Coming out as bisexual

[canadaski]

I've always known deep down that I wasn't straight and I tried to deny it for so long, scared of what people will think. I've realized that I'm bisexual can't suppress it any longer. I want people to know, I'm in my last year of high school and feel that it's as good a time as any to do so.

It's past to the point where I won't deny it if someone asks, but only if they ask. I want people to know and I want to know the best way to do this. What do you think?

[ImCoolBeans]

Puberty For Boys -> Teen Sexuality

[HEN_iP]

It's your last year of high school, chances are, you won't see a majority of the people you graduate with in the future anyway.

Maybe start by telling your friends, like...ALL your friends, not just your closest and then that will spread and soon enough people will know. Good luck :)

[Unsolvedmind]

I know how you feel cause I am working on the same thing but I'm only Freshman xD well here's my advice just go out there tell them your Bisexual<3 and If they don't accept you for who you are just ignore them :D

[Fruit_Tart.]

If your confused about what you are right now then it's too soon for you to be labeling yourself an sexual orientation. You have till your very old to find out what you love (but you might want to find out sooner :P).

Being attracted to both sex is fine, just as long as your partner is okay with it as well. Lay out a plan for your future and think about where you see yourself and with whom. It doesn't matter what people think though so be gay or bi or straight, whatever you want.
Best of luck to you. :)

[Jon Doe 401]

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[canadaski]

Good for you! dont let anyone let you down. just know that you have your friends and family to support you. us here on VT are here to help and support you if your ever down. i know how you feel i went through the same thing earlier this year. :)

Well, I just updated the "interested in" detail on my facebook page. I know it's a small step but I think small steps are necessary. Hopefully someone notices:)

Edit: crap, couldn't keep it. Changed it back after a few hours due to stress. What do i do?

[SamB]

It's great that you feel like you are ready to come out, but if you have had that stress from changing your Facebook status then I would suggest that you aren't ready and you might want to just wait. and if you aren't even sure that you are bi then you really should wait. but if you need to talk about anything just message me :)

[Hajara22]

you got your whole life to figure that out. right now concentrate on family and friends that you have. i think your curious and not ready to come out from what i read...

[canadaski]

Thanks for the support everyone.

It's great that you feel like you are ready to come out, but if you have had that stress from changing your Facebook status then I would suggest that you aren't ready and you might want to just wait. and if you aren't even sure that you are bi then you really should wait. but if you need to talk about anything just message me :)

Thanks, I need to get my post count up before I can send private messages though.:)

[Jupiter]

That's awesome that you accepted yourself. Congrats.

Like said before, don't tell people unless you are 1000000% sure you are bi, okay?

[babolat96]

Like people before me have said, congratulations. I posted it on Facebook, but I don't know how comfortable you'd be with that. You could just keep going with what you're doing, and just telling people if they ask. But I would also advise telling close friends and family. That's just my advice, and you don't have to take it, but I hope it helped.

[canadaski]

Wow, I've been thinking non stop about this for the past few days. I think I may be gay. I've never really had feelings for girls except 1 or two 3+ years ago. Up until now I've had only male crushes as I remember.

I get this subconcious feeling as if I want to be gay, if that makes any sense. For the first time ever, I'm ignoring what my parents and family and friends etc will think about it. I just want to be me, and it seems as though that might be gay.

I don't want to come out as gay if I'm bisexual or vice versa.

One other thing, I've never experimented sexually with any male friends. Is it possible to label myself gay or bisexual given this fact?

If I do come out soon which I'm hoping is the case, I've been thinking about telling my guidance counselor(he is part of the GSA and raised a gay son). Would this be a good idea or a bad one? Out of everybody I know I think he's one of the one's I'd be most comfortable with telling. Does anybody have any other ideas?

[SamB]

Wow, I've been thinking non stop about this for the past few days. I think I may be gay. I've never really had feelings for girls except 1 or two 3+ years ago. Up until now I've had only male crushes as I remember.

I get this subconcious feeling as if I want to be gay, if that makes any sense. For the first time ever, I'm ignoring what my parents and family and friends etc will think about it. I just want to be me, and it seems as though that might be gay.

I don't want to come out as gay if I'm bisexual or vice versa.

One other thing, I've never experimented sexually with any male friends. Is it possible to label myself gay or bisexual given this fact?

If I do come out soon which I'm hoping is the case, I've been thinking about telling my guidance counselor(he is part of the GSA and raised a gay son). Would this be a good idea or a bad one? Out of everybody I know I think he's one of the one's I'd be most comfortable with telling. Does anybody have any other ideas?

That's great that you have managed to find yourself, no you don't have to of experimented with anyone to know that you are defiantly gay or not. I think that it sounds like a really go idea to tell your guidance counselor, if you feel comfortable doing so. One thing that I found helpful is having someone to talk to, in my case, my best friend. But you don't have to come out right away, do it when you feel its right to, I mean it took me over a year to tell my parents anything and I still haven't come out at school so don't worry you have plenty of time.

[BiBoy5674]

congratulations on finally knowing who you are :) i wish i knew :/