[Q] Love?

[phantomnull]

Is it possible to love a certain type of person, but not the person themself? I don't feel like I could love a person because I would know there's someone else out there that's exactly the same. So basically I love many people that I don't even know yet and have never met but I know that they exist out there somewhere. It's somewhat depressing because I feel like I'm depriving myself of a meaningful relationship by knowing that I'll find someone else at some point. Like everyone says, "there's plenty more fish in the sea", so why settle with one or the other?

[Gummi]

I was a little confused on this, but I think I know what you mean. How can you love someone if you know that there is always someone else thats similar. Maybe thats it, idk, but lately I've been thinking about this because I have a girlfriend, and I love her, but I know that at the age of 14 I won't have her forever and we're probably not going to get married, so what's the point of loving her if we're going to break up eventually and I'll love someone else? I think I get what you mean though.

[Riley6606]

Iol, don't u love these dumb love stories...and haven't u realize that love rarely ever works out. So I stopped dating because of 'love' dating is more of a game for society.

[phantomnull]

I was a little confused on this, but I think I know what you mean. How can you love someone if you know that there is always someone else thats similar. Maybe thats it, idk, but lately I've been thinking about this because I have a girlfriend, and I love her, but I know that at the age of 14 I won't have her forever and we're probably not going to get married, so what's the point of loving her if we're going to break up eventually and I'll love someone else? I think I get what you mean though.

Exactly. Thanks for your response.

[Abyssinian]

I don't know about this actually... there is more than one person for everyone, but the idea is that when you find someone who you can be truly happy with, you should hold on to them. Even if it doesn't work out, you will have had a good time and been happy throughout that relationship.

Having fallen so deeply in love with someone four years ago, I was going to marry him. I was so happy the three years being with him, but we broke up early this year. It made me sad, but I'll never regret the time I spent with him. We learned alot from each other, helped each other through some pretty rough stuff, and he will always be a big part of me now.

I still hope to find love like that again, perhaps even better than that! Who knows? =)


As for the idea of giving up because it's never worked out before... my typical response is, well duh. If you have a relationship now, obviously nothing worked out before that! Every relationship you are in that fails is just another step towards discovering the person that you're truly meant to be with.

Even though, as I said, there's more than one person in the world that is "made for you" so to speak, once you find one of those people, who feels the same about you, there is the possibility for a love that will last the rest of your lives.