A bit of an awkward story

[james wolf]

I think I am bi, and my whole life I have been teased by my friends and siblings about being gay. Even when I moved school at year 7 the new people tease me about being gay. No one knows/knew for sure that I am gay or not. I have not told anyone anything. For this reason I feel it would be really awkward to come out. Most of my friends would probably just laugh and say "I told you so." Another thing is when people asked me if im gay, I say no so telling them I am... And although they would accept it, they wouldn't like it. They would rather hang around a straight guy then a bi/gay guy, wouldn't they?

It's really unfair as well. Why can't it be a choice? Why can't I choose who I am attracted to? I just had this attraction to men shoved upon me and why should I be bullied about it? No offense but why would anyone want to be gay?

[BiBoy5674]

I'm unsure of my sexuality too :/ i think i might be bi :/ and all my friends think i'm gay but i'm not out as bi or anything and i get bullied sort of, mainly name calling just because how i am :( and i sort of agree because i don't not want to be bi but i think it would be easier to be straight :/ and i know for a fact i want to have kids and settle down with a women. and all i will say which i hope helps you is, that if you are gay or bi then there is nothing wrong with it you are who you are and you are still the same person wether you are straight, bi or gay if your 'friends' have a problem with it then they were never very good friends in the first place :) hope that helps :)

[SamB]

I know exactly how you both feel, life would be a whole lot easier if I were straight as well, but I just see it as one of those obstacles of life that we all have to over come. It is hard and I know that you will find it difficult but if your friends do disown you, which I am sure they won't, then they aren't proper friends anyway. Also if they already think that you are gay why would it change things?
I hope everything goes alright, if you ever need to talk just massage me and I will be happy to help.

[Short Circuit]

If they were your true friends, then they would not mind what your sexuality is.

If you want to have kids and wife when you are older, that would be living a lie IF you are gay, so why put yourself and them through it? You have to come to terms what your sexuality is, and live by it. You can still have kids later in life even if you are gay.

[BiBoy5674]

Thank Sam for your support tto the both of us :) and i will definately message if i feel like talking you see like a nice guy :)

[james wolf]

Another thing is that I fit a lot of stereotypes.

[nameless12]

heeey, don't get down by all the things people say about you, first of all, there's nothing wrong with being gay and liking other guys, its the same as a guy liking a girl but instead its 2 guys, nothing more nothing less. you can tell the friends you trust the most, they will accept you even if you are gay or bi and it dosent matter if they say "i told u so" just say "yea yea what ever" and keep being happy :), if you don't accept you then, as everyone else says, they aren't really your friends.

i used to have the same problem but then i just stopped fighting the idea i liked guys and i felt even more happy :) even now when i like a guy, the feeling of just when i see him is like wow... makes me really happy :D. so don't get down mate, if someone teases you just ignore them.

[Abigballofdust]

No offense but why would anyone want to be gay?
Nobody would, but you're stuck with what you are.

Also, if you feel like coming out, do it, but be sure it's gonna cost you some friendship, probably it's not even correct calling them friends, cos if they were friends they wouldn't deny you, but accept you as you are.

[Tonebone88]

I think I am bi, and my whole life I have been teased by my friends and siblings about being gay. Even when I moved school at year 7 the new people tease me about being gay. No one knows/knew for sure that I am gay or not. I have not told anyone anything. For this reason I feel it would be really awkward to come out. Most of my friends would probably just laugh and say "I told you so." Another thing is when people asked me if im gay, I say no so telling them I am... And although they would accept it, they wouldn't like it. They would rather hang around a straight guy then a bi/gay guy, wouldn't they?

It's really unfair as well. Why can't it be a choice? Why can't I choose who I am attracted to? I just had this attraction to men shoved upon me and why should I be bullied about it? No offense but why would anyone want to be gay?
Hey man! I know how you feel, and you're right. It does suck that you can't just stop being attracted to guys. I wish I could change my sexuality as well, but I realize that there's nothing I can do. I think once you start realizing that, you will accept it more. But until you do accept it, I don't think you should come out to anybody. Wait until you are ready to take such a big step. It took me like a year and a half from the moment I realized I was gay to come out to my parents. It took around 6 months for me to come out to my two best friends. If people are truly your friends, then they won't treat you any differently for being gay. I have one frined who has actually been very helpful. I can tell him all of the problems I have with being gay and he won't complain or anything. He just helps me get through and encourags me to keep a postive attitude. That's how I know he is a true friend. Because even though it is probably really awkward for him, he lets me talk about being gay and actually helps me with my problems. Maybe you'll get lucky like that too.

[juan]

Being gay is not something you choose :yawn:

[shadman]

No offense but why would anyone want to be gay?

I would, easier. You know what echother wants. But sadlly I'm 79% more into women and more emosionally conected to them. But guys are yummy too:wub:

[Ace_of_Spades]

I know it may seem like things would be better if you're straight, but you just have to accept that it will never happen. I know this is cliche to be saying, but really just try to be comfortable with who you are. I mean, you had no choice over the matter, and is it really that bad? The only reason you'd think it's negative is because other people have taught you to think that. So i guess my advice should be to ignore them, but that's easier said than done, as i know from experience, so what i do is make a joke out of it. So now all of my friends aren't offended by it at all and think it's just amusing and accept me for who i am.

[daking]

You don't need to come out until you feel comfortable, your friends will understand. Or if people ask you if your gay and you don't want to say, you can just reply "Why does it matter?".