Why bother?

[Megson]

I don't see too much of a purpose in coming out of the closet whilst in high school. Why should I subject myself to hate and homophobia by letting everyone know my sexual preferences?

Straight people don't have to come out as straight. Why should I have to come out as a lesbian or bisexual, or whatever I am?

Its high school. I probably won't even stay in touch with half of my friends, if any, after I graduate. So why make a big deal about coming out? Why does ANYONE make a big deal about coming out as a teenager?

I understand the concept of finding out who you are and accepting yourself, but why can't you accomplish that privately? Or just among close friends and family? Why should you have to tell the world all about who you are sexually/emotionally attracted to?

[Jupiter]

Because you don't want to live a secret life.

[Veon]

Because you don't want to live a secret life.

Ditto

It is because of our shitty society, that people don't accept gay/bi/lesbian people. And by accept, I mean the society hates, shuns, and dislikes the different people. The society scares people who are different, that is why there are teens who are in the closet because of what they are. They shouldn't be afraid. So its hard to come out because everyone expects everyone to be straight.

[Hajara22]

as long as your true to yourself does it matter??

[KrisKindle]

I don't know much about the coming out process, but I know what you are trying to say here. To be honest, you really don't have to tell everyone at school. They won't care and I'm sure you won't care what they think. Furthermore, don't let homophobes get to you because they will only feed off of your fear. The most important thing is telling your family and let them know who you really are. Your close friends/best friends should also be told. Especially if it's your best friend, you should be able to tell that person everything. I like how you look into the future, it's a smart idea. However, if you start trying to come out to people at a younger age, it might better prepare you for the future and how to handle homophobic slurs and all that jazz. - Peace - Kris P.

[Veon]

I don't know much about the coming out process, but I know what you are trying to say here. To be honest, you really don't have to tell everyone at school. They won't care and I'm sure you won't care what they think. Furthermore, don't let homophobes get to you because they will only feed off of your fear. The most important is thing is telling your family and let them know who you really are. Your close friends/best friends should also be told. Especially if it's your best friend, you should be able to tell that person everything. I like how you look into the future, it's a smart idea. However, if you start trying to come out to people at a younger age, it might better prepare you for the future and how to handle homophobic slurs and all that jazz. - Peace - Kris P.

Hes right, Lol

[canadaski]

Sometimes it's just better to let something off of your chest than to bottle your feelings up inside. 4 years is quite a long time to do that for.

[Megson]

Because you don't want to live a secret life.

I'm not saying THAT. Why can't you be out to yourself (and perhaps family and close friends) without having to come out to a bunch of ignorant teenagers? It does not mean you're hiding something.

They say it gets better after high school. Why suffer through it in the first place? Just wait til you graduate and then be as vocal as you wish.

Teenagers commit suicide all the time over homophobic bullying. Others suffer every day and live in fear of their tormentors. High school is not the most accepting environment, as we all know. I understand it is liberating to come out of the closet formany people, but is it all worth it?

[Sleepwalking]

I agree with you.
But you make it sound like theres a pressure on making people come out.
Some people want to be open about themselves, and not be hidden to the world, even if that includes some form of hatred when coming out.

[Jupiter]

I'm not saying THAT. Why can't you be out to yourself (and perhaps family and close friends) without having to come out to a bunch of ignorant teenagers? It does not mean you're hiding something.

They say it gets better after high school. Why suffer through it in the first place? Just wait til you graduate and then be as vocal as you wish.

Teenagers commit suicide all the time over homophobic bullying. Others suffer every day and live in fear of their tormentors. High school is not the most accepting environment, as we all know. I understand it is liberating to come out of the closet formany people, but is it all worth it?

Okay, sorry. I must have misread that.

People do it, because they are proud that they have found out their sexuality. They don't give a damn about people knowing about them being gay. Usually the people who are gay, came out on accident. Not on purpose. Ultimately, it is every individuals choice to come out or not.

[Koffing]

Just be yourself ;)
I should only come out if you really feel urge to do.

[isariche]

I don't see too much of a purpose in coming out of the closet whilst in high school. Why should I subject myself to hate and homophobia by letting everyone know my sexual preferences?

Straight people don't have to come out as straight. Why should I have to come out as a lesbian or bisexual, or whatever I am?

Its high school. I probably won't even stay in touch with half of my friends, if any, after I graduate. So why make a big deal about coming out? Why does ANYONE make a big deal about coming out as a teenager (http://www.studenteen.com/)?

I understand the concept of finding out who you are and accepting yourself, but why can't you accomplish that privately? Or just among close friends and family? Why should you have to tell the world all about who you are sexually/emotionally attracted to?

I'm not really smart for that but i think accepting yourself privately won't help you blossom as good a with a public accoplishment.

I hope your understand what I'm trying to say

[Sleepwalking]

I'm not really smart for that but i think accepting yourself privately won't help you blossom as good a with a public accoplishment.

I hope your understand what I'm trying to say

I do. Some people tell themselves they aren't because it'd be too much to cope with. Telling people can lift a load off of your chest, but you can't trust the maturity of others.