Is it any of my business?

[FuzzyLittleNightmare]

Well, I think my friends boyfriend is anorexic...There's loads of warning signs. He never eats more than one meal a day, if that; he wear overly baggy clothes; avoids the conversation if it turns to food or diets; if he does eat, he never finishes and if confronted actually says he cannot clear the plate; always chops his food really small and chews loads of times, just general stuff like that.
She doesn't really get anything to do with food. She's perfectly happy in her body and everything and is always forcing him to eat and having a go at him if he skips a meal. If he is anorexic, this really wont be helping him.

So, basically, I just want to ask what I should do. All his mates are all like macho for want of a better word so i doubt they will be helping him with it. I know what its like and would be able to offer some advice and just someone to turn to but I'm not sure if I should?
Also, should I tell her about what I think and advise her on how to act? I'm scared of her finding out about my ED (though I think she already assumes) but I think she needs to know and ease up a bit?

[StoppingTime]

Are you two good friends? Most people are very private about this, and don't generally want other people knowing about that.

[FuzzyLittleNightmare]

Are you two good friends? Most people are very private about this, and don't generally want other people knowing about that.

I've only known him a couple of months, but I'm good friends with her. I know its a bit personal but I at least think she should know how to act around something like that?

[StoppingTime]

If you gave her tips, do you think she'd follow them?

[Amaryllis]

2 things could be happening here. 1. You're over analysing and 2. You're right.

I'm easily panicky and I come to quick conclusions when it comes to EDs and compulsive overexercise. If somewhat does anything mildly ED-like, I magnify it in my head and make it look more serious than it actually is.

The best thing to do is to be gentle and to slowly break through his shell. Be caring, understanding and soft. Tell him you care. Don't force it out of him, give him a hug and tell him it'll be okay. Ask him about it and try your best to get him to open up. Let him talk about his feelings.

Be completely honest but beware of making this a competition to see who will be skinnier. It isn't worth it. You both need to help each other recover. Be soft. Be kind. It's hard to open up, as you probably already know. And all we really need is someone to stand by us. Let him let you in.

You have two ears and one mouth. Use them in proportion.

[SWMG]

Well by reading what you wrote it sounds as if something might be going on. So if you are close to her you might want to tell her something about it and see what she tells you back

[CJC95]

As someone has said you could be over analysing it, but as they say it's better safe than sorry. So I probably would say something, even if it's only to alert her to it so she can help him. Having someone there, especially someone that knows what it's like would be really helpful, so if he admits to it you could be a great help. He would have to admit to it though, if they can't help themselves, you can't help them either.

[botwa]

It sounds like you overreacted.
How can you know exactly how many meals she has a day. Chewing many times and cutting food very neatly is considered to be the way when it is digested in a better way. Baggy clothes is just very comfortable. I'm wearing it because of that for example.

so I think you should wait a little longer before making any decision