How to get rid of bullying do to sexual orientation?

[districtnowhere]

A rumor spread at my school from my schoolmate that i give blow jobs for 10€ and it's destroying my life at school how can i stop it?

I have no idea how they've found out that i'm bi..

[Amaryllis]

You have several options here:

1. Laugh along. Just make it so it becomes a funny joke. Say something like "yeah man. I so blow dicks. I'm free Mondays to Fridays. Except for public holidays. Call me." in a joking matter. When you laugh at yourself, it becomes less serious.

2. Ignore it. Kids will be kids. Rumours will die in time. Okay, the rumours about me making out with a buncha guys has been around since year 6. It isn't effecting me so drastically though, after I learned to ignore it. When they realize they can't get to you, they'll get bored or you'll learn to just brush it off. Continue with your life. Do what you always do.

3. Play dumb. Tell them you don't know what bullshit they're talking about. This works sometimes. They really have no proof. Unless you really do give blowjobs for 10.

4. Tell an adult. You'll probably be unwilling to do this and to be honest, I don't think this helps most of the time. I'd save this for if it gets really, really bad.

5. Suck it up. It seems impossible but it isn't. Don't let the shiz get to you. Well, it will, but not too much. Who cares what they think? They're immature. They'll grow up some day and highschool will be over. There will always be douchebags like these. You just need to learn to let go and not let it take over you and your life.

[Jimmy Page]

The best advice I can give you is try to ignore it and focus on the good things in you life

I still get bullied,rumors similar to that one gets spread about me ALOT(there was a period when there were 6-9 rumors every week),being called things and by getting beat up(had my left arm broken twice and my nose broken 3 times because of bullying) I try to ignore it and focus on the good things like my boyfriend,my best friend,my music and my writing.
Fuck bullies,they will grow up some time,and if they don't that's their problem when the real life catches up with them.

You know where to find me if you want to talk
Stay strong :)

[logan fields]

hi rok and i kinda know how you feel but nobody ever said i done stuff like that but they call me gay all the time and i dont know why either because i dont act sissy and stuff like that and im not even sure myself what i am yet so how would they know? some people here tell me to ignore it or laugh them off and they will go away but that is real hard to do because their just mean and i think that would make it worse but i hate that your going through that and i know how you are feeling. since im in the same place really i dont really have any advice but i just wanted to say your not alone and kids are mean everywhere. i wish i was bigger so i could punch their lights out.

[Thanatos]

i wish i was bigger so i could punch their lights out.


Punching lights out is NOT a good answer.

Anyways OP as for how they found out you're bi, they might not have. People, especially teenagers, don't NEED to know anything to spread rumors. They usually look for the weakest link. The kid who's a little different, nicer, quiet, a loner, any or all of the above. This is so they have no fear of anyone striking back at them.

As for what to do, the best thing is probably to laugh it off, or ignore it. Those are usually the two best solutions. Bullies want a reaction. They thrive on knowing that they got under your skin, if you don't show any reaction suddenly you become boring and they move onto the next poor target.

[xgames366]

listen im bi but i dont gibe bjs and if i did it would be worth more and any hater say u know what fuck u

[Thanatos]

any hater say u know what fuck u

Good luck with that and send me a card after you get decked.

[logan fields]

hey jay i think your answer was awesome and even though its way hard to just ignore freaks when there bullying me i never really understood why they did it but your answer helped me figure that out so thanks ok and i hope it helped the boy who started this post thing

[Plane And Simple]

I would just ingnore it, or try to get some jokes about it, i mean, not saying "yeah right, c'mon" but something elaborated, you know.

for me ignore it and it will pass, trust me, nothing lasts forever

[fatguystrangler]

Don't snitch, don't ignore them, don't pretend to "not give a fuck" beat the shit out of one of them. Then nobody will fuck with you. That's how it is at my school anyway.

[Jupiter]

listen im bi but i dont gibe bjs and if i did it would be worth more and any hater say u know what fuck u

Don't snitch, don't ignore them, don't pretend to "not give a fuck" beat the shit out of one of them. Then nobody will fuck with you. That's how it is at my school anyway.

Violence is not the answer!

Seriously, don't hit. Just go along with it. If you were straight, you'd have haters telling you that you are too short. Or your nose is big. Or something dumb like that. You will always haters. Don't sweat it man.

[fatguystrangler]

Violence is not the answer!

Seriously, don't hit. Just go along with it. If you were straight, you'd have haters telling you that you are too short. Or your nose is big. Or something dumb like that. You will always haters. Don't sweat it man.

Violence sometimes IS the answer. Nobody will take you seriously unless you do something to make them fuck off.

[Jupiter]

Violence sometimes IS the answer. Nobody will take you seriously unless you do something to make them fuck off.

No. This is wrong. Don't listen to him, Rok. You can just ignore this. You could be right by doing this, and then you could tell them to fuck off, and then get in trouble.

Take the road less traveled. The high road.

