Pressure to come out :(

[ZzKingz]

I am very pressured by others (who assume I'm gay lol) to come out these days. My friends are constantly telling me to "just admit it and I'll actually respect you more" and I don't know what to do. I suspect I might be gay but I'm not totally sure I want to release that information to the world just yet (I feel like it would practically ruin my chances of ever getting a girlfriend, and a lot of people aren't comfortable with homosexuality). Here's some background on my sexuality, just to clear things up:

I am physically attracted to men (especially cute hairy muscular ones without a six-pack -- ew). I watch gay porn and I am becoming increasingly aware of hot guys at my school and elsewhere. I am emotionally similar and attracted to women however. I feel like I connect with them a lot more than guys and I am sort of the "sassy gay friend" at my school. I can picture myself in a sexual relationship with a guy, but I can't imagine myself loving another man in a romantic way.

I feel like coming out as bisexual (so as not to close doors on myself) would have benefits and consequences. On the plus side, I'll be relieved to be out of the closet (although it's a very nice closet, I just installed a fire place), and I think no friend of mine would reject me per se. But on the down side, I think a lot of people would be uncomfortable around me, and I know I have a friend who is very opposed to homosexuality, you know, my one republican friend who is also a Christian. I also think I would be confirming the stereotypes and once you come out, you're out for good.

Fortunately, my school is very tolerant of homosexuality, and even more tolerant of bisexuals. But I don't think I'm bisexual. There is a GSA at my school. But I don't know if I'm ready.

[Hajara22]

if you dont think your ready they are your friends talk to one of them about it. maybe they can help. it sounds to me that you are bi if your are attracted to both however your the only one that can say for sure

[Oath]

Tell your friends that your sexuality is none of their business or their concern. Tell them that they should accept and respect you for who you are.

Regarding your sexuality, if you want or do not want to come out, that is totally up to you. You have your whole life to come out. You do it whenever you are ready. You should never feel pressured to come out.

You are currently learning more and more about your sexuality as you mature and grow. Maybe once you come more into terms with your sexuality, coming out could be easier.

[Sleepwalking]

Don't let them make you do anything you don't want/need to do.
It's your life, tell people when you're ready. It's none of your friend's concerns.

[Can'tHelpIt]

Same way for me but I started liking this guy and the feelings I have toward him is so much better than any other crush on a girl I've ever had

[SamB]

What I think would be best if you told your closest friend how you feel and ask them to lay off with the pressure as you don't actually know what your sexuality is at the moment. I think it could help, as for the friend, homophobics are sometimes gay themselves, not saying all are but a big reason that they act that way could be because they feel uncomfortable they way they are themselves and believe that they are wrong and it also makes people think that they are the least likely people to be gay. I say this from experience, when I was younger and extremely confused about my sexuality I put on a front of being homophobic so people wouldn't know, and I also felt that in a way it would stop me being gay. But I know it may seem difficult now it will all become clear, just give yourself time to think about it and if you need help just message me and I will be more than happy to help :)

[BiBoy5674]

yeah it sounds like your bi and don't let people push you to come out, come out when you are ready and only when you are ready :)

[ZzKingz]

I've never had a girlfriend and it's getting harder to come up with excuses :(

[Antagonist]

Okay. I came out two weeks ago (out of the bi closet) and people accept me. The majority of people at my school are either bi, or accepting. I dont think your bi or gay, because you dont have love attractions to dudes. Its horomones. And yeah Im the "sassy gay freind" too. I came out, and embraced those who accepted me, and shooed away the ones who didnt.

I hope this helped,
Noah.

[ThatScience]

I am very pressured by others (who assume I'm gay lol) to come out these days. My friends are constantly telling me to "just admit it and I'll actually respect you more" and I don't know what to do. I suspect I might be gay but I'm not totally sure I want to release that information to the world just yet (I feel like it would practically ruin my chances of ever getting a girlfriend, and a lot of people aren't comfortable with homosexuality). Here's some background on my sexuality, just to clear things up:

I am physically attracted to men (especially cute hairy muscular ones without a six-pack -- ew). I watch gay porn and I am becoming increasingly aware of hot guys at my school and elsewhere. I am emotionally similar and attracted to women however. I feel like I connect with them a lot more than guys and I am sort of the "sassy gay friend" at my school. I can picture myself in a sexual relationship with a guy, but I can't imagine myself loving another man in a romantic way.

I feel like coming out as bisexual (so as not to close doors on myself) would have benefits and consequences. On the plus side, I'll be relieved to be out of the closet (although it's a very nice closet, I just installed a fire place), and I think no friend of mine would reject me per se. But on the down side, I think a lot of people would be uncomfortable around me, and I know I have a friend who is very opposed to homosexuality, you know, my one republican friend who is also a Christian. I also think I would be confirming the stereotypes and once you come out, you're out for good.

Fortunately, my school is very tolerant of homosexuality, and even more tolerant of bisexuals. But I don't think I'm bisexual. There is a GSA at my school. But I don't know if I'm ready.

Omg! You're me! I came out to two friends as bi two days ago. I wish I hadn't. I'm not sure of my sexuality and I thought coming out would just be easier and clearer. I should've waited and I've had to back-track.
My advice: leave it and make sure you're 100% certain. Because, in this society, you can be straight for as long as you want but, once you're gay, you're gay forever.

[Thomas01]

I've never had a girlfriend and it's getting harder to come up with excuses :(

I don't like how many people I know are like "if you never had a gf, you are gay." I mean for me that's true, but I think that many guys have gfs just to be "in" and look cool. Which is sad cause some of the guys I know treat the girls like trash to look funny. But going to your overall question, just ask yourself who are you sexual attracted to. That gives you a better answer, but the people ^^^^ are right, you could also be curious. Just take your time and process things and ignore what people say. If you are, you are. But it's really none of their business. Good luck.