Nick-
November 7th, 2011, 01:55 AM
Would you ever consider dating a friend. Or do you feel that there is a "friend zone".
The reason I ask is because I really like my best friend. She's been "hurt" twice already. The two last people she liked, she later found out they didn't like her. She was devastated because they sent a lot of mixed signals so she thought they could've had something. She was balling her eyes out. I felt so bad. She knows that I liked her, but she doesn't know that I still do. I told her that I'm happy with being friends but I haven't told her how much I want there to be something "more" between us. I apologize if it sounds like I'm bragging now but I'm always, ALWAYS, there for her. I can always make her laugh (more than anyone else can [I've been told that by some of her friends]).
I just want to know if there is a chance. She currently likes another person who I honestly think doesn't like her. I actually want it to work out between them though. If it doesn't then I don't think she can take it. She might have a total break down. I don't want to be seen as taking advantage of the situation but during the recovery time (after the break down but before she starts liking someone else) I want to let her know that I'm still into her, but more subtly. I doubt there is a chance she'll start liking me though. So I want to just ask her out. Even if she says no I'm hoping our friendship will stay the same. I'm just not sure.
So does anyone have an opinion on my situation or anything. I'm just so confused on what to do.
Also, I've never been in a relationship before, and she hasn't been in a meaningful relationship either. I consider myself to be very understanding but shy at the same time.
The reason I ask is because I really like my best friend. She's been "hurt" twice already. The two last people she liked, she later found out they didn't like her. She was devastated because they sent a lot of mixed signals so she thought they could've had something. She was balling her eyes out. I felt so bad. She knows that I liked her, but she doesn't know that I still do. I told her that I'm happy with being friends but I haven't told her how much I want there to be something "more" between us. I apologize if it sounds like I'm bragging now but I'm always, ALWAYS, there for her. I can always make her laugh (more than anyone else can [I've been told that by some of her friends]).
I just want to know if there is a chance. She currently likes another person who I honestly think doesn't like her. I actually want it to work out between them though. If it doesn't then I don't think she can take it. She might have a total break down. I don't want to be seen as taking advantage of the situation but during the recovery time (after the break down but before she starts liking someone else) I want to let her know that I'm still into her, but more subtly. I doubt there is a chance she'll start liking me though. So I want to just ask her out. Even if she says no I'm hoping our friendship will stay the same. I'm just not sure.
So does anyone have an opinion on my situation or anything. I'm just so confused on what to do.
Also, I've never been in a relationship before, and she hasn't been in a meaningful relationship either. I consider myself to be very understanding but shy at the same time.