My best friends mom bashed/threatened me over facebook.

[MhWrestler152]

My best friend's mom hates my guts. I don't know why. There are reasons on why she hates me but they are really not my fault what so ever. On halloween me and her were trick or treating with some friends at school and we were just being stupid and goofy like usual. I turn to my friend who is at least 15 feet away from me and swing my bag of candy. Since the bag already had a whopping 2 pounds of candy in it (sarcasm) the handle of the bag broke (it was a plastic bag) and hit my friend in the head. She apparently got a concussion (which I still think is theoretically impossible.) It was a complete accident and I had no idea that it would happen. When I got off the bus her mom told me that she really did have a concussion. So I just acted as calm as possible. We talked for around 3 minutes about what the doctor said and I told her a story about when I got my concussion last year and how it was so much worse. And I guess that's what set her off. I went on Facebook when I got home and right when I logged on one of my friends told me to check my mom's Facebook status. I did. The status is erased now but she mentioned something about me having anger problems and how I act stupid because of the way I grew up. My mom was forced out of the house 7 years ago so I pretty much grew up without a mom. She knew about what happened too. And she used that against me. Since my mom left I did start to grow anger problems on top of my ADHD. That just set me off. I told my friend to tell her mom to remove it because I was just torn apart. That move was totally d*ck and uncalled for.

Now just a few hours ago, my friend posted pictures up on Facebook of me, the girl who put up the pictures, the girl that had the concussion which was gone by now, and another girl. It was just us being us. That's all. I knew my friend was just getting over a concussion so I avoided being stupid around her. The pictures were by all means not bad at all and the girl I gave a concussion to was literally in 4 out of the 25 pictures that were taken. And those 4 were just group pictures and stuff. Then once again, her b*tch mom commented on the photo album saying that if I lay another hand on her daughter or her son (who is like 11 who I hardly ever see anymore) she will tell my dad and call the police. Then she said that I needed guy friends and proclaimed that I do not have any. And even after that she said that I LIED to her face the day she talked to me on the bus. I went through the whole conversation in my head and I don't even know what shes talking about.

What really pisses me off is that she doesn't know my life. She doesn't know my story. She doesn't know what it's like to grow up without a mom and a dad who just worked all day. She doesn't know what it's like to live with ADHD. She didn't know she just bashed a kid who tried to commit suicide. Twice. I figured I would just let it pass just like every other bad situation that I'm in. But this time I'm gonna fight back. Please, any suggestions on how I should handle this? I'm open to all!

[CaptainObvious]

people can get concussions from incredibly minor things, you'd be surprised. i once saw a person get a concussion from a glancing blow that barely hit his head. the brain's a fragile thing, sometimes. so really, it was a bad move of you to question that and there's some grounds for her to not be happy about that.

but that doesn't justify any of what she has subsequently done. i am a big fan of meeting people head on when they're being stupid. personally, i'd say something along the lines of "while i apologize for probably making you angry earlier, you know that what happened to your daughter was an accident. you are now acting like a bitch and i am appalled by the idea that i would have to deal with such stupid drama from some <insert age here> year old woman on facebook. grow up, you're an adult."

the smartest idea, of course, is probably just to say nothing and let her shut up about it, which she eventually will. no need to further alienate this friend's mother if you plan on still being friends with her.

[MhWrestler152]

people can get concussions from incredibly minor things, you'd be surprised. i once saw a person get a concussion from a glancing blow that barely hit his head. the brain's a fragile thing, sometimes. so really, it was a bad move of you to question that and there's some grounds for her to not be happy about that.

but that doesn't justify any of what she has subsequently done. i am a big fan of meeting people head on when they're being stupid. personally, i'd say something along the lines of "while i apologize for probably making you angry earlier, you know that what happened to your daughter was an accident. you are now acting like a bitch and i am appalled by the idea that i would have to deal with such stupid drama from some <insert age here> year old woman on facebook. grow up, you're an adult."

the smartest idea, of course, is probably just to say nothing and let her shut up about it, which she eventually will. no need to further alienate this friend's mother if you plan on still being friends with her.

Thanks. This helped. I'll remember that for the next time I screw up and she yells at me.

[mrmooers]

you realize you could call the police on her mom for verbal abuse

[Giles]

you realize you could call the police on her mom for verbal abuse

I highly doubt that. It'd have to be classed as harassment and from what I see there is no harassment.

There's nothing much you can do really. Leaving her be is probably the best thing that you could do in this situation, let her bitch about you but don't give her the satisfaction of reacting. I'd also avoid telling her your 'sob story' (don't mean to offend) too, because she'd probably try and use that against you.

[xxbunkxx]

i have adhd and also grew up without a mom and a dad who is always working ;/ so just fight fire with fire and see what happends i wish my luck to you

[oceandude33a]

Yes i agree, people get concusions over very stupid things. im an ocean lifeguard and witnessed many concussions and some of the reasons are pretty funny any way, you should fight back. there is no excuse for a grow woman to be bashing/threating a kid on facebook. that is just horendous. maybe you can talk to your dad, and also talk to your best friend and be like why does your mom hate me, and have your best friend stick up for you, because i know best friends always have your back. any way good luck!

[Nancy Boy]

"Block" her and "Report" her to Facebook, and make sure your reasoning is that she was openly harassing or threatening you. As for everything else, for your safety, I would recommend contacting police..

[Roses_Are_Yellow]

I think this counts as cyber bullying. I'm not too sure though...

[SwimRunSleep]

I think this counts as cyber bullying. I'm not too sure though...

Harassment, it gets CRAZY. I had a girl stalk me, I blocked her...she add me with another account and stole pictures from a friend and started in again. Wow, that was weird. I only add people that I know are my legit friends xD

[Bob_]

This seems like it should be on Oprah... But really, find an adult to converse the situation with her. She won't listen to you by the sound of it. Some people are just drama queens their whole lives, and there's just no reasoning with them. Talk her daughter about how she is hurting you, and see if she can have her mother be more mature. I have no idea how someone is stuff to react in an odd situation like this, but I think this could help!

[OnlyOneChance]

She sounds so annoying, and it is probably not worth even caring about. Tell her that she is childish for posting stuff like that on Facebook, tell her that you will tell the police about the incident and that you would like the cyber bullying to stop.

[JoshD]

Tell her to fuck off... Actually. Just don't give a shit about what she says, and don't feel sorry for yourself either. Turn your swag on. ;)

[SeanM1997]

This is what I hate about modern day parents. They protect their kids by yelling at other kids, they don't even act like adults. So when they say to grow up, I just ignore it and mumble "You grow up." Now in your situation I would have talked to the girl you "hurt" and said "Your mom needs to stop commenting on my facebook profile and get a life." Then told her what she said. Then apologise for what happened. That's what I would have done.