Help Starting A New Relationship...

[Ambrosia]

I've had a lot of problems with past relationships, so when a new one is starting, I get really paranoid and depressed and freaked out. I really like this man, but I'm deeply afraid that this is going to turn out like all the other relationships I've been in. He's super sweet and we have just about everything in common (Something that is rare, never had this much in common with a male). I'm afraid he's going to stop speaking to me now, even though he is very firm on making me understand he likes me.

So, do any of you have any advice on what I should do to make myself feel more confident with this, and less scared? This fear makes me submissive, and I'm not like that by nature. Help?

[botwa]

I believe that some thoughts can be material so if you don't want this relationship to turn out to be an "old story" just let it develop in its own way.
if you like that man then just go on and have fun (don't mean anything sexual) spending time together with (maybe) a real soul mate.

Be confident just because he likes you, you don't have to pretend to be the person you're not and he likes you just the way you are. It's already great! It means you're a great person for him.

[Bob_]

This is sooo much like me, I was surprised to hear it from someone who's also telling people to be confident in situations such as these. So Winter, I'll be honest with you here: You're probably not going to get any more confident because we said you should. However, think about how you like him, and if you don't do anything, you're risking losing that chance. Carpe Diem- you know I love this phrase, but for a good reason. If you don't take risks and go out of your comfort zone, you'll gain nothing. And if he likes you, what's there to be afraid of? Also, you'll stop being really shy around him when you're around him more, you'll build confidence without even realizing it.

You just need to be you, and not worry about anything else. And this is realllyy cheesy but if need be, have a friend help you communicate with him.

Best of luck, Lexi. Hope this helps you!