

[princessjess]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms

[Blue63]

Ergh, I hate self-harm stereotypes. I'm a middle class only child that goes to a private school in the suburbs. No guyliner, no sexual abuse, no binge drinking. Everyone has their shit, some people deal with it differently. This isn't an attack on you, just an overall rant FYI.


-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms

[MyRedHeadWorld]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental){}
-neglect{x}
-low self esteem{x}
-high achieving{x}
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one{}
-high alcohol intake{}
-high drugs use{}
-high rate of smoking{}
-mental illness{x}...I think O_o
-parental mental illness{}
-parental substance abuse{}
-having a friend who self harms{x}

[Craig1995]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem x
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one x
-high alcohol intake x
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking x
-mental illness
-parental mental illness x
-parental substance abuse x
-having a friend who self harms x

I fit into alot of these :s

[dark_soul777]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental) X
-neglect X
-low self esteem X
-high achieving X
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness X
-parental mental illness X
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms

[Jonni]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms

[Syvelocin]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use (used to)
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse (I'm going to count this one because my aunt took care of me as a kid while my mum worked two jobs trying to support me, and she was a heavy alcoholic)
-having a friend who self harms

Mmm, typical.

[Camazot]

-abuse (sexual/mental) ONCE SEXUALLY AND 2-4 YEARS MENTALLY by own peers
-low self esteem ALMOST ALWAYS I HIDE BEHIND A SMILE
-high achieving VERY SMART TAKING CHEM AND BIO AND PRE CALC AS A SOPH

I DONT SELF HARM OFTEN BUT I THINK ABOUT IT ALL THE TIME AND I DONT DO IT BECAUSE MY MOM WOULD FLIP AND SEND ME TO A HOSPITAL

[beebs]

-abuse (sexual/physical/mental)
-neglect
-low self esteem
-high achieving
-traumatic event ie. Loss of a loved one
-high alcohol intake
-high drugs use
-high rate of smoking
-mental illness
-parental mental illness
-parental substance abuse
-having a friend who self harms

ones that are red apply to me <3