Dad is drinking very much, I NEED ANSWER FAST

[Ureadmyusername]

So, my dad is drinker yeah. And he is a very good person, also my mom but she isn't drinker. So my dad wasn't drinking, he didn't even touch alcohol. But this months he started to drink again . Not like drinkin' very much like 24/7 lol. He was drunk before 2 weeks. And now again. I can't handle it. before 1 month my mom Got something like heart attack but it wasn't heart attack lol. My dad was drunk not very much but my mom is getting nervous because of it. I don't know why she is very nervous because of that. So my dad begin to afraid and we wen't to doctor. The doctor said she would die if she get that again. So my dad today is drunk and she don't want to come home. My mom will get home for about 2-3 hours so i am worried if she will get that again.
Also my dad when is drunk isn't saying stupid things, or hurting, or i don't know, he just come home talk with me about i don't know unknown things. And sit and watch TV. then sleeps. How can i solve this problem to make him don't drink? help me pls

But this months. He have a lot of works, he is making CNC machines, so for 4 days he need to make one or he will lost the 3000 euros he get for deposit from the buyers, he works a lot but he didn't get drunk like now at work, I am worried if he goes with car somewhere...But today i got out of control. When we were talking of phone i said everything to him that comes to my mind. He don't deserve it i think. I said fuck you go fuck yourself, motherfucker, Retard, Not normal everything. I know he has a lot of work but... When we talked why he is getting drunk about 2 years ago he said i got some problems on the job don't worry about it. He said I won't drink i promise you.


Answer me fast cuz i am worried about my mom
also tell me how to make mom not nervous about that... pls?
The funny thing is that he always ask me about school, helping me with homework. And he always say to me to don't drink or smoke ciggarets . He is smoking btw. And saying if i known some day you smoke you won't see me. Or If i know that you drunk i won't talk with you, until you apologize for that. And to say i wont drink again.I don't understand him
I am worried if he continue drink he might get alcohol poison or maybe some disease. Come on tell me how to make him stop.

[botwa]

oh I have the same problem, my dad is an alcoholic, he used to drink something (beer or whiskey) every day about 2 years ago and then he just stopped doing everything and just drunk all the time. mum and I figured out that it can't go on like this any more and we got him to the doctor. actually he felt so bad that he didn't drink for a year or so. then he went to the countryside to our country house alone and got drunk again. he also broke his arm and hurt his head and we got him to the doctor again and now he doesn't drink at all again.

so what I want to say is that if your dad doesn't realise that something can happen to your mum because of him then maybe something that could happen to him while he's drunk could influence him? the 1st the most important thing is his understanding that he needs to quit drinking. without that I doubt that you can help him.
you can get him to the doctor or put him in a special clinic but it costs much.

[Surferchic2362]

My friend, he deserved everything you said to him. You are part of a family. If one person fails, everyone is affected. Stand up to him like you did, but not verbaly. Take his liqour and trash it

[Kaius]

My friend, he deserved everything you said to him. You are part of a family. If one person fails, everyone is affected. Stand up to him like you did, but not verbaly. Take his liqour and trash it

Taking his alcohol and throwing it away/hiding it will not help the situation at all.

My mother is an alcoholic, she has been for a long time now. There isn't a day where she doesn't drink. As I've grown up through my teens we've tried everything including hiding her alcohol and all that achieved was angering her which is an extremely foolish thing to do when someone isn't in total control of their actions as it is.

Is there a point in the day where your father isn't drinking? Maybe try and sit him down and talk to him about it. Whenever my mother was drunk it was always me that got the abuse, mostly verbally. She never believed me when she was sober so I recorded it once and played it back to her when she was sober. At that time i was lucky, she broke down and swore to me she'd get help but it never happened and the drinking carried on. Now thats not to say it won't happen to you but you need your mother on board here although that may prove difficult, my father stopped having anything to do with it after the 2nd or 3rd time of her ignoring our pleas for her to get help but its worth a try, right?

The best thing to do is maybe talk to a doctor or something that can give your father the help. I know with kids talking to people about that sort of stuff its taboo, right? You're ashamed and you're scared if you do anything like that your father will hate you for it. But really, he may be angry or upset for a little while but once he gets some help he'll soon realize it was for not only for his own good but for the sake of your families as well.

Standing up to him may work at some points but depending on what and how much they're drinking its not always a good idea because like taking it away from them it may result in them turning abusive or something of equal severity. Is there anyone you can talk to about it, is your mother easy to talk to about it? If you need to talk I'm available at any time through PM or VM, just give us a shout yeah?

[iallen]

tell people set up an intervention

[Magenta]

Please don't bump threads older than two months. :locked: