WTF... I don't get this

[Jordan1234]

I am in relationship yeah, she is 12 and I am 13, and she told me that her dad knows for me , and she don't want him to know, but he said to her that ''Only if i know something with that guy then we will see'' I got a little bit scared lol. I don't know how he knows and why he is angry... We didn't do something stupid lol. Only kissed -.-

[Ambrosia]

Because you are thirteen, and she is twelve. That's pretty much all there is to it. Nothing more can be explained, but I can drag it out I suppose.

Dating at such a young age used to be almost unheard of. You're much too young to be "dating" and "kissing", your minds haven’t yet fully grasped the entire concept. But it is understandable that you are, and that you want to. It’s human nature, especially these days. Her father is upset that his little girl, whom isn’t even a teenager yet, is starting to get “romantically involved” so soon. Every girl you date will have a father like this, no matter how old you get. It’s not proper of you to date the girl and not meet her parents, though, since you two have already gotten “intimate” along the lines of kissing. It doesn’t matter what you want, sadly, when it comes to this girls father. She is the only thing that matters to him, and if you care enough, you’ll meet him.

[Jordan1234]

Because you are thirteen, and she is twelve. That's pretty much all there is to it. Nothing more can be explained, but I can drag it out I suppose.

Dating at such a young age used to be almost unheard of. You're much too young to be "dating" and "kissing", your minds haven’t yet fully grasped the entire concept. But it is understandable that you are, and that you want to. It’s human nature, especially these days. Her father is upset that his little girl, whom isn’t even a teenager yet, is starting to get “romantically involved” so soon. Every girl you date will have a father like this, no matter how old you get. It’s not proper of you to date the girl and not meet her parents, though, since you two have already gotten “intimate” along the lines of kissing. It doesn’t matter what you want, sadly, when it comes to this girls father. She is the only thing that matters to him, and if you care enough, you’ll meet him.


yeah but lucky he don't know that we kissed or hugged, he only knows that she loves me

[Spook]

You're much too young to be "dating" and "kissing", your minds haven’t yet fully grasped the entire concept

Our minds "haven't fully grasped the concept?" We're "too young to be kissing?" Dude, I had my shirt o...nevermind. The POINT is- no matter how old you are, you know what love is. It's in your DNA. Age is a number, intelligence is a form of adaption. And even disgusts me to read that passage. That is what I hate most people saying. "Thirteen year olds are too young" Well maybe people at your age are too young as well, because they fuck up so many times with their "love lives." Point made.

Edit: And I just realized I told a moderator she was a fuck-up. Don't ban me D:

[Donkey]

no matter how old you are, you know what love is. It's in your DNA. Age is a number, intelligence is a form of adaption.

Love is not in your DNA. No feelings are defined in your DNA. You know how to react to feelings when you're older and your mind has developed more. Trust me, when you're older, older than me even, you'll think the same way - you'll have more life experience and you'll develop your views on what love really is after being in a few menial relationships. It sounds condescending, but it's a rite of passage.

To OP: Meet her father. Otherwise you will just get more grief. Don't shy out of it - he's a guy, you're a guy; make a good impression and have a good relationship with him if you really care about your girlfriend.

[Dimitri]

Jon is a damn Ninja....

I have to agree with Lexi here, no offense bud but in my eyes you are still too young to be dealing with something like this. Also coming from an older brother I can see why her dad is the way he is, he is afraid, he doesn't want to think his little girl is growing up. YOu are too young and yes, psychologically you are not ready to understand the concepts of love, too many people throw that word around so wholly-nilly these days and it makes me mad, I have been dating my girlfriend for almost 3months and I have yet to tell her "I Love You." She knows and I know that we both do not want to such things. YOu are thirteen and not ready.

The other thing is that her father is probably also on the same page as Lexi and myself, you are young and like we have said do not fully understand what love really is. I believe that if you take the time to look at this whole situation from his perspective then you might realize that he is upset about something, also hiding it just makes it worse, believe me, my sister has gotten into loads of trouble because she tried to hid a relationship from my parents.

Dude, wait till high school or even college, i tried not to date in high school and because of that I had excellent grades and now I can relax and date in college because it is less of a work load and both of use are going for the same thing, we help each other out studying and we both realize that our studies come first and then our relationship second, not to say that i do not treat her to a movie here and there or a nice picnic in the middle of the woods that we rode on horseback to get too but no, you are too young.

[oceandude33a]

i have 2 sisters. no dad wants to accept that fact that their duaghters are dating. because dads know what boys think at age 13, and they want to protect there daughters.

[Spook]

*sigh* Jon, I was being sarcastic. And 15-year olds, in YOUR guys' category, wouldn't exactly be mature enough to date either.

Anyhow, It's still offesive to say people my age "can't handle it."

And I stick with my "older peoplez are fuck-ups"

:)

[botwa]

I think it's perfectly normal that her dad is worried because he doesn't know what kind of boy you are. You may be interested only in sex and just use the girl (=HIS DAUGHTER) and leave her pregnant (just for example).
So you really should meet the father and let him know that you're a decent person who really likes his daughter and wants to protect her and not waste.

[Ambrosia]

Edit: And I just realized I told a moderator she was a fuck-up. Don't ban me D:
Doesn't matter if I'm a moderator or a member, you don't need to be calling anyone a fuck-up.
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Anyways, why get offended? It's very true. Love is learned, and at age 13/12, you only know love to a point. The girl isn't even a teenager yet. Life experiences bring maturity and, honestly, there's not much life experience there. It's not meant to be offensive, it's meant as a simple fact that's being thrown around. Plus, these days kids aren't nearly as mature as they were decades ago. I know that sounds horrible, and mean, and rude, but you should really go look at the statistical facts. 18 year olds aren't nearly as mature as they were decades ago, either. Neither are 21 year olds, or older. Being 12/13, and saying you love someone is a very big step. And since they probably haven't been dating very long, it shows a big lapse in maturity.

All in all, as stated before, he really should just do the mature thing and meet the dad. Because if were all sitting here arguing over whether or not they are mature enough to claim they are in love, then they should be mature enough to face the daddy.