[fatguystrangler]

Sorry, I am just more of a violent person. If you'd rather solve your problems in other ways, good for you.

[Jupiter]

Sorry, I am just more of a violent person. If you'd rather solve your problems in other ways, good for you.

May I ask how many times you have actually gotten into a fight?

[StoppingTime]

Yea, violence will only get you i more trouble here. Don't take that advice.
As usual this:

You have several options here:

1. Laugh along. Just make it so it becomes a funny joke. Say something like "yeah man. I so blow dicks. I'm free Mondays to Fridays. Except for public holidays. Call me." in a joking matter. When you laugh at yourself, it becomes less serious.

2. Ignore it. Kids will be kids. Rumours will die in time. Okay, the rumours about me making out with a buncha guys has been around since year 6. It isn't effecting me so drastically though, after I learned to ignore it. When they realize they can't get to you, they'll get bored or you'll learn to just brush it off. Continue with your life. Do what you always do.

3. Play dumb. Tell them you don't know what bullshit they're talking about. This works sometimes. They really have no proof. Unless you really do give blowjobs for 10.

4. Tell an adult. You'll probably be unwilling to do this and to be honest, I don't think this helps most of the time. I'd save this for if it gets really, really bad.

5. Suck it up. It seems impossible but it isn't. Don't let the shiz get to you. Well, it will, but not too much. Who cares what they think? They're immature. They'll grow up some day and highschool will be over. There will always be douchebags like these. You just need to learn to let go and not let it take over you and your life.

sums it up because it was written by Z. Kids will be kids, they'll make jokes about others. Its how most of them are. It'll stop eventually.

[Slytherin_Prince]

I had similar problems at school when I stopped denying that I was gay at school, which in my case was at the age of 11, and what's worked for me is simply hanging in there. Eventually, people will just accept it, no matter how long it takes.
Shrug any offenses off, be indifferent about it, or confront them about it.
If nothing works, consult a teacher or a counselor within the school perimeter.

For example, a conversation when I was 11 with a classmate:

Douchebag: Hey fag! What's your problem? You checkin' me out?
Me: At the moment, you're my problem.
Douchebag: You're not denying it! haha!
Me: Maybe I'm not. Don't you have anything better to do?
Douchebag: What, don't you like this? *points at body*
Me: You might be right.
Douchebag: I know I'm right.
Me: Maybe.

In a nutshell, I know very well that it can be very difficult.
Just hang on, rely on those willing to help you and be there for you, and don't let them just walk right over you.
Also, don't be afraid to seek help. It doesn't make you pathetic, it makes you the better person.

Besides, most bullies who bully you about your sexuality are insecure/confused about their own sexuality themselves.

Most sincerely,
Robert.

[logan fields]

robert i think you are brave to stand up like that and you did alright but lots of kids get beat up for admitting they are gay and one kid on the news lst year got killed because other kids beat him up so bad and i just think thats very scary. idk if i am gay or not because it all confuses me real bad but if i ever find out i am i think i have to keep all that secrete because i think it would be bad around here. i dont mean here at vt i mean here at home and besides my parents would just die if me or my brother was ever gay.

[Slytherin_Prince]

robert i think you are brave to stand up like that and you did alright but lots of kids get beat up for admitting they are gay and one kid on the news lst year got killed because other kids beat him up so bad and i just think thats very scary. idk if i am gay or not because it all confuses me real bad but if i ever find out i am i think i have to keep all that secrete because i think it would be bad around here. i dont mean here at vt i mean here at home and besides my parents would just die if me or my brother was ever gay.

Logan,

Really, parents often love you more than you think. You're their son. They'll love you no matter who you love, I assure you. I understand that it's scary, but I never said it wasn't. I'm just saying that if you let it get to you, you'll break. Also, to avoid any conflict, seek professional (adult) help when you're bullied. That was, no such situation like the one you mentioned needs to happen.

Most sincerely,
Robert.

[Ureadmyusername]

I think that might help you, that helped me

In high school a lot of people called me gay, bullied me etc.. And i am not gay. One day when i went to school 2-3 boys tried to turn down my pants and see what I would do, i get very nervous and beat them all, there were more guys from school around me, they started to bleed lol, I am tall and strong, from then i started to do excersises for body building, drinking some proteins. And now i can beat up whichever i want

[Slytherin_Prince]

I think that might help you, that helped me

In high school a lot of people called me gay, bullied me etc.. And i am not gay. One day when i went to school 2-3 boys tried to turn down my pants and see what I would do, i get very nervous and beat them all, there were more guys from school around me, they started to bleed lol, I am tall and strong, from then i started to do excersises for body building, drinking some proteins. And now i can beat up whichever i want

Beating them up means lowering yourself to their level, or even worse.
You become what you're fighting in the first place.
Fighting is NOT the answer, nor is intimidation.
Well, not always, at least.
It's nice that you can beat up whoever you want, but in my book, that does not make you any better.

Most sincerely,
Robert.

