He wants me around but doesnt want a relationship

[Trickster]

Ok so me and this boy were together and it was really fun and sweet. But then he said it was weird (because im a guy and stuff) so we became friends with benefits. The thing is though he does alot of boyfriend things like does little hearts, lays in my lap and always wants me around. He says im his best friend. the one he can count on and he is in love me. Now when we discussed this situation we had we agreed that we have all the guidelines of a relationship but when i said it was like an open relationship he said he doesnt want me sleeping with anybody else. Not forcing me but he said he didnt really want that. So my question is...what should i do? (Oh please move this topic if neccessary, i thought it was more relationship than sexuality)

[Hajara22]

sounds like you have a relationship he is just denying it cause hemight not want the title of gay... its a burden to us all for being different... hope this helps...

[Bob_]

Agreed with above.

If not that, than I can relate to your situation. Other than it being a girl, we had a relationship where we'd be happy whenever we're around each other and we both said not to talk with anyone else. Ironically, that's how it ended, lol. But blah, blah, blah, and it was a lot like yours (for aover a year) so I'm guessing it'll be similar, in that he has a fear of commitment or risk of losing your friendship with the chance it wouldn't work out with you two. Sooo, honestly, confront him about it, man! If you want a relationship, find out what he really thinks, and from there move on accordingly.

Yeah, hoping that helps, for whatever the situation could possibly be.

[Bob_]

Ok so me and this boy were together and it was really fun and sweet. But then he said it was weird (because im a guy and stuff) so we became friends with benefits. The thing is though he does alot of boyfriend things like does little hearts, lays in my lap and always wants me around. He says im his best friend. the one he can count on and he is in love me. Now when we discussed this situation we had we agreed that we have all the guidelines of a relationship but when i said it was like an open relationship he said he doesnt want me sleeping with anybody else. Not forcing me but he said he didnt really want that. So my question is...what should i do? (Oh please move this topic if neccessary, i thought it was more relationship than sexuality)


sounds like you have a relationship he is just denying it cause hemight not want the title of gay... its a burden to us all for being different... hope this helps...

Or not even a girl... Pay attention, please. He is gay, and it's about his relationship with a guy. And there is plenty of emotion involved, not a lot of sexual activity.

[botwa]

ask him what it is.
if it's not an open relationship but he acts this way then maybe he wants to sleep with another guys. maybe he's so egoistic that he wants to be your only lover?
who knows?
the only way to know is to ask what is going on.

[Trickster]

Lol, I know that...the longest time I've last in a forum without getting banned is 2 1/2 days I think...actually 3 months cause I forgot about it.
It's not a troll, I'm expressing my first amendment right...
And now I'm using my fifth amendment
Thanks everybody who helped, it does make me think because there was sexual activity but it was more emotional than physical. and i do understand the 1st amendment but there really is no reason for you to bring hate into a forum when all i did was ask an honest question. If you didnt like my post/cant help with it, you coulda hit the back button and forgot all about it instead of putting time and energy into mine.