Sort of undecided

[ImCoolBeans]

So I've recently started talking to this girl and I think I like her. I genuinely have feelings for her, I'm not just looking for a hookup or anything like that. We've been talking a lot lately and I've hung out with her once or twice; we get along great, have the same sense of humor and what not - it just feels right being around her and talking to her. But heres the catch, she has a boyfriend. But it doesn't stop her from talking to me like she wants to maybe go somewhere with this. Nothing has been said yet, this is just my feeling. But is it wrong that i really wish that they break up? What can/should I do about this?

[Hajara22]

bid your time. let her choose. be a friend first cause i good friendship is the perfect foundation to a relationship a lasting one anyway

[ImCoolBeans]

I've played that game. I'm not trying to become BFF's with her; that leads to the friend-zone. I just don't want to get too close of friends with her because then being more than friends will most likely be out of the question.

[Dimitri]

Okay here is what you do....You need to talk to her, tell her that you feel like she is sending you mixed messages and that you are uncomfortable with it. I had to with this before and she actually thought I was being mature about it and then thanked me. If she is sending you those messages then she will let you know. Hope I helped. Lemme know if you need anything.

[ImCoolBeans]

Okay here is what you do....You need to talk to her, tell her that you feel like she is sending you mixed messages and that you are uncomfortable with it. I had to with this before and she actually thought I was being mature about it and then thanked me. If she is sending you those messages then she will let you know. Hope I helped. Lemme know if you need anything.

I'll consider this, I want to hangout with her a little more and talk to her a little more before I say anything. Just to see how things play out. Thanks

[Bob_]

Mike, you know that it's a bad idea to do anything between her current bf and her. So, stay there for her, but not being too friendly. When(/if) they break up, be the guy there for her. She'll see you as being able to emotionally support her, and you'll be able to rebound, as weird as that seems. Just don't try too much or not do enough. Find a balance, and hold it until they're over. If you want to hang out with her, try to avoid her bf being there. If he is going to be there, look good. If she sees you as better than him, she'll want you. But with all this, don't look like a douche doing it. That'll end terribly.

Sooo, not much you can do than wait. I know it's bothered you, but that's how it has to be unti something happens.

One last tip; be flirty. You're allowed to flirt, and she'll like it. ;D

Good luck with your situation, man!

[ImCoolBeans]

Mike, you know that it's a bad idea to do anything between her current bf and her. So, stay there for her, but not being too friendly. When(/if) they break up, be the guy there for her. She'll see you as being able to emotionally support her, and you'll be able to rebound, as weird as that seems. Just don't try too much or not do enough. Find a balance, and hold it until they're over. If you want to hang out with her, try to avoid her bf being there. If he is going to be there, look good. If she sees you as better than him, she'll want you. But with all this, don't look like a douche doing it. That'll end terribly.

Sooo, not much you can do than wait. I know it's bothered you, but that's how it has to be unti something happens.

One last tip; be flirty. You're allowed to flirt, and she'll like it. ;D

Good luck with your situation, man!

Hm, well I made this thread to mainly see other peoples' opinions compared to my own. I don't plan on having her cheat on him with me, I don't roll like that. But I'd like to make her realize that I'm the better of the two. Which is what I intend on doing.

[Levy]

I view this as a dilemma with two choices. Either you can pour you heart out and tell her how exactly you feel, or go on with keeping your painful crush a secret. One way you can have everything off your chest and out in the open, and she will at least understand how you feel. The other, you can keep quiet and let things continue as they are, having the one you love close but yet so far away is quite painful. But if you tell her, there is a chance that it could work out negatively, so keeping quiet would ensure that you still remain close as friends. Keeping secrets sometimes hurts, though.

[BigDaddyHutch]

Well, I think if you think you have feelings for her, you should just wait. It's all you can do for now. Best of luck!

[Bob_]

Hm, well I made this thread to mainly see other peoples' opinions compared to my own. I don't plan on having her cheat on him with me, I don't roll like that. But I'd like to make her realize that I'm the better of the two. Which is what I intend on doing.

No no no nooo... That's not what I meant. I intended to mean that you should just look good, whereas her current guy wouldn't look inferior. Sounds mean, but really I'm just saying to be natural, and if you're like you believe, you'll look as such in her eyes. In fact, try to not mention him, you'll take her thoughts off of you when you're with him to him.

Kay, so, hope this clarifies. Lol.

[ImCoolBeans]

Well, I think if you think you have feelings for her, you should just wait. It's all you can do for now. Best of luck!

Lol I know I have feelings for her.

If you'd like to know how things are going, I've hungout with her two or three times since I first posted this and it's gone really well. She broke up with her boyfriend on sunday night and I was the first person she told. I got a text saying "I'm single, yay :)". I'm going to a party with her saturday night, I'm bringing her as my date. So we'll see how this plays out I guess