[LGCALI]

The best advice I can give you is try to ignore it and focus on the good things in you life

I still get bullied,rumors similar to that one gets spread about me ALOT(there was a period when there were 6-9 rumors every week),being called things and by getting beat up(had my left arm broken twice and my nose broken 3 times because of bullying) I try to ignore it and focus on the good things like my boyfriend,my best friend,my music and my writing.
Fuck bullies,they will grow up some time,and if they don't that's their problem when the real life catches up with them.

You know where to find me if you want to talk
Stay strong :)

WOW!! I don't even know where to begin on this one. I guess I'll start with asking posters to "define their terms."

I see some folks here say they were called names or teased, and they define that as 'bullying.' Then others like, LOTV here, describe broken bones and other serious injuries, that are the result of BEATINGS, also as BULLYING!!

The first problem I have with this is that the majority of the recommendations for dealing with these two vastly different scenarios are essentially the same. I mean, I can see myself 'trying to go along', ' trying to ignore', even, 'making a joke ABOUT TEASING AND/ OR TAUNTING'... but how the heck is a kid supposed to ignore or joke about trips to an emergency room.

I realize that we must be realistic, and take into account the different environments and circumstances in which these incidents occur, but unless I recently woke up in a parallel universe, hitting someone and causing physical harm is ILLEGAL. It is not behavior that is tolerated in civilized society, yet you guys sound as if the fact that you are in a school/peer group/teen testosterone dominated environment, the same rules don't apply.

Now before I go any further ( I knew this was gonna be a book! Sorry) WE ADULTS HAVE LET YOU KIDS DOWN ON THIS BULLYING BULLSHIT. We have bombarded you with messages, in every conceivable form. Messages that say, "drugs are bad for you", "unprotected sex is potentially harmful", "watch out for child molesters", on and on. BUT WE'RE JUST RECENTLY STARTING TO SEND THE MESSAGE THAT BULLYING IS BULLSHIT AND SHOULD NOT BE CONDONED, OR TOLERATED. NOW WE'VE GOT TO DELIVER THE MESSAGE, LOUDLY AND CLEARLY, THAT YOU ARE NOT A "SNITCH" IF YOU TAKE STEPS TO PROTECT YOURSELF, OR SOMEONE ELSE FROM PHYSICAL HARM. And further, if there are negative consequences because you took every step necessary to protect yourself, or someone else, IE: you're being "called" a snitch or whatever...as long as no-one is putting a hand on you F**K EM. And if they are putting a hand on you because you did what was needed to protect yourself, or someone else, then we bring the wrath down on them just like we did on the bullies.

Taunting, teasing, even verbal intimidation are part of growing up, especially among boys. It's part of the "peeing on trees" phenomenon. Watch a couple of dogs playing in the park. If one pees on a tree, the other one will immediately stop whatever he's doing and go pee either on the same tree if he's confident, or somewhere else if he is less so. Picture a group of adolescent boys at school, the playground, almost anywhere. There will always be tests of strength. Pushing, punches to the arm, wrestling. There will be bragging AND LYING. There will be teasing. This is all part of finding a place in the "pack." Staking out territory. Am I comparing adolescent boys to a pack of animals? Yep. The "pack" in the animal kingdom is a "social" structure. Human beings are "social" beings. We don't function very well on our own. We have a need to belong and fit in. This is never more evident in a human male's life than when he's between the ages of about 11 to 20 or so.

BREAKING NOSES, AND / OR BONES, ATTACKS THAT RESULT IN ANY PHYSICAL INJURY OF ANY KIND ARE NOT, REPEAT NOT, A LEGITIMATE OR ACCEPTABLE PART OF TRYING TO FIND YOUR PLACE IN THE PACK. THAT IS ASSAULT (IN SOME STATES BATTERY) BOTTOM LINE...JAIL TIME. I mean if one if your parents broke one of your arms while beating you, they'd be hauled off to jail. But, somehow you, AND, your peer group are supposed to find some way to coexist with some kid who does the same thing. C'mon, Really?

Finally, (yes there is an end) you folks who are advising against violence to solve these problem are absolutely right (in my humble opinion) to a point. I'll put it this way, if I know I'm about to get my ass kicked, I'm planning on doing as much damage as possible. I'm going down, but SOMEBODY is going down with me. Its a matter of self preservation. If I bust one of these clowns upside the head with a History textbook, that's one less fool that beatin' my ass. I'm just sayin'.

I apologize for being 'preachy', but I just can't accept the notion that a child has to suffer humiliation and physical harm because "there's just nothing that can be done."

This is a terrific place, and I continue to be amazed at the care, and concern, and support on display all over this site.

Happy Holidays

Elgee

[libra210]

I think just ignore it, dont let it bug you, if you dont give in they will eventually stop

[imless]

Yes, all you need to do is to ignore it totally, if you mind that such humor, really it will bring a stressful effect to you.

[DerBear]

Please don't bump old threads :locked: