Mommie drinking problem

[TheUselessAndUnwantd]

well idk if this is the righ place for this but i have a problem, and its causing me great issues, my mother is a....bit of a drunk, its just me and her and when i come home most days shes drunk, and its quite depressing bec it causes huge fights and such, i just cant deal with it anymore, every day i live here is another day closer to me just up and leaving one day. i cant stand the constant fights and cleaning up her social messes she makes in her drunkin rage. im sick of the police and the people looking down on me bec my mothers a total failure. its a situation that just makes me want to pull my hair out all the time. i kinda live in the middle of nowhere so i cant really get away from it by leaving to go anywhere for a short amount of time. anyone have any feed back on my situation? any ideas on how to help? even someone to talk to from time to time :/

[Jupiter]

Hey, my mom was a drinker for about 10 years. She got a DUI in January and everything went upside down. I was in tears when I walked into school. I shoved my head in my locker before school and just cried. I don't like crying in public.

17 times. That's how many times I was asked why my mom was in jail. 28 times was I asked if she was there in the first place. She has been sober since. I don't mean this in a rude way, but maybe your mom will have something happen to her, and that she will realize that drinking can't solve anything. Have you ever talked to her about it?

[Jupiter]

we should deff talk some time :)

This guy isn't even real. He is a spammer. It's not a girl. Please ignore him. Answer my question.

Have you talked to your mom about getting help?

[Oath]

There are a few things that you can do. If you have any other family members, talk to them about this. It is always good to let an aunt or grandparent know about family issues. Even if you live in a different town or state. Have a deep conversation with her one evening. Understand what she is going through, and understand why she is using alcohol as a method to calm herself and relieve herself. Take it one step at a time. Listen to her side, and I'm sure she will listen to yours. Good luck, and keep us updated. :)

[TheUselessAndUnwantd]

This guy isn't even real. He is a spammer. It's not a girl. Please ignore him. Answer my question.

Have you talked to your mom about getting help?

haha that sucks, gotta love predators that take advantage of the already taken advantage of :/ and i have, shes so close minded that i just cant ever get through to her. she always says she free white and over 21 and she can do what she wants, even when i try and tell her how it makes me feel. i truly wish she would just put the bottle down, its not worth it really. iv been dealing with my moms drinking for 16 years and i just want it to stop. shes slowed down some but it just makes it that much depressing when she does bec it feels like all that time she was sober was wasted. idk if something will happen to her or not, i cant really say. but personally i sometimes hope it would so something might smarten her up.

[cory98]

maybe talk 2 her b4 shes drunk someday n tell her u will help her quit

[Surferchic2362]

You can't be nice. It's not her life and it's not about her until your grown. She lives for you. Do whatever it takes. Talk to your school councelor. If she doesn't stop, she could kill herself or someone else. There is no easy way to solve the problem. Talk to her. Take her keys, dump beer,liquor and man up. Let her know she haves to stop or else detox. I'm sorry and good luck.

[Jupiter]

haha that sucks, gotta love predators that take advantage of the already taken advantage of :/ and i have, shes so close minded that i just cant ever get through to her. she always says she free white and over 21 and she can do what she wants, even when i try and tell her how it makes me feel. i truly wish she would just put the bottle down, its not worth it really. iv been dealing with my moms drinking for 16 years and i just want it to stop. shes slowed down some but it just makes it that much depressing when she does bec it feels like all that time she was sober was wasted. idk if something will happen to her or not, i cant really say. but personally i sometimes hope it would so something might smarten her up.

Maybe one day she'll realize that you can only move forward as a family with her, if she stops the drinking. Good luck, man.

[Syvelocin]

I don't mean this in a rude way, but maybe your mom will have something happen to her, and that she will realize that drinking can't solve anything. Have you ever talked to her about it?

That's really all I can advise other than being proactive with your mother. I used to babysit this kid who's mother was an alcoholic. She's sober now, but that was after custody of her son was given to her ex-husband. My aunt is sober now too, but that's after my other aunt had an intervention with her and took over the duty of taking care of me while my mum was at work. Often that's what has to happen, they'll think there's nothing wrong until something happens to show them there's penalties to their substance abuse. Drug addicts are often the same way, I hate to say from experience.