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Bob_
November 15th, 2011, 07:58 PM
**WARNING: HUGE WALL OF TEXT, BUT PLEASE READ**
I'll start off by asking the base question of all this. Who, if either, is the better choice for me?

Alright, I can't say I've ever had this problem before, which is why I'm asking y'all. So I'll call these two girls L and M, relevant to their names. L is a grade above me, but we're upperclassmen, so I don't see that being an issue. However, there's that whole, "when she starts college" feeling with that. But, she's the kind of person who wears black, white, and red most days. But if you know anyone like that, they're quite often happy, bubbly, cheery people. And she definately is, ALWAYS laughing, great sense of humour, and not a lot can stop her from being happy. She's the only thing that makes one of my classes tolerable.

Cons are that I don't really know what she does for fun, or how she stands on issues like smoking (weed and cigarettes), drinking, sex, and those kinds of things you're around daily in high school. She's not a crazy, outgoing, 'partypartyparty' type, like I quite often enjoy being outside of school. We don't listen to the same kind of music, but that wouldn't really be an issue. I'm pretty sure she likes someone, but I'm not sure at all who that is.


Now for M. She's a bit short, which I like. She's in my grade, less than a month older than me. She's just nice-looking, I can't really think of a better word for it. She's got a lot in common with me that L doesn't, such as sports and activities for fun(partypartyparty!). She's got a parent situation a lot like mine, where they're not good at being parents. She's more outgoing. She just decided not too long ago that after a long time liking a guy who kept playing her. She's a nice person, but can be emotional. She can be flirty, and this makes me wonder if she's always like that.

Cons of M... She's always in some sort of issue with drama, and I avoid that. She's the 'preppy-er' type, so it's more in public with her. She's got HUGE trust issues, and won't even trust herself. I talk to her once every few days, and I'm always trying to make her happier. She's a pessimist to the end (Which might as well be soon to a pessimist). I'm an optimist, and I just try to bring hapiness to everyone. She's like NEVER truely happy. I've been kind of friens with her for a while, but I never really got to be around her a lot.


I know it seems like I should go with L at first, but I didn't really know her well until this school year. Plus, there's just this thing with M, I can't even explain it.


THANK YOU if you managed to read that all. I wouldn't want to if I were you, but I needed to get the differences out there. =)

PandaLeah
November 16th, 2011, 03:27 PM
I would stay away from anything with Drama related to them. I would go with M, it's all about getting along.. and things in common.

Syvelocin
November 16th, 2011, 09:14 PM
Who do you want to be with?

That's it. None of this "better for me" bs. Who do you want to be with?

I've personally wasted too much of my time thinking about who's better for me and not enough time thinking about what I want. Because it's not who you should be with, but who you want to be with. I hate to use this reference, but I guess it would be the best received, in Twilight, obviously Jacob is the best choice for Bella. But she wants to be with Edward. So the obvious choice is Edward, of course she'd choose Edward. He makes her happier. Who is it that you want a relationship with? And choose her.

How you describe them though, I'd say M, but take what I've said just here into consideration.

Bob_
November 16th, 2011, 10:21 PM
Yeah, that reference makes no sense to me. =P But really, I understand what you're saying entirely. And I should be thinking like that in the first place... And even given your analyses, I'll take Rith's advice, and I think about hard times like today, and it was, and most of the time is, L that knows when something's wrong. But I'm still caught up on her liking someone. Naturally, I'm not that confident, but she's just fun to joke with. Ughh. I need to live how I tell people and just say something.

Oh, and Leah, I usually tend to go for people not quite like me. The whole "opposites attract" cliche seems to suit me, aha.

Upintheair
November 16th, 2011, 10:25 PM
I agree with Syvelocin. Ultimately, the person who makes you happier and who you want to be with is who you should go for. You have to realize that sometimes what might be "right" for you, isnt whats best for you. I would say to go off of the chemistry you have with them. Whoever you feel more connected to, is the winner. I would say go with M, but you should get to know her more before you make any big decisions

dark_soul777
November 16th, 2011, 10:34 PM
All I can say is follow you heart.

Bob_
November 18th, 2011, 11:27 PM
So, I've got an update... I've said that I know L likes someone... and now I'm thinking that someone is me. =) Today she gave me her # (which I didn't ask for) and told me to text her more. We have a lot more in common than I knew, and she's ALWAYS happy when she's talking to me. TBH, I think M is out of this situation entirely... She's just too dramatic for me, I believe. Haha, anyone getting what's going on in my life? Cuz I sure am not. =P

Eloise
November 19th, 2011, 06:22 AM
Always choose your second crush because if you have really fallen for the first one, you aint suppose to have a second crush. ;)