How to stand up more for her?

[Gummi]

I was just told that by my girlfriend's friend that my girlfriend wants me to stand up for her more. She didn't want to tell me herself for some reason. I love her and would do anything for her, but I'm not a violent person or anything. I'm a naturally happy person, and I don't like hurting people (physically and emotionally) and I don't know what I can do because the reason she wants me to stand up for her more is because someone I know was making fun of her fingers (ya stupid I know, but she was annoyed and having a bad day) I can't explain why he was making fun of her fingers because I really don't know, her fingers are perfectally normal.

I don't know what I can do. I told him to stop after she left (didn't wanna make a big scene) and he said he will, but that's not really the problem anymore. In the future if something like that happens again I don't know what I should do. Should I tell him to stop right when he starts saying something? I really don't want to hit someone or whatever, but if I need to I will. Please help me out, and please don't laugh or call me stupid. I've only had a couple girlfriends before this and I haven't had to deal with this kind of stuff. Thanks :whoops:

[anonymous53]

If someone talks down on your girlfriend just say "That's my girlfriend. Stop talking about her, it's not cool"

[Scotland]

You dont have to cause a scene, but if someone is making fun of her, why note pipe up infront of her and tell them to stop. If you do it when shes gone then shes gonna think that youll just let people make fun of her while your there.

[mikeywrenn]

Well, if someone's picking on your girlfriend, just make your distaste apparent, with something like "Hey, that's a bit too far." or "Could you stop, please?" something small like that wont offend the other person, hopefully, and no big scene would be caused.

[VamosToro]

I find this hard too cuz im not the most imposing.

[jbs1125]

You ought to tell your girlfriend your not the sort of guy to start conflict but you'll chime in if you have to she should understand

[Ambrosia]

You ought to tell your girlfriend your not the sort of guy to start conflict but you'll chime in if you have to she should understand

She won't understand, because most girls want a guy who can protect her. That is nature, and we can't avoid nature.

Next time someone does something like that, and you can tell it's starting to bother her, just simply be nice and say "Hey man, I think her fingers are gorgeous, you're just jealous you don't get to hold them!" Try to make things like that into a joke, unless they start to take it too far.

It doesn't have to be a big scene, or even cruel. Just try to play it off until they really start to get mean!

[Gummi]

She won't understand, because most girls want a guy who can protect her. That is nature, and we can't avoid nature.

Next time someone does something like that, and you can tell it's starting to bother her, just simply be nice and say "Hey man, I think her fingers are gorgeous, you're just jealous you don't get to hold them!" Try to make things like that into a joke, unless they start to take it too far.

It doesn't have to be a big scene, or even cruel. Just try to play it off until they really start to get mean!

Thank you a lot, I kinda did that, but I didn't say such a clever thing I said something like "They are perfect and I love them" I'll try to say stuff like "I get to hold them you don't, jealous?" Thank you for your suggestions, and I would like to hear some more suggestions from some others.